[roc_student]

I’m in a FWB situation with a girl who doesn’t want me to bang other girls.

I have kept my word (she’s a nice girl, I like banging her, and I don’t want to break her innocent heart and make her hate guys).

I am still going on dates with other girls and trying to build attraction with them so I can start banging those girls the moment this girl leaves in two weeks.

Make sense so far?

So here’s the problem. I can picture it now: I have a date with one of these girls, I bring her back to my place, we start making out, I can tell she wants to go further, but then I have to make up some excuse for why we can’t have sex.

1. I don’t want these girls to get the wrong idea about me and get turned off because I didn’t do a SNL.

2. I don’t want to have to explain to these girls that “I can’t have sex with you until two weeks from now, because I have an agreement with this girl I’m seeing. But let’s totally bang in two weeks.”

3. I don’t want to have to postpone a first date with these girls until two weeks from now because by then it will be too late.

4. I DO want to keep these girls attracted and bang them the moment this girl leaves.

So my question is, how should I proceed to build attraction with these new girls without going beyond kissing and fondling, while keeping sex open as an option for the third dates, and also without giving them the wrong message that I’m into a LTR just because we’re not banging for the first two weeks?

Perhaps there is a way to turn the tables and make sexlessness a tease to build attraction and make me seem less like I just want to get in their pants?

Or should I play the LTR card and trick them?

First date is coming up tomorrow night, any advice appreciated.

[Isaac Jordan]

(05-05-2015 02:49 PM)roc_student Wrote:  

I’m in a FWB situation with a girl who doesn’t want me to bang other girls.

I have kept my word (she’s a nice girl, I like banging her, and I don’t want to break her innocent heart and make her hate guys).

I am still going on dates with other girls and trying to build attraction with them so I can start banging those girls the moment this girl leaves in two weeks.

Make sense so far?

No, this doesn't make sense. You say you're merely FWB, but you've agreed not to sleep with other girls. So, a de facto relationship.

Then, you say you like this girl and don't want to break her heart, yet you're actively striving to sleep with other women.

Quote:

I don’t want to have to explain to these girls that “I can’t have sex with you until two weeks from now, because I have an agreement with this girl I’m seeing. But let’s totally bang in two weeks.”

So, let me get this straight.

You're FWB with a chick, yet you agreed to sexual exclusivity.

You're planning on dropping her like a bad habit in 14 days, but can't wait until then to continue dating other women.

You're fine approaching, flirting with, dating, and kissing women that are not your FWB, but you can't have sex with them, because you made a promise to a girl you're cutting out of the rotation in two weeks.

That's fucked up.

You remind me of the girls who only do anal just so they can continue calling themselves "virgins". Yeah, technically you're both telling the truth, but let's be real, for all intents and purposes you're both lying.

If you want to keep your word, then keep your word and don't game other women until the first girl is out of your life.

If you want to cheat on and lie to your girl, then go all the way and cheat on and lie to your girl.

Shooting yourself in the foot with new girls just so you can keep a half-hearted promise you never should have made in the first place, on a mere technicality, is just pathetic.

[el mechanico]

[kaotic]

You think she's not banging other dudes before she leaves ? Come on man.

Fuck that, you don't need to promise her a damn thing, she's out in two weeks anyways.

You don't owe her a damn thing, game these other girls accordingly and bang them.

That first girl isn't as innocent as you think - and look how much power she has over you.

NOT a good sign.

First thing you need to do is cease contact with her or at most keep things civil.

Go out and get those new girls !

[rungoodinc]

Don't let a girl strong-arm you into a commitment that you don't want to be in.

And don't trick girls either. It's much better to be a player and deal with the ups and downs of picking up than it is to lie to your girlfriend. Better for your own game and better for the girls.

[Prof. Ligate]

You will be sorry you didn't capitalise on these other girls in two weeks time dude

[XXL]

Create impossible logistics on purpose.

Hang out with them in the city and make it seem that coming back to your place is not an option. Use whatever reason like you're busy later that night with a project etc. Just keep taking them out until you can bring them home. It will build a lot of sexual tension just waiting to be released later with no lmr.

