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11-18-2014, 04:56 PM
Quote: (11-18-2014 04:21 PM)poutsara Wrote:
Quote: (11-13-2014 12:15 PM)Flint Wrote:
I have a hard time fully respecting a man who has the means to raise a family but deliberately decides not to do it.
Imagine this scenario:
You have an intergenerational family meeting. A huge one. ...... in the end everyone can agree on the wonder of life and that it's a good thing to see that they left a legacy, that helped not only their own children but many generations after them. To see that the great-grandchild of a rural farmworker and housemaid in Sicily owns a penthouse in Chicago. To see that the darn yuppie did not forget his roots and tells his kids about his Sicilian ancestors. To see that all the hardships and all the toil were eventually worth it. To see that not only the rich and the nobility have family histories to be proud of...
Now, everyone's turning toward you. ...
"So, how about you, young lad? Where is your wife? When are you gonna have kids so that we can have a bigger crowd for next year's meeting?"
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I clicked on "marry, kids".
This is an awesome post. I have visions of this. This is right on in my thinking. I often ask myself in any decision, "what would my grandfathers think about this?"
Turn it back on them: YOU didn't build todays legal environment. And feminists, also, didn't build it, not by themselves. They couldn't. MEN let women wreck society. The men of the 1920's who allowed them to vote. The men of the 1960's who allowed women to become COMPLETELY out of bounds with natural law. YOUR fathers and grandfathers and great grandfathers.
So maybe you, and you cousins, and your other young male friends should get all these old gentleman in a room. Your uncles, your father, your grandfather - all the old fools who let...THIS...happen. And you should each take a solid stick of wood and BEAT the brains right out of their heads.
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11-18-2014, 04:56 PM
1. Do not marry a woman from another country/culture unless you speak her language, or are willing to learn it.
2. Do not get married unless you specifically want to raise children.
3. If you decide to get married, get a prenup, but realize that your prenup might be voided. To prepare for this, prior to marriage you should protect any significant wealth in trusts that are safe from legal judgments. You can also do it on the cheap by hiding physical cash or precious metals in a foreign country. Being 45 and divorced and wiped out/divorce raped/broke sucks, but sucks a lot less if you have that 80k in liquid assets and a condo in someone else's name waiting for you in Thailand.
4. If possible, marry a woman of equal or greater socioeconomic status to you. The idea some men have of securing loyalty by getting some dirt poor Russian or Vietnamese village girl rarely works out in practice.
"Me llaman el desaparecido
Que cuando llega ya se ha ido
Volando vengo, volando voy
Deprisa deprisa a rumbo perdido"
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11-18-2014, 09:55 PM
On a related note, I ran a few Google searches about "hating my marriage" and invariably there were FAR more pages and related searches conducted regarding "hate my husband; want to divorce my husband", etc. It seems like men are much less likely to be moaning and groaning about their marriage on the internet and searching for validation for their desire for a divorce. It makes sense that most of the inquiries are from women I guess, since over 70% of divorces are initiated by women.
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11-18-2014, 10:41 PM
I'm the last straight man in my family to carry the name. The family tree has survived many wars, and who knows what else. The thought of it ending with me just seems silly. But I wouldn't get married in any way that involves the government.
If I somehow strike it rich and can afford it, I'd just have a harem with multiple "wives" and do everything I could to start an intelligent generation of young men and women, and teach them as much as possible about the world as I can.
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12-13-2014, 01:38 PM
Married. I actually went that route because I was able to find a girl who is more or less a Unicorn, thanks to being homeschooled by a large Catholic family, with a very masculine father, in a small town, and who grew up without access to television.
The other factor is my long term goals: I'm really not interested in having "tons of hot pussy", because girls can be pretty boring. I'm more interested in dedicating my energy to personal development and advancing my business interests.....both because I want to try my hand at those challenges and because that will enable me to get out and see more of the world. I didn't even consider marriage until I found a girl whose personality supports that goal and she more than delivers: she helps pay the bills, doesn't cause any drama, and keeps my needs met which enables me to focus all of my energy on advancing my career goals.
Definitely wouldn't recommend it for everyone though and definitely wouldn't recommend it with 99% of women out there. Looking back I can count the number of girls who would be good wives for some guy out there with a single hand. If you do get with a virgin. Breaking the hymen sucks but they tend to bond strong.
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12-14-2014, 01:36 PM
True that! (in response to the above poster)
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12-14-2014, 02:46 PM
Every single one of us could have dozens of kids if we wanted.
We are just animals, we are just here to reproduce, we are all in the shadow of Genghis Khan and Charlemagne.
We could have more living ancestors than George Washington or Churchill if we just tried.
We spend so much time and energy learning how to bed women without having offspring. We are literally right there, face to face with the entire point of existance, and choose to pull out. Its like creating a work of art and just as its done, throwing it in the trash.
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12-14-2014, 02:59 PM
Quote: (12-14-2014 02:46 PM)Sonsowey Wrote:
We are literally right there, face to face with the entire point of existance, and choose to pull out. Its like creating a work of art and just as its done, throwing it in the trash.
Lol, wow deep stuff man. I think though its more like once you've framed that canvas it's permanent, so 'why not try painting it again, it might be even better next time'.