Money did them in.
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I was in my first junior role at a women's magazine and Matthew worked fitting tyres and exhausts, so our combined salaries of around £15,000 a year meant we struggled to make the mortgage payments. But we didn't care, telling ourselves that it wouldn't be long before we were earning more and able to afford weekly treats and a bigger home where we could bring up the babies we had planned.
But then, the housing market crashed and we were plunged into negative equity.
Struggling should have brought us closer together, and at first it did. But as time went on, and my magazine career - and salary - advanced, I started to resent Matthew as he drifted from one dead-end job to another.
Given that her family loved him, it should be safe to assume that he was intelligent and hardworking - not a layabout slacker. But the majority of the career world has become hell for men. Offices are regulated so as to be pleasing to the female employees, at the cost of male sanity. Trying to maintain a career is an uphill battle for men, while it's an easy slope for women. Aside from the few men who were lucky/smart enough to choose a good career path, most of us have been stuck walking into the wind.
This is bad for two reasons. First, because women want a man who will earn more than them - second, because men become deferential to somebody who earns more than them. We're plagued with guilt if we don't earn more than our woman, and we begin to treat her like the "Alpha" of the relationship. It becomes a double-whammy of role reversal, leading to sexual impotence.
Quote: (10-26-2016 11:48 AM)kaotic Wrote:
Matthew seemed like a decent bloke, however the dude lost his edge and frame.
Pretty clear he did whatever he wanted along with job choices - a career whore will fucking resent you for that, especially a successful one.
This bitch leaving him was the best thing that ever happened to him.
Thing is, he's a bitch for keeping her in his life and having her sabotage his relationships.
Blame of failure in life falls disproportionately on both of them.
Don't be so hard on him; life throws curve balls at you. Over the long term, you're going to lose frame from time to time. You'll get laid off, one of your parents will die, or maybe you'll just have a terrible day where the whole world decides to bend you over, and when you come home you're a sad sack with no energy left.
Another issue is women's emotiveness and irrationality. Our parents' generation of women were taught to be deferential to men; even if they pretended at equality, they naturally deferred to men when they were spinning out of control, and the men were taught to seize authority. These days, we've been so indoctrinated into equality that women are rebellious, and men lack dominance. Women will run off pursuing a whim, no matter how obviously destructive it is to all around them - and we men are no longer granted the social authority to keep them in line. Heck, it's been written into the legal code that refusing to give a woman money for a hose farm is "financial abuse".
There is going to be a lot of infertility in the present generation.
