.5 months now.. no sex. -- what would you do?
01-12-2009, 11:22 AM
Old ex gf -- we have an amazing connection together on all levels.
We broke up early in 2007, and we started 'seeing' each other in October 2008 again... slept together (no sex) a couple times - sex came damn close - intense kissing, and touching naked bodies.
She pulled away the last month saying she isn't ready for sex and the complications that can arise from sex.
She has pretty much admitted her feelings for me, and we actually argued the other night, where again, she 'more or less' admitted feelings for me without actually flat out saying so. We go out on 'dates', ending in some pretty good kissing, but no sex and no more 'sleep overs'.
She is a great woman - one I would not want to push out of my life if we never did have a sexual/romantic relationship -- however, she turns me on - all the time.. and kissing drives me wild - and she's admitted to how 'wet' she gets when we kiss.
Any one with some ideas on what you'd do in this situation? I don't want to risk sounding 'beta', but really could see this woman as being 'the one' too. I love everything about her, aside from her lack of sex drive at the moment. we don't see each other often - right now only a few hours a week... but talk & text daily.
(as a side note, I haven't been without sex for 2.5 months, lol -- I have options available to me... so it's not like I 'need' sex from this woman).
As usual, thanks to all for some ideas.
We broke up early in 2007, and we started 'seeing' each other in October 2008 again... slept together (no sex) a couple times - sex came damn close - intense kissing, and touching naked bodies.
She pulled away the last month saying she isn't ready for sex and the complications that can arise from sex.
She has pretty much admitted her feelings for me, and we actually argued the other night, where again, she 'more or less' admitted feelings for me without actually flat out saying so. We go out on 'dates', ending in some pretty good kissing, but no sex and no more 'sleep overs'.
She is a great woman - one I would not want to push out of my life if we never did have a sexual/romantic relationship -- however, she turns me on - all the time.. and kissing drives me wild - and she's admitted to how 'wet' she gets when we kiss.
Any one with some ideas on what you'd do in this situation? I don't want to risk sounding 'beta', but really could see this woman as being 'the one' too. I love everything about her, aside from her lack of sex drive at the moment. we don't see each other often - right now only a few hours a week... but talk & text daily.
(as a side note, I haven't been without sex for 2.5 months, lol -- I have options available to me... so it's not like I 'need' sex from this woman).
As usual, thanks to all for some ideas.