[minuteman12]

Hi there can someone help me. i have been talking briefly to this polish girl at work and i attempted to demonstrate higher value by speaking a few phrases in polish. i could tell she was impressed a little bit. then she comes on a saturday night and out of the blue asks me what i was doing tonight. i completely failed as i gave a lame response of nothing and then asked her what she was doing, to which she said she was watching a boxing match at her house. now she doesnt come in the store anymore and i always see her walking past.

can someone tell me did i mess up. how else would people do things. damn she was like at least an 8 and i keep racking my brains if something could have happened. thanks

[kaotic]

(11-24-2014 02:36 AM)minuteman12 Wrote:  

Hi there can someone help me. i have been talking briefly to this polish girl at work and i attempted to demonstrate higher value by speaking a few phrases in polish. i could tell she was impressed a little bit. then she comes on a saturday night and out of the blue asks me what i was doing tonight. i completely failed as i gave a lame response of nothing and then asked her what she was doing, to which she said she was watching a boxing match at her house. now she doesnt come in the store anymore and i always see her walking past.

can someone tell me did i mess up. how else would people do things. damn she was like at least an 8 and i keep racking my brains if something could have happened. thanks

When a girl asks me what I'm doing tonight, I assume she wants to hangout.

It sounded like she was inviting you to her house to watch the boxing match, which to me, sounds like she wanted to hook up.

You giving your excuse may have made her think you weren't interested and were blowing her off.

Unfortunately it sounds like might of blew it.

What exactly was your response/excuse ? Was this through text or in person ?

[minuteman12]

Yes this was in person. My response was to just ask her about her plans then i talked about boxing in general for a bit and then she left. Truth is i still don't know how i would have responded effectively.

[kaotic]

When she asked what you were doing, was a perfect opening for you getting her number and making solid plans.

All you need was a number and told her you'd text her in a bit because you've busy and have to work.

This helps you eject after getting the number and gives you time to think about a solid response and plans.

This is how I would've played it:
girl: what are you doing tonight ?
you: I've a got a few things going on, haven't decided, what about you ?
girl: oh watching the boxing match at my house ?
you: yeah ? Rad I love boxing, and you didn't even invite me !? -smirk-
girl: (i'm assuming this part) -laughs- "yeah" or she just laughs.
you: Tell you what maybe if you're luck,, I'll stop by with some beers and catch a couple rounds with you, what's your number ?
-exchange numbers-
you:Well it was nice talking to you, I gotta get back to work, we're about to be slammed, maybe i'll see you tonight -wink/smirk
-eject-

[minuteman12]

Thanks for the reply so i should have played it aloof style game.

[XXL]

You should have played "talkative" game. Just rambling and keeping the convo going. You just told her something and stopped. No wonder she left.

[minuteman12]

Update on the situation. She came in today...... but not alone. What im guessing was her boyfriend was walking with her and standing outside while i was serving her. Was she leading me on because i read bang poland and read the story about how roosh kept getting tricked. Should i let this go now or interrogate further?.

[michelin]

why dont't you just ask her if she has a BF? Don't waste your time trying to find out...

[minuteman12]

Its ok. thanks for the response i received. i will not pursue this further