[jariel]

The Prelude
There are a number of problems with advice. First, everybody wants to give it, even when they are not qualified to do so. In terms of the game, you have those who have lived it and those who have read about others living it. The former can provide you with some advice as it pertains to their experiences, while the latter should just keep their mouths closed.

For example, I have noticed how there is a faction of men who seem to believe that the only guys who get laid, have girlfriends, etc. are tall, good-looking, rich, affable, etc. Guys of that faction prop up Dan Bilzerian as some sort of hero who every man should model his life after.

However, for me, I pose the question, what world do these guys live in?

Browse an amateur porn site, there are out of shape, ugly, and broke dudes with 30 videos of themselves smashing a variety of chicks, hell from time to time, you will probably even think to yourself, "Damn, I'd hit that too" as some chick with a serious bubble is reverse cowgirling the hell out of his nondescript dick.

Go out to a decent club and you will see a woman who you find attractive with a guy who is nothing special. He will not be particularly tall, good-looking, nor will he appear to have much money, but there she is, in all of her Saturday night glory, with a Peach Long Island in hand, grinding her ass on him, while he thinks about the geyser of leche he is going to bust inside of her at the end of the night as she's half thrusting, half falling asleep and the neighbors are just waking up to take their dogs out to shit in front of someone else's house.

Maybe my eyes just see different things, but for those who are still trying to see it with their own, it will be easier for you to do so if you experience it for yourself and stop listening to guys whose experiences are based on solely going from blog to blog and message board to message board and stockpiling random morsels of information and weaving it into an unrealistic narrative.

The next issue with advice is that most people don't really want it. What they really want is validation for a decision they have already made. The next time one of your buddies comes to you with his relationship issues, and finally asks, "So do you think I should break up with her?" Take note that he has probably outlined just a few of the problems with the relationship, but he still tries to portray his girl in a positive light. He will mention incessantly how hot she is and how good her pussy is, and the light should come on in your head, "He's not going to break up with her." What he wants is for you to be blinded by the ostensible positives as he has been so that you will co-sign the fact that he is going to stay with her.

Guys constantly talk about girls not keeping it 100, yet dudes are constantly lying on their dicks and their relationships, "Yeah, remember that Puerto Rican chick with the fat ass who wouldn't return my texts for six months? Yeah, I ran into her at CVS, and smashed it to smithereens that night", "Yeah, my chick, trust me, she has no control over me, I got her on lock, I'm the boss of this shit, I'm the Rick Ross of that pussy". You've heard that bullshit from plenty of no pussy getting and pussy whipped ass dudes, always trying to perpetrate an "alpha frame" to their homies.

I have made a concerted effort to curve dudes who exhibit that type of behavior more and more as of late. Most guys will never give you the full story anyway, so whatever conclusion you draw that leads to the advice you feel is necessary to contribute is based on cherry-picked information, and thus DOA.

As I have said before this is Real Talk Sessions, not Shit You Want To Hear Sessions, Party and Bullshit Sessions, Whatever The Fuck That Is The Antithesis To Real Sessions.

When it comes to this next level shit, really I'm the plug.

Grow Up, Be Your Own Man
Contrary to popular belief growing up has nothing to do with getting older. I have met plenty of men and women who are ten years older than me, yet ten years behind where I am.

Two things you need to figure out sooner rather than later: what type of man you want to be and what type of life you want to live.

You know the saying, there's more than one way to skin a cat.

We are not all going to be, can't be, International Alpha Playboys. Much respect to the guys who are living that life, but those of you who are reading their threads and deluding yourselves into believing that your life isn't shit compared to theirs, well maybe you are not one of them. Maybe you actually like living here in the U.S., looking down at the rest of the city in your condo, while the keys to your C-Class are sitting on your fancy, rectangular coffee table next to your Blackberry PRIV which is full of messages from incompetent boobs at your office, but the pay is great, and you are doing what you want to do. Maybe your happiness, your desires, your success, will not be found living somewhere in Southeast Asia and banging the local talent while working as a location independent entrepreneur.

