[Iso]

Is there a strategy for texting a girl you gamed and it went well, but she lives in another state a few hours away? i had a great time with a girl at a bar. No bang because she had leave early next morning home. Talked for about 1 hour 30 minutes. Venue changed from bar and ate food with her. I gave her my number and told her to text me if she ever back in my area (she was visiting a friend).

Should I even bother texting her in hopes of her coming to my area? Is it beta to go to New York to see her? Have any of you gamed a girl enough on the phone to convince her to visit you? So far, I added her on snapchat and only chatted once with her there.

[XPQ22]

(06-18-2016 02:59 PM)Iso Wrote:  

Is there a strategy for texting a girl you gamed and it went well, but she lives in another state a few hours away? i had a great time with a girl at a bar. No bang because she had leave early next morning home. Talked for about 1 hour 30 minutes. Venue changed from bar and ate food with her. I gave her my number and told her to text me if she ever back in my area (she was visiting a friend).

Should I even bother texting her in hopes of her coming to my area? Is it beta to go to New York to see her? Have any of you gamed a girl enough on the phone to convince her to visit you? So far, I added her on snapchat and only chatted once with her there.

A girl who's really into you that lives at a distance, but can't bang for whatever reason, will give you her number, and tell you to text her if you're ever in her area.

What does "great time" mean? How did she phrase the statement when she made it known she had to leave early in the morning? Did she say "Welp, I gotta get up tomorrow to leave, better get going" or "Gosh, I'd love to stay out more, but I'm starting to get a little tired..."

There's a difference. Nothing wrong with hoes in different area codes, but weak leads in different area codes are another story altogether. It should be no trouble finding leads just as weak locally, and they have the advantage that they're local.

[Ballr]

There are just too many women in any given zip code to be invested in any long-distance game. If the bitch is in town again, drop her a text.

Otherwise, don't waste your time being her text buddy.

[WestIndianArchie]

(06-18-2016 02:59 PM)Iso Wrote:  

Is there a strategy for texting a girl you gamed and it went well, but she lives in another state a few hours away? i had a great time with a girl at a bar. No bang because she had leave early next morning home. Talked for about 1 hour 30 minutes. Venue changed from bar and ate food with her. I gave her my number and told her to text me if she ever back in my area (she was visiting a friend).

Should I even bother texting her in hopes of her coming to my area? Is it beta to go to New York to see her? Have any of you gamed a girl enough on the phone to convince her to visit you? So far, I added her on snapchat and only chatted once with her there.

This is what social media is designed for.

You stay on her radar by having an awesome life. I'm not sure if I have the algorithm entirely figured out, but if people are commenting on your posts, it shows up in her feed. I'm sure there's some legit and not-so-legit ways to basically advertise your life in her feed.

Otherwise, trying to stay in touch with a stranger is fairly pointless.

WIA

[RatInTheWoods]

Remember a LDR is an imaginary friend.

[TheMaleBrain]

(06-18-2016 04:05 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

(06-18-2016 02:59 PM)Iso Wrote:  

Is there a strategy for texting a girl you gamed and it went well, but she lives in another state a few hours away? i had a great time with a girl at a bar. No bang because she had leave early next morning home. Talked for about 1 hour 30 minutes. Venue changed from bar and ate food with her. I gave her my number and told her to text me if she ever back in my area (she was visiting a friend).

Should I even bother texting her in hopes of her coming to my area? Is it beta to go to New York to see her? Have any of you gamed a girl enough on the phone to convince her to visit you? So far, I added her on snapchat and only chatted once with her there.

This is what social media is designed for.

You stay on her radar by having an awesome life. I'm not sure if I have the algorithm entirely figured out, but if people are commenting on your posts, it shows up in her feed. I'm sure there's some legit and not-so-legit ways to basically advertise your life in her feed.

Otherwise, trying to stay in touch with a stranger is fairly pointless.

WIA

Agreed.
Krauser calls it "Long Game".
You game her over F/B and when you are in the area, you make plans and try to score.

[Iso]

UPDATE:

Im going up with a friends in 1 week. I will be seeing the girl from the OP. I've been texting her about once every 3-4 weeks since June.

Pros:
-Had good rapport with her during initial conversation
-She always answers her texts within 2 minutes
-She has a small social media presence. I don't see too much evidence of her attention whoring.
-I don't see any signs of her having a BF.

Cons:
-Only light flirting in text. I still don't know if she sees me as a sexual person or a friend. The only indicator of sexual interest I got was her liking my shirtless facebook pics and her laughing at a few of my jokes.


I told her I'm coming up and she seemed down to meet up. She didn't 100% say she would meet, but said she would see how much schoolwork she has. I'm about 50/50 whether she will flake.

How do I play it with her if I do meet up? I assume I'm going to have to start over. I think I should be aggressive because I'm not sure if I will ever see her again.

[Möbius band]

(11-09-2016 08:14 PM)Iso Wrote:  

UPDATE:

Im going up with a friends in 1 week. I will be seeing the girl from the OP. I've been texting her about once every 3-4 weeks since June.

Pros:
-Had good rapport with her during initial conversation
-She always answers her texts within 2 minutes
-She has a small social media presence. I don't see too much evidence of her attention whoring.
-I don't see any signs of her having a BF.

