[Harami1]

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[Hazaer]

(04-03-2017 08:47 AM)Hazaer Wrote:  

I have a question about gaming in college parties. There was a girl who was giving the eyes on quite a few occasions but I didn't approach. There was a party at a bar on campus and I saw her again, drinking with friends. I approached when she was isolated and started using some material mainly, introducing myself saying we have seen each other a few times, a joke then asked the color of her eyes (credit to Vicky Christie Barcelona), had some light kino held her hands etc. But suddenly, she said 'she wants to dance' and just left to find her friends.

What do you guys infer from this? Should I have asked her to dance instead of talking to her or was she not interested and was attention whoring all this while?

Thank you for your replies.

Any ideas on how you infer the above situation? I might see her again in subsequent events.

Cheers.

[Ipman]

I just say "Hey, what's your name?" and wait for a response. Then shake hands and ask another question like "How's your day going?" to get the conversation going. Don't give your name unless she asks; this is a good test of interest. Also, keep an eye on her body language and feet/legs. They will tell you a lot.

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[Hazaer]

Hey guys, was wondering about a strange phenomenon from some girls for quite some time. These are girls who I vaguely know from different social groups. They never engage when we cross paths when she is with some of her friends, either I say 'hello' or we just walk past without saying anything if I don't open. BUT, when she's alone, she takes the initiative to say 'hi' etc and the convo just flows smoother.

Analyzing what this means would be pointless but are these solid prospects? Thanks for sharing your experiences.

[Anchor Man]

Girls care about reputation too much .
With being said, they mightn’t want to be see. talking to you for whatever reason .

I guess there are solid prospects. Think about it this way if a girl comfortable talking you you alone then most probably she will be comfortable being with you alone .

[Hazaer]

(11-08-2018 10:14 AM)Anchor Man Wrote:  

Girls care about reputation too much .
With being said, they mightn’t want to be see. talking to you for whatever reason .

I guess there are solid prospects. Think about it this way if a girl comfortable talking you you alone then most probably she will be comfortable being with you alone .

You might be right. The area where I am is pretty homogeneous and I tend to stand out in that way and its a uni demographic to top it off. Looks like a double edged sword. You are exotic and might get IOIs but the amount of comfort building you have to do is going to be high. Its amazing how girls will turn from warm/hot to cold in a moment given the social condition they are in.

[Anchor Man]

(11-10-2018 06:31 AM)Hazaer Wrote:  

(11-08-2018 10:14 AM)Anchor Man Wrote:  

Girls care about reputation too much .
With being said, they mightn’t want to be see. talking to you for whatever reason .

I guess there are solid prospects. Think about it this way if a girl comfortable talking you you alone then most probably she will be comfortable being with you alone .

You might be right. The area where I am is pretty homogeneous and I tend to stand out in that way and its a uni demographic to top it off. Looks like a double edged sword. You are exotic and might get IOIs but the amount of comfort building you have to do is going to be high. Its amazing how girls will turn from warm/hot to cold in a moment given the social condition they are in.

I am a minority where I live to.
One of things that people don't discuss in the game is that for minority the amount of comfort needed is higher.

[TeachNExplore]

You're not entitled to anyone's attention. These girls dont perceive you has high enough value. Build up your own value, do something to break through the initial shield, and you wont he having these issues anymore. I dont know what specific advice to give you, as I would need to see what you're working with and see how you approach.

Dont go in there with expectation. That takes the edge off. Whenever I dont get a favorable result, I know I didn't present enough value for her to stop whatever she was doing to talk to me. That doesn't mean I'm low value it just means at that moment whatever she was doing was more important to her than talking to me.
Dont take it personally brother. Take it as a lesson to tweak your game or build up overall value.

[subterfuge]

(11-15-2018 01:20 PM)TeachNExplore Wrote:  

You're not entitled to anyone's attention. These girls dont perceive you has high enough value. Build up your own value, do something to break through the initial shield, and you wont he having these issues anymore. I dont know what specific advice to give you, as I would need to see what you're working with and see how you approach.

Dont go in there with expectation. That takes the edge off. Whenever I dont get a favorable result, I know I didn't present enough value for her to stop whatever she was doing to talk to me. That doesn't mean I'm low value it just means at that moment whatever she was doing was more important to her than talking to me.
Dont take it personally brother. Take it as a lesson to tweak your game or build up overall value.

I do think going in there without expectation is good advice, and whilst I agree that when a girl ignores you/insta-rejects you she doesn't see you has high value enough, I feel that this is very often completely out of your control and no 'tweaks in game' will do a damn thing lol.

In fairness I'm talking about nightgame as opposed to Daygame which i've basically never done so maybe that's the difference, but i've had enough fast rejections from the kind of hot girls mentioned by the OP at night whilst implementing every 'method' known to PUA to 'turn' these girls that i'm confident that in most cases, nothing short of a face transplant and an extra 6 inches in height would help lol