Living and gaming abroad might be the path for one man, but that might not be your path -- and of course vice versa, maybe you are sick of being a cubicle monkey in a career with no mobility, getting flaked on by neurotic American women, and you are convinced you know the cure for what ails you.

The problem most guys have here is that they have no idea what they want. If you want to get to the next level, you have to sit down and think about what your path is and how you are going to navigate down it.

Work on being the man you want to be and living the life that you want to live, and fuck coming to the Internet and hoping to get some stranger's approval. Just because you are doing something different, does not mean that it is wrong. Just because you are doing something conventional, does not mean that it is wrong. The only one who has to be happy with your life, is you. But keep it 100 with yourself and with us if you are going to share it.

Avoid The Wrong Women
In my teens and early 20s, I got by on looks and confidence derived from the fact that I was accustomed to getting pussy, but that didn't prevent the plenty of missteps I took with women. Fortunately for me, none of them were debilitating. As a result, I have had a number of experiences, ones that now I can share with those who care to take in what I have learned from them.

If you are going to take missteps, hopefully you get them out of the way while you are young. In your quest for pussy, you probably will fuck with the wrong bitches at times, but if you do not marry them, if you do not impregnate them, if you do not catch something nasty from them, you can move on relatively unscathed. However, that does not mean that it is cool if you spend nearly a decade of your life playing with fire from women who can and will leave you with third-degree burns if you allow them to.

As you get older, you will have to put in work to avoid missteps. Hopefully, you are building your life into something meaningful. If so, that life is worth protecting. That means you can not afford to allow the wrong women into it to fuck it up. Guys are trolling Tinder, seedy nightclubs, the various elements of Prostitute Culture, and then acting brand new when the women they encounter prove that they are not worth shit and they are in fact dangerous.

Some of you men are investing way too much money, time, and energy into women who will never be a part of your bigger picture. Think about it for a second. If you already know that you do not want the woman to have your child, you already know that you do not want to give the woman your last name, you already know that you do not want to have a real relationship with her, then what exactly are you doing with her?

At some point, you will realize that with women, you either move backwards, stand still, or move forward. Two out of those three are L's. Opportunity cost is a real thing. Whatever you invest in someone who is wrong for you, is not available to be invested in someone who is worth it, shit, you will probably miss those who are worth it because at the time you are on some other shit, the wrong shit.

We see the same stories here over and over again. Guys dealing with strippers, soft feminists, chicks who became their girlfriends after they cheated on their old boyfriends with them, cute hoodrats, serial online daters, fake dimes, etc. Women can come from a variety of backgrounds with a variety of circumstances, yet they are all on the same team: The Wrong Bitch All-Stars.

I have no sympathy for those who choose to deal with those women and cause themselves to star in another episode of When Shit Goes Left. When you grow up, you will be able to recognize when that show is going to come on, and you will make sure to not tune in.

[blck]

jariel Wrote:

As I have said before this is Real Talk Sessions, not Shit You Want To Hear Sessions, Party and Bullshit Sessions, Whatever The Fuck That Is The Antithesis To Real Sessions.

This put some things back at their proper place.
Need to go back to some of your RTS posts.



Thx

[BrewDog]

"Some of you men are investing way too much money, time, and energy into women who will never be a part of your bigger picture. Think about it for a second. If you already know that you do not want the woman to have your child, you already know that you do not want to give the woman your last name, you already know that you do not want to have a real relationship with her, then what exactly are you doing with her?"
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I'm all about dating someone I actual like. Yet sometimes just licking some random boobs is ok, too.

And I don't want, need, or ever expect to have kids. No. Desire. Ever. So why this even comes into the equation is beyond me.

[rudebwoy]

^ It comes into the equation because alot of guys knock up girls they were only having "fun" with.

[Avon Barksdale]

Damn this has been a good day, saw star wars and jariel dropped a new real talk sessions.

[BrewDog]

(12-29-2015 09:49 PM)rudebwoy Wrote:  

^ It comes into the equation because alot of guys knock up girls they were only having "fun" with.

I've also been to jail over drinking beers I was just having fun with.