Cons:
-Only light flirting in text. I still don't know if she sees me as a sexual person or a friend. The only indicator of sexual interest I got was her liking my shirtless facebook pics and her laughing at a few of my jokes.


I told her I'm coming up and she seemed down to meet up. She didn't 100% say she would meet, but said she would see how much schoolwork she has. I'm about 50/50 whether she will flake.

How do I play it with her if I do meet up? I assume I'm going to have to start over. I think I should be aggressive because I'm not sure if I will ever see her again.

Since you will be going there with friends, will you have a place to bring her back to? Does she have a place of her own?

I'd definitely suggest escalating lightly in your texts for the one week left, it should give you a good enough indication what she wants. The fact that she liked your shirtless fb pics is a good sign. Try to playfully send some more as you escalate through text. I'd say she definitely sees it more than a platonic thing considering that she's been texting you for so long and you two have good rapport.

[Off The Reservation]

Agree with WIA

I am good at this because I travel a lot. You need IG or other social media to go along with your messages. Whatsapp is 1500 times better than texting. Find out if she is on wa, line, wechat if chinese etc. IG IM is ok as is fb messenger.

Send photos you take of cool stuff to her.

Ask questions, and above all, ask for her pictures.

"Send me your picture.". This is a Powerful game move, yet few use it. You can escalate to better pics, wink wink, by saying you didnt like that one send another in a humorous way.

If you are getting her to chase you on the long game you have chances when you or her travel. If you cant engage her then it wont matter when you arrive you are just some guy with her number.

"I wish I were there with you."
"It would be better with me by your side."
On and on. I have a phone full of these mesaages recd.....

[Iso]

(11-09-2016 08:44 PM)Möbius band Wrote:  

(11-09-2016 08:14 PM)Iso Wrote:  

UPDATE:

Im going up with a friends in 1 week. I will be seeing the girl from the OP. I've been texting her about once every 3-4 weeks since June.

Pros:
-Had good rapport with her during initial conversation
-She always answers her texts within 2 minutes
-She has a small social media presence. I don't see too much evidence of her attention whoring.
-I don't see any signs of her having a BF.

Cons:
-Only light flirting in text. I still don't know if she sees me as a sexual person or a friend. The only indicator of sexual interest I got was her liking my shirtless facebook pics and her laughing at a few of my jokes.


I told her I'm coming up and she seemed down to meet up. She didn't 100% say she would meet, but said she would see how much schoolwork she has. I'm about 50/50 whether she will flake.

How do I play it with her if I do meet up? I assume I'm going to have to start over. I think I should be aggressive because I'm not sure if I will ever see her again.

Since you will be going there with friends, will you have a place to bring her back to? Does she have a place of her own?

I'm going to invite her to my Airbnb. that should reduce most of the complications.

I figure I need to escalate quickly so that I clearly establish that we aren't friends. I think the first 5 minutes should give me an idea how she sees me: Is she dressed to impress? Friendly hug? open to touch? Eye contact? Does she bring a friend?

[Comte De St. Germain]

I suggest investing in a snapchat if your life is active at all. Whether it is outdoorsy or you party with hot girls a lot. She can't help but look at your life story.

[Gustavus Adolphus]

I think you got it already.

1. Slight amplification of text frequency leading up to your visit. No need to be overt in your language. You can't fuck her over text. Maybe just a rough outline of how much you have planned and which days. If you can get her schedule in the back of your mind you can invite at the right times. You don't want to be wondering if she's lying about meeting up. If she's busy, that's cool. See if you can get her to reply with, "that sounds fun, I'd love to..."

2. Goal is to get her on your team and to meet in person, knowing that you will have to start over in the escalation process. You can move quickly, if her body language is positive.

3. This is going to be a great trip, no matter what. You aren't coming to see her. If it works out, that's great for her because she can join in on the party.

4. If she's "really busy" do whatever it takes to get her to meetup. Hey I need to run to the liquor store, grocery store, etc, is there one by you that you recommend? Show me where to go. I don't know your town like you do. Then throttle down and run your game.

5. Even though it's all a plan, girls like to think of things like movies. "I swear to god I just went to help him buy some food at the farmers market. It just happened."

If she was visiting you I'd have more to offer, but that's how I'd play it.

[Iso]

(11-10-2016 07:37 PM)Comte De St. Germain Wrote:  

I suggest investing in a snapchat if your life is active at all. Whether it is outdoorsy or you party with hot girls a lot. She can't help but look at your life story.

I kinda did that with this girl. I didn't directly snapchat her much. But, I would post a lot of stories that would show an interesting life (travel, nightlife, etc.). She looked at pretty much all my snaps so far so I think that is a good sign.

I figure if a girl drives 30 minutes to meet a guy she only met once, 5 months ago, then she is interested. At that point, I have to make a move so she knows my intentions.

[Iso]

UPDATE:

Went to NYC a month ago. Texted the girl when I got there on Friday. She didn't reply back until Saturday morning apologizing for not responding because "she had school stuff to take care of". I responded to the text and said "cool. do you want to hang out tonight". No response. I chalked it up as a loss. All of the work for months put in for this opportunity and she flaked like the normal girl. Learning lesson. I haven't texted since a month ago. She still views my snapchat stories, but I will not contact her again unless she contacts me first.