[backpacker]

Needing some assistance here. Met someone online and seem to connect quite well via email so far. I pushed her for her phone number and now I have it but she is asking for a more current photo and not to waste her time if I don't look anything like my profile photo.

The profile photo is about 2 years old and the other photos although more recent are of me overseas and I must confess that in those shots I look so much better than I do right now. Combination of sun and happy times I suppose.

Do I say I look like the photos even though I know I don't or do I send her a current photo? I, like most, do look better tanned and it is in the middle of winter here so the sun is on holidays.

Any ideas?

[Gringo]

Stop worrying and tell her to fuck off. Asking for photos and making demands already. Bitch.

[Ugg]

(07-16-2011 02:39 AM)Gringo Wrote:  

Stop worrying and tell her to fuck off. Asking for photos and making demands already. Bitch.

Amen. I want to stab my eyes out every time I read a "How do I impress/attract this one girl" thread. By the time you arrive at a dilemma like this you should already have forgotten about it, because of other female attention, better things to do, or both.

[Samseau]

Tell her you look like your photo's and that if she wants to meet she can do so.

[ANACONDA]

tell her you dont believe in photos....its a kid game...meet her personaly.

if she insist...tell her to reward u first....like having phone sex?

[ezio]

(07-16-2011 02:39 AM)Gringo Wrote:  

Stop worrying and tell her to fuck off. Asking for photos and making demands already. Bitch.

Agreed. Just skip to the next woman!

[iknowexactly]

the big pic lesson all these replies correctly point to is that it's a numbers game: in order to quickly dismiss this type of difficult woman, you have to approach a lot so you don't get fixated.

crowd her out of your mind with new targets.

view the problem as your tendency to overfixate, not how to impress a particular demanding witch.

difficult women remain difficult. anyone who starts with negative stuff like "if you don't look like your pic, <ultimatum>"
is 100% discredited and should immediately be abandoned as in no more contact positive or negative from you.

[dk902]

I would go with something like:'Want to see photos? I had my suspicions that you were an undercover agent, now you've confirmed them. I'm not sure I can trust you now Special Agent (insert name)'

I did this once to a girl who asked me for my facebook before a date so she could 'vet' me. I told her that I wasn't aware she worked for the FBI and I would have to vet her now to make sure she wasn't undercover. Passed her little shit-test, got her on the date and never gave her my facebook.

[backpacker]

Thanks to all for your replies. Been out of the game for 24 years, 7 of which single, so this site has been invaluable for information as I am trying to find my feet. I must say I couldn't believe her request. Sure I am 47 and she is 38 but no other woman has asked this of me so it did come as a shock.

Once again, thanks to all.

[Vicious]

How about saying the photos you have up ARE current photos?