[Beau]

"I’m in a FWB situation with a girl who doesn’t want me to bang other girls. I have kept my word."

That's monogamy, not FWB.

[Dalaran1991]

Quote:

I’m in a FWB situation with a girl who doesn’t want me to bang other girls.

I have kept my word (she’s a nice girl, I like banging her, and I don’t want to break her innocent heart and make her hate guys).

I am still going on dates with other girls and trying to build attraction with them so I can start banging those girls the moment this girl leaves in two weeks.

Make sense so far?

I wont address the inconsistency of your behaviors because others have done so.

I just cant seem to understand why guys keep letting a woman dictate the terms of their sex life.

[Lochte]

Bang other girls.

If she finds out youve been going on dates, regardless ofthe outcome shes going to be mad as shit. So assume she wont find out and bang away.

And if she does find out then boo hoo for her

[Island Souljah]

Never turn down pussy in the trees just because you got one on your cock.

[roc_student]

Super late response, been busy. I thank you guys for your advice, but most of you missed the point, except for XXL.

1. My plan was:

A. to continue to bang my main girl (who would only bang under the condition that we were sexually exclusive)

while also

B. gaming new girls (to set up future bangs for once my main girl moved away)

without

C. banging those new girls before my main girl moved away (I would feel too guilty; it would intensely hurt my main girl; it would possibly ruin my chances of banging her friends; and it would ruin my chances of her visiting for future bangs. Enough reasons?)

That was all non-negotiable. Most of you just attacked my plan, without understanding that the pros of my plan outweighed the cons of my plan.

My plan was already fixed, I wanted advice WITHIN that plan.

Not to be called pathetic or other names, or to have someone insist that this girl is banging other guys, when you don’t even know her.

2. XXL came in and said create impossible logistics on purpose with the new girls, which was a perfect solution, and allowed me to make a sexless first date with the new girls into an attraction-building rather than a beta thing.

3. Also, part of the confusion was that perhaps I misunderstood the definition of FWB. I thought FWB was defined as:

-anything less serious than GF, but more serious than booty call
-you are friends and hang out but also bang
-you may or may not be monogamous

[kaotic]

(07-02-2015 06:52 PM)roc_student Wrote:  

Super late response, been busy. I thank you guys for your advice, but most of you missed the point, except for XXL.

1. My plan was:

A. to continue to bang my main girl (who would only bang under the condition that we were sexually exclusive)

while also

B. gaming new girls (to set up future bangs for once my main girl moved away)

without

C. banging those new girls before my main girl moved away (I would feel too guilty; it would intensely hurt my main girl; it would possibly ruin my chances of banging her friends; and it would ruin my chances of her visiting for future bangs. Enough reasons?)

That was all non-negotiable. Most of you just attacked my plan, without understanding that the pros of my plan outweighed the cons of my plan.

My plan was already fixed, I wanted advice WITHIN that plan.

Not to be called pathetic or other names, or to have someone insist that this girl is banging other guys, when you don’t even know her.

2. XXL came in and said create impossible logistics on purpose with the new girls, which was a perfect solution, and allowed me to make a sexless first date with the new girls into an attraction-building rather than a beta thing.

3. Also, part of the confusion was that perhaps I misunderstood the definition of FWB. I thought FWB was defined as:

-anything less serious than GF, but more serious than booty call
-you are friends and hang out but also bang
-you may or may not be monogamous

Good luck with that then.

[Dr. Howard]

actual advice: Pipeline girls/screen for who is dtf but do not bang until this girl is gone. Its not hard, just escalate via texts and tease but don't 'close'.

[RedPillUK]

   

[DaveR]

(07-02-2015 06:52 PM)roc_student Wrote:  

Super late response, been busy. I thank you guys for your advice, but most of you missed the point, except for XXL.

...

3. Also, part of the confusion was that perhaps I misunderstood the definition of FWB. I thought FWB was defined as:

-anything less serious than GF, but more serious than booty call
-you are friends and hang out but also bang
-you may or may not be monogamous

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