I thought it would be interesting to hear some experiences other guys have when women from different cultures are put in similar situations. Of course it is sometimes difficult to figure out how much is cultural vs just the individual woman. However culture does have a dramatic effect on the individual so I think we can learn from this topic. I’ll start out with the first scenario…
The Situation: women who are really into you find out you are not monogamous. In my case I was or am really into all of these women, except the American.
American: “If you won’t commit, I can’t have sex with you and we will have to just be friends.” I was fine with this due to a lack of female friends in my life. Four days later, we hung out together and she used the bathroom excuse to get into my apartment. She grabbed me and started making out with me. I politely told her I was tired and brought her home. She texted a few times after about what a great couple we would be. I did not like the mixed messages.
Spanish: “When you sleep with other women wear a condom.” & “If we live together in the same place I don’t think I can deal with you sleeping with other women unless we do it together.” She is straightforward and honest about her feelings and so cool that I am considering ways to move to Spain or bring her here without marriage.
Filipina: “I am always your friend no matter what.” & “I know we’ll eventually be together again.” She is a 40 year old upper middle class 8. We had an intense, one week affair in Makati. While she was at work one day I banged a 21 year old 7.5. When I came back to Makati a couple of weeks later I did not tell her I was back. She figured out that I was back and spending my last couple of days there with the 21 year old. It turns out she was partially right, we are still friends and I like her better than the 21 year old.
Filipina: “I guess you’re not going to be my boyfriend so I’ll have to look for another boyfriend, but when you come back to Cebu I want to “hang out” again." After we got off of Skype she immediately sent a fully naked picture. She is a 25 year old 7 with a “college degree”. She’s probably the sweetest girl I have ever been with but she’s never going to be able to join MENSA.
English: “If you can’t visit me at Christmas, I can’t talk to you. The long distance is just too much for me to handle emotionally.” To be fair, when I first met her, I made the mistake of telling her I was going to Spain for Christmas and when she eventually pressed me after a very intense 10 day mini relationship, she figured out I was going to be there with someone else. Too bad, our energy together is crazy electric. By the way, for moral/karmic reasons and to mitigate drama, I try to be honest in my relationships, so please don’t tell me that I should have lied.
German/ Arab: “I’m poly-amorous.” She had another girlfriend and boyfriend but when she figured out I actually have other real girlfriends, she created all kinds of drama. She said that the drama was because I was a chauvinist not because I have multiple girlfriends. I haven’t talked to her since and probably never will. I don’t like drama and hate when people aren’t honest with themselves. By the way, most women tell me I am the opposite of a chauvinist even though I am very dominant in bed. Also, I think this girl’s crazy was more a result of her lifestyle than her culture.
The Situation: women who are really into you find out you are not monogamous. In my case I was or am really into all of these women, except the American.
American: “If you won’t commit, I can’t have sex with you and we will have to just be friends.” I was fine with this due to a lack of female friends in my life. Four days later, we hung out together and she used the bathroom excuse to get into my apartment. She grabbed me and started making out with me. I politely told her I was tired and brought her home. She texted a few times after about what a great couple we would be. I did not like the mixed messages.
Spanish: “When you sleep with other women wear a condom.” & “If we live together in the same place I don’t think I can deal with you sleeping with other women unless we do it together.” She is straightforward and honest about her feelings and so cool that I am considering ways to move to Spain or bring her here without marriage.
Filipina: “I am always your friend no matter what.” & “I know we’ll eventually be together again.” She is a 40 year old upper middle class 8. We had an intense, one week affair in Makati. While she was at work one day I banged a 21 year old 7.5. When I came back to Makati a couple of weeks later I did not tell her I was back. She figured out that I was back and spending my last couple of days there with the 21 year old. It turns out she was partially right, we are still friends and I like her better than the 21 year old.
Filipina: “I guess you’re not going to be my boyfriend so I’ll have to look for another boyfriend, but when you come back to Cebu I want to “hang out” again." After we got off of Skype she immediately sent a fully naked picture. She is a 25 year old 7 with a “college degree”. She’s probably the sweetest girl I have ever been with but she’s never going to be able to join MENSA.
English: “If you can’t visit me at Christmas, I can’t talk to you. The long distance is just too much for me to handle emotionally.” To be fair, when I first met her, I made the mistake of telling her I was going to Spain for Christmas and when she eventually pressed me after a very intense 10 day mini relationship, she figured out I was going to be there with someone else. Too bad, our energy together is crazy electric. By the way, for moral/karmic reasons and to mitigate drama, I try to be honest in my relationships, so please don’t tell me that I should have lied.
German/ Arab: “I’m poly-amorous.” She had another girlfriend and boyfriend but when she figured out I actually have other real girlfriends, she created all kinds of drama. She said that the drama was because I was a chauvinist not because I have multiple girlfriends. I haven’t talked to her since and probably never will. I don’t like drama and hate when people aren’t honest with themselves. By the way, most women tell me I am the opposite of a chauvinist even though I am very dominant in bed. Also, I think this girl’s crazy was more a result of her lifestyle than her culture.