[Moma]

(09-30-2014 05:48 PM)Travesty444 Wrote:  

MattC, I am not sure you could get a clear indication of American girls if you have a British accent. Maybe in NYC it would have a bit less effect, but most girls would treat you a bit better solely for the accent.

They would treat him better initially but he would still get the vapid behaviour...

[polar]

I forget if this was covered already, but girls from families where parents stayed together until they hit 18 or are still together are much better than girls with parents who divorced when young.

This is based on a small sample, but girls who were adopted seem to be clustered on the "giver" side. Probably because families who adopt are well-screened and don't have much drama between them (likely to stay together), make a conscious decision, and want to make a difference.

A former LTR who had the best personality / was the most enjoyable to be around was actually a foster care kid who was taken in by a traditional, married couple. She's now getting her master's in social work - so while she'd make the occasional SJW remark (about societal trends, never herself - influenced by her education, I'd let it slide)*, she acted feminine around the clock - cooking, massages, high heels, etc.

*if a girl makes femininist-laden remarks directly applicable to herself or your behavior, hit the escape button.

[Mentavious]

these thai girls that people rave about being feminine and caring doesn't apply to any rich ones. My main girl and her friends can be spoiled and entitled but they at least have reasons to be. They still act better than many American girls tho

[Ingocnito]

(09-29-2014 12:24 AM)anonymous123 Wrote:  

@Nomad77 - I agree completely. I've been dating a South American, and she just randomly washes dishes. She thinks ahead "he loves his coffee, and all his coffee cups are dirty...I better wash them so they are ready in the morning".

It might sound like this is insignificant, but unlike an American, she is looking for little things that she knows I appreciate and wants to do them to make things nice.

[I've had the American, and the costly American divorce...got the t-shirt...not going to repeat]

Man sometimes it's easy to get overly affectionate with women that do the automatic shit.. the simple shit like dishes, bringing you stuff you don't ask for. Since in the US we're so conditioned to either have to ask for it or just never happens.

True giver-chicks have potential to be the queens of female game. Some US broads add this to their arsenal then stop doing it with a sniff of commitment from a man. Or, past the 2-3 month mark.

I think it's difficult to gauge a giver in the US without a mini-relationship and some mileage to prove it'll last.

[dholland662]

Basic evo psych regarding Reciprocal Altruism tells us we should be in a relationship where both parties give and take in accordance with one another to achieve a harmonious relationship.

It says a lot about our culture that this basic foundational truth to human group interaction is ignored.

A girl saying "Thank you" can mean a lot but one should expect more. However, in my experience (limited) you can make a girl who says thank you do more than say thank you. You cannot change a girl who fails to say thank you.
Saying thank you is lesson one your parents should teach you, if she missed that lesson she had a shit upbringing.

[vancitygame]

i think nomad has been with the wrong woman... or the same race all the time.. try Asian woman they are great givers ; )

[vancitygame]

ALSO you cant categorize woman in one country.. every place has its people and every person is different.
People do that a lot tho. Ill experience something and question if it happens in other places... this is the world anything can happen anywhere at any time.
Sometimes you're own opinions get in the way of reality.

[Nomad77]

@vancitygame Once a woman has lived in America for more than a year she is now American and no longer whatever she was before.

[polar]

(10-06-2014 02:50 PM)Nomad77 Wrote:  

@vancitygame Once a woman has lived in America for more than a year she is now American and no longer whatever she was before.

Nomad, you think it takes about a year for a foreign girl to become Americanized in behavior? Can you expand on this?

[Nomad77]

A year is being generous, six months! It really depends on the girl. The weaker her personality and self-esteem the more quickly she will want to adopt American ways. It also depends on whether her close friends are American or foreign. The younger she is the more quickly this will happen also. So there are many factors that affect how quickly a particular girl will become Americanized but usually within 6 - 12 she will be pretty much a goner. You have to remember, she has nothing to lose by becoming Americanized and everything to gain! She won't lose even one guy by changing.

As a young American girl once told me: "whether I am nice or not guys still do whatever I want, so why should I be nice."

[polar]

I think that Miami might have something to do with how fast you think it happens. I'd say that in the northeast, it's a couple years for the process to complete, yes, give or take the variables, religion / strength of faith being a big one.

Throw up a data sheet on how to meet fresh off the boat girls at the airport

[Ingocnito]

(10-06-2014 05:19 PM)Nomad77 Wrote:  

A year is being generous, six months! It really depends on the girl. The weaker her personality and self-esteem the more quickly she will want to adopt American ways. It also depends on whether her close friends are American or foreign. The younger she is the more quickly this will happen also. So there are many factors that affect how quickly a particular girl will become Americanized but usually within 6 - 12 she will be pretty much a goner. You have to remember, she has nothing to lose by becoming Americanized and everything to gain! She won't lose even one guy by changing.

As a young American girl once told me: "whether I am nice or not guys still do whatever I want, so why should I be nice."

I met a Jordanian girl I've been gaming on/off for while. The more I get to know her the uglier she gets. She's been in the states 13 years and I swear she did everything possible to embrace the shit-fem culture of the US. Tramp stamp, nose ring, other worthless tatts, really obscene mouth. Gorgeous face however, and ok bod.

Our last conversation reached the point where I simply told her she ruined herself by Americanizing. I told her it was sad because, it's so cliche and predictable. She proceeded to hint to me that another Mid Eastern friend of her's might be her lesbo dyke pal. shocking.

Time to plant the 3-way seeds.