"my ex-boyfriend blah blah"
08-31-2011, 12:26 PM
A few months back, hung out with a chick a handful of times, never closed the deal. we were both in town xxx for work/personal reasons for a few weeks, and then going back to our respective cities.
potential reasons for fail: my lack of game, she is only LTR type, possibly put me in nice,safe,sweet,fun enough,wants a pretend bf category(picture comfort stage of a LTR type thing. we split cost on most dates, so i wasn't showering her with the dolalrs or anything), she very well could be the type who thrives off male attention(at one point admitted abandonment issues) but not in a whorish type way.
Expanding on the "male attention" thing..but first a preface. She is, upper 20's, highly educated, well traveled, introverted socialite, with a warm aura about her who always likes to have something going on whether it's socially or by herself. Thus, she has a lot to talk about in terms of experience(another possible sticking point to escalating attraction is her life experience vastly outweighs mine), and enjoys doing so. Anyway, she always is telling me about her "happenings". So, during our final date(i was leaving town), she talks about the previous night or two, and mentions "hitting her guy friend with her purse five times while they were wrestling" or how she and a guy got tipsy and went and shot guns(we talked guns in our previous date, and this was her first time going.) Never anything beyond the bare facts, or giving off any details about these cats. I just ignored the former, and teased her about her shooting style, etc regarding the latter. But still, would you say this was a shit test of some sort due to the fact that she knew I liked her?(i know, beta).
Another scenario involved me somehow being dumb enough to actually bring up something about an ex of mine, and it turning into her talking about a guy who broke her heart 5 years prior. I don't prod, and she barely elaborates(only says she ran into him recently, and hung out but 3 hours later they were fighting, mentioning that he isn't married), but just sits with the literal puppy dog sad face. what's my playin this scenario? is she just embellishing her reaction to get one out of me, or is it likely she still thinks this dude is the end all be all? I can't imagine probing around to find out which is which is optimal. But since i liked her, i was curious for her to expand, and not knowing the truth bugs me. Alas, I didn't go there but instead said "when we break up(i mockingly made her my city XXX GF previously) then guys in the future can have the pleasure of hearing about me like I am so thoroughly enjoying hearing about other dudes". Think i got a chest slap for that.
Anyway, of all the girls I've met since my last serious relationship, this broad is the only one that has weaseled her way into my thought stream post-dating, And has really been the catalyst for me bettering myself through game as she was a straight up mind ninja. I just can't tell if it's calculated or innate.
In the end just hoping to get to a level of game where, i can handle women like this in a LTR, over having mediocre game and settling for simple,safe chicks(guess i'm a glutton for punishment, plus i hate clinger/suck ups, get bored easily).
ps: is there a glitch in the forums? can't see youtube vids on site, and cursor always jumps to last thing i typed, so impossible to edit within "posting window" while i'm writing. (writing this on notepad