[drasticallyspeaking]

Has anyone else faced this problem? Right when I'm thinking I want to leave my current city and have flights and accommodation roughly picked out, I have an awesome first date and bring home a girl who ticks all my boxes and actually seems really cool too.

Now I'm sitting here trying to decide whether to stay another month so I can be with this girl who's my type physically and shares many of my interests or if I should head to the beach vacation I was planning.

It's hard enough leaving girls behind right when you feel like you're starting to get your shit together in a city or country but it seems even worse when you're just starting off with a really awesome new girl.

[samsamsam]

This might sound soft of me. But how often do you meet this type of great match? Every day? Once in a long while?

Does she know you have plans to leave and they are booked? If so, if you stay she has the upper hand because she knows you stayed for her.

Do you have girls lined up in the next location? Or you haven't started pipelinig yet.

If it doesn't cost you any money because you hadn't paid for the tickets and she doesn't know that you were leaving. Why not stay a few extra days?

The only downside is if it doesn't work out. Unless you are doimg well financially or using miles you might have to stay around until you can book a cheap flight out.

[Windom Earle]

Take your holiday, and get some beach-side holiday snatch. The salt brings out the flavour.

The girl, and a great many number of others, will be there when you return.

I once waited 5 weeks for a chick to return from her trip after meeting her only briefly and getting her number.

Took a few dates for the panties to come off, but she could deep throat like no other, which made up for everything.

[Geomann180]

How long is your vacation?

[drasticallyspeaking]

Been here (UK) for 2 months so far. Up until yesterday I felt totally ready to get out of here and pretty unmotivated and unhappy with this country when I compare it to my recent time spent in EE or my life in the US. Haven't booked anything yet. But the girl I was with yesterday was really really great. Favorite hair color, favorite shade of skin color, close to favorite body type, likes some of the same nerdy stuff I do, good sense of humor.

I'm definitely going to Sweden in July for possibly up to 3 months, so this decision is basically about deciding where to kill a month while waiting around for that trip (can't go there now due to visa issues). I'm basically choosing whether to spend June here and continue with this girl that I really like or head to the beach and do some up close and personal surveying of the bikini-clad bodies of EE girls vs Scandinavian girls vs UK girls vs Mediterranean girls. No pipelining for the beach has been done. I'm more of a date around for a while and get into mini relationships type guy, so often times a ONS with a slut doesn't really feel "worth it" to me. I would rather build emotional connections with a few sweet girls then eventually make the best one of them my girlfriend. That's just my style. So from that perspective the beach vacation isn't even that likely to give me what I want since most people there are probably there for a week max. It does however provide me with a lot of data on a lot of hotties from a lot of different countries - fast.

My heart is basically pulling me in two directions.

1. Gather some visual data on the beach and try to decide what region of Europe's women have the best body type for me by pitting them head to head at the beach. Look at Russian girl in bikini. Turn head 30 degrees. Look at Swedish girl in bikini. Decide which makes my dick happier. Good solid science. One of the major goals of this period of my life is to try to identify if there's a certain country that is my own personal pussy paradise. So this type of opportunity to see these different girls side by side could be incredibly valuable to me.

or

2. Spend June hanging out with this girl who would possibly be LTR material if I wasn't traveling and unlikely to ever come back to her country again. I've mostly been unsuccessful trying to date hot non-sluts in this country so far (partly cause there are very few women out and about that I'm attracted or that motivate me, partly cause there's a lot of bad attitudes and cunts, a lot of sluts that I'm turned off by, partly cause I suck). So this might turn my time in the UK into something I can look back on and actually feel like it was valuable and enjoyable rather than a time and money sink.

[travolta]

I've been in this type of situation many times before. I'd be in a foreign country, meet an awesome girl like 4 days before I was planning to leave, leave the country, and never see her again. It happened a good amount of times and started getting pretty shitty. It depends on your situation in life really... do you have a job that you have to report to or do you run your own internet-based business (are you able to make your own schedule).

My advice is to do the following:
-If you're able to make your own schedule and work for yourself then I'd say to postpone your vacation and see her more. Reschedule your trip for a few weeks later. If you like her enough then bring her to the beach with you if all works out.
-If you work for somebody else and have a 9-5 type of job then no way in hell should you put off your vacation for her. See her when you return.

