[C2W]

Looking to hive mind this, anyone else have experience here?

I'm spinning this girl that will not shut up. She mostly bitches about people in her life, but when that's exhausted she'll prattle on about anything and everything. It gets old real quick, but I've sensed her withdrawing (even storming out once) if I don't indulge her. It's like she has a beta buffer that needs to be replenished before I use her as a plaything.

So what I started doing is the equivalent of Chris Rock's "told you that bitch was crazy." Let her go on and interjecting with "awesome" or "that sucks" when ever appropriate. It's not the most pleasant time spent, but the rewards are plentiful.

This girl was a nerd in school and is clueless to how hot she is now. Comes from a good family, was with one guy before me, and so long as I give her beta lip service she is very accommodating to my desires.

Is there a name for how I'm gaming her? How is it optimized?

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

Vulnerability game?

[Brian Shima]

Every man in a relationship on our planet is using this Game if you consider that Game

[WestIndianArchie]

The tactic is to agree and change the subject.
Dread works
Bemusement works
Agree and amplify
Ad Feminems...
There are other behavior modification tactics that work as well...

Tactics are fine, but what needs to change here is your perspective.

Chris Rocks' bit is about being in a committed relationship, and the fact that she talks a bunch, and he ain't got shit to say - yet they have to go through this ritual everyday. If I recall,

Chick - "They're trying to destroy me"
Chris Rock - "You work at (jc) Penny's!)

Unless this chick is your LTR, you live together, you have a kid...

There's no good reason to subject yourself to this sort of torture.

The world is NOT only filled with millions of attractive, compliant, and agreeable bitches....you need to be doing something with your time that is not in service to or pursuit of bitches.

You having to mollify this chick says much more about what you're willing to tolerate for a couple hours a week of some poon, and very little about the chick.

Next time you find yourself listening to some diatribe about how their needs to be a 3rd and 4th restroom option for Transgenders, ask yourself

"Self, is this what I really want to be doing with my time?"

WIA

(11-04-2014 09:21 AM)C2W Wrote:  

Looking to hive mind this, anyone else have experience here?

I'm spinning this girl that will not shut up. She mostly bitches about people in her life, but when that's exhausted she'll prattle on about anything and everything. It gets old real quick, but I've sensed her withdrawing (even storming out once) if I don't indulge her. It's like she has a beta buffer that needs to be replenished before I use her as a plaything.

So what I started doing is the equivalent of Chris Rock's "told you that bitch was crazy." Let her go on and interjecting with "awesome" or "that sucks" when ever appropriate. It's not the most pleasant time spent, but the rewards are plentiful.

This girl was a nerd in school and is clueless to how hot she is now. Comes from a good family, was with one guy before me, and so long as I give her beta lip service she is very accommodating to my desires.

Is there a name for how I'm gaming her? How is it optimized?

[Virtus]

[kaotic]

If she's that hot enough to deal with her annoying rants, then yes agree with her and change the subject.

Or better yet, control the frame and conversation.

[C2W]

Thanks all, interesting.

I can shut her up, but what I'm noticing is that doing so has a deleterious impact on her compliance.

Perfect example was Friday/Saturday. At dinner Friday I made little effort to indulge her she felt distant and just unresolved about her life. Whatever, she stays the night, it was OK. The next morning she takes an entire brain dump on me about how her boss is out to get her and I just lie there not doing anything sexual and not offering anything more than "that sucks." 60 minutes go by and it's as if the chemicals in her brain start changing. She thanks me for listening, blows me, makes breakfast, beats herself up for not wearing something sexier the night before. The next day she asks who she should vote for and if what she's wearing out with her girlfriend is frumpy enough.

What I'm saying is 90-minutes twice a week of "awesome"/"sucks" equals a 1950s housewife.

She's not dumb, I can bring her to work things, dolls herself up to an 8. Her best attribute is that she's not one of these entitled party sluts. The only thing I really have to do to keep her on lockdown is listen to her. Would you make that trade?

[Latan]

(11-05-2014 08:54 AM)C2W Wrote:  

What I'm saying is 90-minutes twice a week of "awesome"/"sucks" equals a 1950s housewife.

My current one did something a little bit similar.
She wanted me to listen to her life, then "rewarded" me with sex.

I thought it was a good deal, then she began slowly expending the times she needed to talk.
Then she also did it by SMS.
Then she tried to deny me sex if I didn't listen.

She only did it once, I directly put a stop to it, told her to stop telling me her life and didn't give news for a while.
It worked, even if I'm aware it's only temporary.

Don't let yours do the same to you.

[Sleazy]

(11-05-2014 09:19 AM)Latan Wrote:  

(11-05-2014 08:54 AM)C2W Wrote:  

What I'm saying is 90-minutes twice a week of "awesome"/"sucks" equals a 1950s housewife.

My current one did something a little bit similar.
She wanted me to listen to her life, then "rewarded" me with sex.

I thought it was a good deal, then she began slowly expending the times she needed to talk.
Then she also did it by SMS.
Then she tried to deny me sex if I didn't listen.

She only did it once, I directly put a stop to it, told her to stop telling me her life and didn't give news for a while.
It worked, even if I'm aware it's only temporary.

Don't let yours do the same to you.

The second a woman starts using sex as a tool to get what they want is the second you should drop her like a sack of bricks.

[AneroidOcean]

(11-05-2014 08:54 AM)C2W Wrote:  

The only thing I really have to do to keep her on lockdown is listen to her. Would you make that trade?

I really don't see this as being a big issue. Spending a little time listening to her? That's what she craves and then it makes her crave your dick?

It's one thing if she's actually withholding sex or some nonsense, but I don't see a problem with it.

Sure, and hour of bitching is too much, but listening to 10-15 minutes of her talking about whatever isn't that big a deal.

I suspect it's not that great a match other than physical.

My girl will want to talk about her work or whatever here and there but it usually doesn't last long because she's upbeat and I can usually get her laughing and then we're just having a great time and there's no bitch-fest.

[Catch 22]

Shit, if TV's on and you only have to half listen, sounds like a fine trade to me.

Better yet, use it to escalate and shut her up. "When you get fired up like that, it gets me going and I just have to fuck you right now blah blah blah."