I'm not sure what point I was trying to make here. I guess just that I love beer.

[Ingocnito]

When Shit Goes Left Episode with the Wrong Bitch All-Stars < Classic. And good timing per recent convo I just had.

I've noticed the more stable I've become with both women and life-path, the more and more people who have no right - as you put it - want to give me advice. And not particularly on the forum, but personal acquaintances and family. Of course chalk some of this up to jealously and misery needing comfort.

I just had a convo in sauna with dude at gym I've known a few years. Much of it was on pussy inflation, beta pedestalization, how I navigate the SMP, actual scarcity versus scarcity mindset and how to adjust to abundance thinking. etc. I've never claimed to be Casanova but I assume from the girls he's seen me speak to, and the way I talk to them, he thinks I am. Dunno.

At the end of our brief convo, dude's giving me advice on how to navigate top-tier women, after starting the convo asking me if I "had any scraps to throw his way." These mother fuckers. Secret enemies sometimes it seems. Another cat enters the sauna, knows the guy I'm b.s.ing with and then asks;"Yea, but how much are you spending on them?". assuming I'm buying attention or some shit.

My response:"Look, you're paying for it one way or another be it your time, $$, or emotion, that's given, whether your lookin for chicks to bang, better quality, or a long term mate. You gotta get better at screening out the garbage, to preserve the cost to your life." (opportunity costs).

Ask me advice then give me advice like I'm the newbie. Avoid especially fuckers who build you up, to just put you down. Blue pill fuckers who think they're red pill wizards are the worst...and most likely to be talkin shit behind your back.

[Brian Shima]

Amazing post Jariel. Is it just me or are these getting better and better? +1 playa

[kaotic]

Jariel you always shine through, your help in my post, and calling certain things out (I have a feeling some of this might be directed at me for my Breaking Up With MY LTR Thread):

-avoiding the wrong women
-stop wasting your time
-investing in the right ones
-not spending a minute more than maybe banging them and ejecting if they aren't worth anything more
-wrong bitch all stars

The list goes on on what to avoid an what to spend time on.



There's nothing wrong with advice, but we shouldn't be thirsty for approval from people on the internet and we need to keep it real.

I fucking love what you write, and as always thanks for keeping it real. I hope to actually meet up with you someday and buy you a beer.

[Exquirenoir]

Jeez Jariel, your always dropping hot concepts and theories that I've had some understanding of but never could explain in great detail like you.

[Mujeriego]

(12-29-2015 08:58 PM)jariel Wrote:  

there she is, in all of her Saturday night glory, with a Peach Long Island in hand, grinding her ass on him, while he thinks about the geyser of leche he is going to bust inside of her at the end of the night as she's half thrusting, half falling asleep and the neighbors are just waking up to take their dogs out to shit in front of someone else's house.

Fuck that quote made me laugh hard.

[The Wire]

(12-29-2015 09:42 PM)BrewDog Wrote:  

"Some of you men are investing way too much money, time, and energy into women who will never be a part of your bigger picture. Think about it for a second. If you already know that you do not want the woman to have your child, you already know that you do not want to give the woman your last name, you already know that you do not want to have a real relationship with her, then what exactly are you doing with her?"
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I'm all about dating someone I actual like. Yet sometimes just licking some random boobs is ok, too.

And I don't want, need, or ever expect to have kids. No. Desire. Ever. So why this even comes into the equation is beyond me.

Because gaming girls takes a lot of effort/time. Lets not kid ourselves. You only have to much time in a day and unless you're job is to write a blog about picking up girls then you usually are best off trying to maximize your time. An earlier thread made me think of Paul Janka and I remember him saying something interesting when he was comparing his life to his one friend's life. Paul was doing the PUA thing and his friend had a pretty high level corporate job in NYC putting in lot of hours. The last thing his friend wanted to do after putting in lots of hours is to go out and hustle random girls. You sometimes just want a quality girl to hang out with. Similar idea. If you only have enough time for a girl or two then they probably should be ones you actually like being with.

[BetaNoMore]

Thank you for this Jariel. Was exactly what I needed.