[Dalaran1991]

Many of you guys are already doing this, so I'm thinking we could all help each other perfect it.

This is pretty common especially if you and the girls are in the same big social circle/organization/events/group of friends together, where nobody really knows everybody but still "know" everybody, if you know what I mean

The approach is going well or neutral at least, and its time you drop your bait to either instant date/get number.

Something like this :

So we are throwing this party for ABC’s birthday (she doesn’t know who the fuck ABC is, but its a girl in the same setting), everybody’s coming its gonna be awesome blabla. You coming ?

Her : yeah that sounds great (most likely you will get this, but that doesnt mean she wont flake)

You : cool, give me your number, will give you a heads up. We’re gonna go to (insert favorite venue here), branch your conversation forward

A few variants I’ve encountered:

Her : yeah but I don’t know anyone

You : You are such a best personality of the year award. Everyone knows you but you dont know anyone ? Come on princess ! (this hooks their sense of drama like crazy. Nothing spins a girl’s hamster like the feeling everyone is talking about her but she’s in the dark)

Her : dramatic hamster response.

You : (keep teasing), so xyz at abc time, dont make everyone wait (smirk)

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You: so you coming to the party/event right?

Her: waiit, what party?

You: you've been living under a rock? Its the blabla

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Good side: I have like 80% show up rate with these techniques. It works because it plays on their social sense and drama sense. Plus it gives you the high status of connecter who knows everyone and every place to go to. Basically you treat her like you already know her for a long time. If there's ever a non-needy way of getting her out, this is it.

Bad side : it gives off too much of a casual vibe/just hanging out vibe and usually results in you two being in a group. Also negates a lot of sexual tension and anticipation (which explains the lower flake rate) I reckon since you are already out and about anyway, why not let her tag along?

If you are good with isolation escalation in a social setting, I think this could give you a great tool to reduce flake and gives off that chill vibe. I think this is what Gio talks about when he says « invite her to join you in your life »

If you are like me who are lower energy and usually do better one-on-one, this might not be all that great. Still its worthwhile because as long as you can see her there’s chance of things happening. Best thing is to play this with multiple girls and get them all out in a social setting with a few of your wings and game from there. DO NOT make the mistake of taking her where you dont have high status.

I’m still playing around with this and recently got a bang off of it (invite her to an aikido seminar), and a very low flake rate, but can’t say I’ve got a lot of bangs. Some fine-tuning in order

[MY DETROIT PLAYAS]

Another technique that you could use to build some anticipation, and make your intentions more clear at the same time

'Come looking good girl, I'm gonna save a dance for you'
'1st drink on me'

You can always play the facilitator role all the way out - taking her hand and introducing her to a few of "your" folks. They only add to your cool status. In a scene where 'nobody knows everyone but then again they know of others' you are the quasi host. In a unfamiliar setting folks will gravitate back to those they are the most familiar with. Comfort/familiarity works in your favor.