[turkishcandy]

This is just an illusion. It happened to me every time I stayed in a country for more than a month and was about to leave. There is always someone you look back to. It's almost like your brain is afraid to change your environment so it's making up romantic motives for you to linger in that environment some more. Or maybe it's your brain discouraging you from abandoning any pussy prospect at all.

Whatever the reason is, more often than not there will always be some girl who will make you want to give up all your plans and stay with her just for the novelty of it. Roosh has a very good blog post about this named Anna. Strangely, my girl was also named Anna.

You can either stay and pursue it only to disappointment and regret in the end, or you can leave and have nostalgia over unfulfilled romance. As I always say, you can either desire something or you can have it.

[Garzero]

It happened to me twice. I knew I had to leave so I was naturally aloof and bold, and this created attraction in the girls. First time I said to the girl that I was leaving and things worked great anyway: we were both sure of the reciprocal attraction, and I came back to see her (read:fucking the hell out of each other) more than once.
Second time I didn't say I was leaving. Banged the girl anyway. Didappeared without saying anything, coming back two weeks after and keep banging. But she sensed something and started put less passion in sex, so things faded away.
So my humble advice is: if she doesn't know you have to leave, stay. If she knows... well in this case if she is a good girl genuinely into you, you can have a talk about it and see what comes up. If you think she's a slut... be careful because staying only for her may result in her thinking she is too good for you ecc., with all the consequences we skilled players know.

[Renton1875]

Hey, Drasticallyspeaking.

Where in the UK did you eventually settle for?

Last I read you had landed in Glasgow.

Thought you might have kept us up to date during your stay, possibly could have fed you useful intel to make your trip more fruitful.

[mastauser]

Have the same here right now, I've been where I am 4 months, and I was and am feeling that it is time to leave. Although I got quite some notches here and look back quite fullfilled already.

And I also met a girl, with whom I have a great time. But still it feels a bit like it is time to go. Could be a new topic *When do you know that it is time to go home from traveling/temporarily living abroad*.

Cutting binge drinking helped a little bit but I still feel everything is done here. Even more short travels to explore, that are fun generally, don't sound attractive anymore.

[Garzero]

It happened to me twice. I knew I had to leave so I was naturally aloof and bold, and this created attraction in the girls. First time I said to the girl that I was leaving and things worked great anyway: we were both sure of the reciprocal attraction, and I came back to see her (read:fucking the hell out of each other) more than once.
Second time I didn't say I was leaving. Banged the girl anyway. Didappeared without saying anything, coming back two weeks after and keep banging. But she sensed something and started put less passion in sex, so things faded away.
So my humble advice is: if she doesn't know you have to leave, stay. If she knows... well in this case if she is a good girl genuinely into you, you can have a talk about it and see what comes up. If you think she's a slut... be careful because staying only for her may result in her thinking she is too good for you ecc., with all the consequences we skilled players know.

[WanderingSoul]

This girl isn't special, the real thing going on here is that you've been unhappy and depressed for two months. She seems way better than she is because you've been at a low point in your life and she's making it better. If you give a hungry person something to eat, it'll taste amazing, even if it's just some crackers and water. That's probably what's going on here. It's oneitis. We've all been there.

The real problem will happen if you decide to stay, and then she flakes. You'll be stuck somewhere that you're not happy and you're oneitis for this girl will go off the charts very easily if you can't control your emotions, which can be tough to do when stuck in a foreign country and depressed.

If I were you, I'd leave. I think staying for this girl is going to cause you a lot more heartache than she's worth.

[cascadecombo]

I've done it before. Planned to stay in a country for two weeks. Near the end I bedded this girl and had an already great vacation become just a little better.

I was lucky as I had another week or two of vacation I was planning to spend relaxing in the country I was working in. So I simply cancelled that flight and enjoyed the next week or two while crashing at her place and doing my thing while she worked.

With that said, I wouldn't recommend staying as you're taking a big risk. Just like RioNomad is saying, this is the type of thing where you may not have been having the best time and that chick was a nice pick me up. You can always tell her to come visit you, and if that happens well you know she's gotta be down.

I just had to make a decision like that the other day. I met two chicks on a resort island on Japan, who was giving all the signs as well as being chill to chat with. But the work schedule didn't work out for me to try anything more without sacrificing my vacation time/plans. In the end rather than changing up all I wanted to do for a chick, I got her saying she'll come visit me and while I expect a flake it's better than wasting your time.

[ElJefe1]

Go! Buy your tickets enjoy your month long trip, there are always more girls.