[Ausguy]

I've dated many women in my years but i've never had a girl that was such a bitch on a date! I'm 35, she is 30 and lives by herself.

I meet this girl, positive body language, flirty, i made playful physical contact, she was open to it so I got her number. She sms me the same day, I called her, flirty, good energy so I made a date to catch up 4 days later.

I sms her on the day and had to cancel! She sms me back in a positive manner.

A week later i bump into her at a party where she didn't know anyone and my mates didn't turn up. She seem very pissed off with me and cold, we had a drink and talked for an hour or two. When i tried to open my body language to her, she would close hers. She was open to light touching but I felt cause she was pissed with me and that she didn't want me to touch her. She doesn't drink but had one with me and started opening up on all this deep crap. I start to talk to some other people around me and she went into another area. I asked for a lift home and she was happy to drive me home. During our interaction, she was friendly but I could sense she wasn't happy with me (i thought it was due to cancelling on her).

3 weeks later she was at the same location as my friends. She was nice to me the whole time, we flirted a little, had good energy like the first day we met. I didn't really bother talking to her until near the end of the night where she sparked up random conversation with me where we giggled about basically nothing. (both sober)

Anyhow, i sms her and arranged another date to catch up! It was all locked in...

THE DATE:

Ok, i arrived 10-15 mins late and she sms me where i was. I told her the place we were suppose to go was closed and it put her into a shit mood. I took her out to dinner and she was a total bitch to me. Putting me down, hostile. Anyhow, i called her out on it after 20 mins "so... who die??" "what's up with all this hostility?" she kind of denied it then i said "if you going to continue to act this way, i'm going to take you home." We didn't talk for another 3-4 minutes and then she changed her attitude and was nice to me. By this time, I already made up in my mind she was going home (I didn't care, I had another date the next night), but on the way home after i said "I'm taking her home", she became more nice to me trying to make conversation but i was cold to her.

Has anyone experience his before on a date? Why does this mean?

[iknowexactly]

"Difficult women remain difficult". (Paul Janka)

Quickly and permanently dismiss them. (Blocking their number so they can't restart helps to get them out of your mind if you don't feel confident deleting their number.)

Don't suffer from the sunk cost fallacy, move on-- with increasing numbers.
"All Game is numbers game." (Roosh)

Otherwise, it's a case of perverse laziness, like sitting in your house with a sandwich with spoiled meat and trying to make the meat unspoiled, when all you have to do is go out and get another sandwich. The alternative is making yourself sick with attachment to something you should not be keeping around.

[Fortis]

What happens?

Next.

[OregonToSoCal]

I'm a little unclear of the timeline. You cancel on her on the day of the date and don't offer to reschedule? Then your only contact with her is a week later where you by chance run into her at a party? She's pissed because in her mind you flaked on her and never contacted her again. If a woman did that to me and I ran into her later my demeanor would be aloof and abrupt at best. I would likely say hello and then quickly move on to talking to other women. She quickly went into auto reject mode with you and there was no pulling out of that dive.

[WestIndianArchie]

When you were dominant and she became submissive.
If you want to bang her, that's what you need to do.

The problem isn't with her (per se), it's with your expectations about how women should behave.

Part 1 of 2

You expect to come at a chick as an equal, with a modicum of human respect that you afford to everyone. Some chicks are so damaged that they see decency and kindness as weakness. And by some chicks, in my experience, it's a lot of chicks.

They view some men as pushovers because they aren't being assholes to everyone around them.

I'd say the typical guy knows exactly how much power he actually has, and because of socialization he doesn't raise his voice much less his fists. Many a dude has that demon on his shoulder whispering things into his ear.

Unleash the beast? For what? Because she needs some drama in her life?

Part 2 of 2

Patrice talked about it, I mentioned it with some weird factoid about giraffe mating habits - but a chick will anger you as part of her way of getting you sexually excited and aroused. Consciously or unconsciously, many men fuck chicks that they dislike more brutally and angrily than ones that they do. As a chick once told me, "sometimes I just want to be pounded" And by sometimes, she meant all the time.

One of my long terms confided in me that her current bf and past bf's didn't know what to do with her when she got bitchy. She said she needed a course correction and they just didn't know how to give it to her. (Bitches say the damnedest things)

I wouldn't be surprised if the chick in your story responded well to a quick smack on the ass IN PUBLIC, with the barest hint of a smirk and nothing but authority in your voice.

In my experience, this is an unlit area of women's sexuality. 50 Shades of Grey, BDSM, love of dangerous men and assholes.... Be mindful and careful.

WIA

[Ausguy]

(02-12-2015 12:23 AM)OregonToSoCal Wrote:  

I'm a little unclear of the timeline. You cancel on her on the day of the date and don't offer to reschedule? Then your only contact with her is a week later where you by chance run into her at a party? She's pissed because in her mind you flaked on her and never contacted her again. If a woman did that to me and I ran into her later my demeanor would be aloof and abrupt at best. I would likely say hello and then quickly move on to talking to other women. She quickly went into auto reject mode with you and there was no pulling out of that dive.

that would explain our second in counter. I still put the charm on for the next 1-2 hours hence why she gave me a lift home but inside i believe she was pissed with me still for cancelling on her! i even explained that i had cold which i did but i can tell she didn't want to buy it.

I let her go but ran into her after 3 weeks. She seemed over it, no hostility and was flirty so i asked her out again... we didn't speak to the date where she was a total bitch!

i'm going to run into her again (same social circle). I still want to bang her but i don't tolerate bitchy girls...

I think i'm just going to just tease her (call her moody) and just forget about her. If she comes after me, ill response but seriously the guys are right... NEXT....

[AneroidOcean]

(02-12-2015 01:18 AM)Ausguy Wrote:  

I think i'm just going to just tease her (call her moody) and just forget about her. If she comes after me, ill response but seriously the guys are right... NEXT....

No! Don't tease her about that. Tease her, sure, but no need to tease her about that. If she acts bitchy, CHECK her. If you don't correct her course, she will continue on it and next you.

[Cobra]

I jizzed on her face .. It missed the mark and melted her hair..

"What does it mean?"

No offense OP .. There was a thread out there asking what it means that a lot of us had fun with. This revived that memory. Follow the advice above instead.

[Saweeep]

The reason she acted cold at the party:

There was another dude there she wanted more.

I've seen and experienced this behaviour from women before; a bigger alpha enters the room and suddenly her body language changes. She wants him to know that she isn't tied down to the guy she's talking to.

[Cyclone419]

Shes Bi-Polar. Automatic Next.