I haven't forgot about our previous discussion, but I'm feeling pretty good right now, like I just hit a heat check from thirty feet with my opposite hand, and now I'm calling a 20-second timeout to talk about something that I've read between the lines on a number of discussions that we've had here lately.
I hate that I have to say this again, but the women you have in your life is serious business. You have to treat this game just like you treat your business. In business, your main goal is to make money, yes there are other motives at play, providing a good product/service, contributing something positive to the community/society at-large, but at the end of the day, you want to be in the black.
In terms of the game, being in the black means having relationships with the women who you want to have them with and getting what you want out of those relationships.
Some guys are deep into the red in their current relationships because they pity their women.
Pity and the game don't mix.
She's A Good Person
We talk a lot about the most negative aspects of women that we've experienced, but honestly, not every girl is going to fuck another guy behind your back, accuse you of a false rape, steal from you, or do any of the other foul shit that we know women are capable of doing.
We've dealt with some women who are decent human beings, they have their flaws, but that's inherent to being a human being; however, you can't stay in a bad relationship with a woman just because she's a good person.
Your relationship with her is not about her being a good person, it's about her being the right person. Some of you are dealing with women who albeit may be decent people, but they're not what you want, they don't add value to your life, for whatever reasons. Furthermore, you have to remember that you've given them the time to demonstrate that they were the right one for you and to bring value to your life, yet they've failed to do that, again, for whatever reasons.
Time is the most valuable commodity we have.
Some of you are spending months, years of your lives worried about being "good boyfriends" -- future session coming up on "good boyfriends" -- for women who aren't for you, who don't deserve you.
Think about it, you were faithful to a chick you were with for two years, who you probably should have dropped after three months, so you threw away 21 months on the wrong chick. In a sport, that's taking an L, in business, in this case personal business, that's being deep in the red.
We've Been Together For A Long Time
I love when guys hide behind how long they've been with a chick, as if that's reason to continue to stay in something that's killing your soul. The best time to get the fuck out is as soon as you realize you've been together for a long time, yet you're still thinking about getting the fuck out.
Women are resilient human beings, thinking that leaving her is going to rock her world, and she's going to find the nearest razor blades over you is an exercise in hubris. She might be hurt in the short-term, she's human, but chances are, she'll forget about you as soon as she's with the next dude who is giving her new butterflies, new dick, new ebbs and flows, and new experiences; that's all it really takes.
People take comfort in the devil they know, but that's not an excuse to forestall going back into the world, bettering yourself, and finding something better. Reality check, your woman is a reflection of you. Don't tell me how great of a guy you are, yet your chick is a piece of shit. You might actually be a great guy, but you don't really know it, you don't really believe it, because you're dealing with someone who is below your level; you're just taking what you can get instead of going after what you desire.
Moving On
Sometimes we're not in situations that we can just hit an instant eject button, or maybe we don't necessarily want to hit the eject button hastily, we want to plot and strategize our next move(s) -- women do it all the time, beta orbiters are parachutes for when we drop them off while in mid-air.
If that's your situation, you have to start disconnecting prior to, again, you have to do this, because this is what's best for you. You can't prevent yourself from doing what you need to do, what you know is best for you, because you don't want to hurt her feelings.
It's your life.
It's not her life.
It's not "our" life.
How can it be when you're on your way out?
When the time comes, whatever you considered to be ours has to be eschewed for you getting yours. Some may say that is a selfish way to look at the game, that is a cold outlook to have on relationships, no, it's not, this is the real talk, and real talk isn't talk that you want to hear, but from a real homie, it's the shit you need to hear, because at the end of the day, it's for the betterment of you, and in you, there is no me, and there's definitely no her.