I've been thinking about this lately. A close friend and bandmate of mine has been coming to me for advice on his girlfriend. I usually red pill him in what little ways I can. Before he met me and we started this band he hadn't been laid in years. So now for the first time in years he's getting some (albeit from a less than stellar looking broad).
They've only been dating for about 2 months, and he's already come to me twice to tell me about his misgivings. Both cases represented HUGE red flags and I told him as such. He even tried to dump her but caved the minute the waterworks and promises to "change" came out.
So here's my dilemma. It won't be long before he comes seeking advice from me again. I'm thinking I shouldn't give him any. After all he's displayed shocking levels of naivety and unwillingness to stand his ground, and frankly, act in his own best interest. What I'm trying to avoid is a situation where I'm telling him to drop her and she's tugging him the other way, leading to a stand off where I'm suddenly in a position where I'm a "barrier to his/her happiness" thus leading to resentments on both side and a hostile band environment.
Plus we know who's side he will be on in that case. Experience has taught me as much.
So what do, RVF?
They've only been dating for about 2 months, and he's already come to me twice to tell me about his misgivings. Both cases represented HUGE red flags and I told him as such. He even tried to dump her but caved the minute the waterworks and promises to "change" came out.
So here's my dilemma. It won't be long before he comes seeking advice from me again. I'm thinking I shouldn't give him any. After all he's displayed shocking levels of naivety and unwillingness to stand his ground, and frankly, act in his own best interest. What I'm trying to avoid is a situation where I'm telling him to drop her and she's tugging him the other way, leading to a stand off where I'm suddenly in a position where I'm a "barrier to his/her happiness" thus leading to resentments on both side and a hostile band environment.
Plus we know who's side he will be on in that case. Experience has taught me as much.
So what do, RVF?
"Does PUA say that I just need to get to f-close base first here and some weird chemicals will be released in her brain to make her a better person?"
-Wonitis