When we meet women, we tend to be subconsciously put them into a box. The jump-off is one of those boxes. Jump-offs are chicks who you are willing to continuously have sex with, but have no real desire to have a regular type of relationship with.
Jump-offs keep getting sex from you simply because the sex is good. Without that, the chick is just a one-night stand or fling that you get rid of after you realize there's no potential on any front, which shouldn't take more than two encounters -- I typically don't expect the first sexual encounter to be great, but it has to be good enough for there to be a second; chicks who are too freaky too soon, that's a red flag.
As you deal with your jump-offs, I think you should conduct yourself by a code, or what we'll call "The Jump-off Rulebook". In doing so, you'll keep the drama to a minimum. The fact remains, there are three sides to every relationship: yours, hers, the truth. As long as the other two sides are somewhat close to yours, you'll maintain control of the situation.
You will lose control as soon as the girl starts to believe that she is more than a jump-off, and the drama will ensue.
1. Keep Communication To A Minimum
You should not be talking to your jump-off regularly. No phone calls, no texting, no facebooking, no tweeting, no whatever. Your communication with her should take place only around the time you want to hook up.
That means if you're going out Saturday night, and you want her to be available in case you strike out at the club or on your date with another chick, who you might not view as a jump-off, hit her up during the day/early evening. Let her know that you'd like to see her "later on". Don't give her an exact time and don't give her details about your plans. Ultimately, you're going to do whatever it is you're doing, it's going to run late, you're going to fall asleep, whatever excuse you need to give, and then at 2:00-3:00 in the morning, you're going to let her know that you want to see her.
It doesn't hurt if you periodically message her throughout the evening, even if it's just random bullshit, the goal is to keep her waiting for you. As time goes on, you won't have to do this as much, you'll literally be able to just hit her up whenever and be like "hey let's chill", and she'll be down.
If you don't have plans and you just want to get it in, get a bottle or have her get a bottle and chill. After a couple of drinks, it's time to fuck.
2. Don't Let Her Waste Your Time
The plan with a jump-off is to fuck. If she gives you any type of energy that isn't about fucking, don't link up with her. If you get together, and then she starts showing you that kind of energy, you have to end the interaction. I usually have a built-in excuse going in that limits our time together, so after we're done, I can quickly be out, or if we're not going to start, I can leave and she doesn't feel like I just came over to fuck.
3. Don't Introduce Her To Anybody You Know, Don't Meet Anyone She Knows
This part could be difficult, like let's say the girl is your neighbor and she has a roommate, but that's not what I'm talking about. If she has other friends over and she tries to invite you over, don't go. Tell her to hit you up "later on", chances are the buddies won't still be there late at night by the time you plan on getting it in.
One of the reasons she will try to introduce you to her friends is because she will tell her friends she has a boyfriend or that she's seeing someone, and then present you to them as that, you're not that. She's going to tell herself and others anyway that she has a boyfriend, even though she knows that's not the case, she wants to protect her ego and keep up an appearance, so she's not going to tell herself or people she knows that in reality, she's just a person you hit up when you want to fuck and nothing else better is poppin' off.
The other side of it is, don't introduce her to anyone you know. Look, this is a girl you are fucking. She is not your girlfriend, your friends don't need to know her, because you won't be doing ANYTHING social with her along with them, which takes me to the next rule.
4. Don't Do Anything Outside Of Hooking Up With Her
You do not take your jump-off to dinner. You do not take her to a movie. You don't go to the mall with her. You don't do anything social with a jump-off. She will try to have you meet up for drinks or something along those lines, you have to play that shit to the left.
5. Don't Go Out of Your Way To Treat Her Like A Jump-Off
When you do spend time with her, it's cool to give her the impression that you like her more than you actually do. That doesn't mean sweet-talk her and give her cute nicknames and shit, it just means that it's cool if you acknowledge that you like spending time with her, just don't put extras on it. Obviously she assumes you like her because you continue to see her, but don't feel the need to treat her like shit just because you don't have real feelings for her.
Remember, a real player knows how to make a girl feel like "she's the only one", even when she isn't.
6. and 7. Ration The Dick and The Cum; Don't Cum In Her
You should not be fucking your jump-off three, four times a week. Sometimes the sexual chemistry is high and the sex is really good, but if you fuck her regularly, she starts getting the wrong idea whether you like it or not. Fuck her periodically and on your terms. When she starts fishing for dick, which she will, most of the time you have to play her to left, and sometimes you can indulge because maybe at the moment you're thinking about having a piece of her too.
Also, don't cum every time you fuck your jump-off. If the chick is worth it at all, your sexual satisfaction matters to her. She wants you to cum, and it probably frustrates her if you don't, and she begins to think she's not doing her job, so she'll keep fucking you to please you. She probably wants you to cum in her, but don't do that.
The last thing you want is a chick who you don't even want to introduce to your friends becoming the mother of your child.
8. Don't Spend Money On Your Jump-Off, Nor Do Her Favors
If it's not for bud, liquor, or a notel room, you don't spend money on your jump-off. No gifts on her birthday, don't pay her phone bill, or anything like that, and obviously no gifts or attention on any days or time periods typically reserved for couples. Furthermore, don't do any favors for her. If she's trying to get you to do a favor or bust a mission for her, again play that shit to the left, she will try once or twice, but after a couple no's or you're too busy or whatever, she'll stop.
9. Give Your Jump-Off An Expiration Date
At some point your jump-off is going to start showing her ass, and when she does that, you gotta start preparing for cutoff.
I know dudes who have been fucking their jump-offs for years.
Fuck that.
First off, the longer you fuck her, the more she starts to believe that she's your chick, and you're her man; you don't have to take her to Red Lobster for that to start. Second, you should be working towards having quality relationships with better women. Remember, chicks are jump-offs because they lack the things you'd want a girl that you'd enter into a real relationship with to have. There may be a variety of reasons for that, but the bottom line is, she's in the jump-off box so she stays in the jump-off box, until you're ready to move on.
Feel free to add onto these rules as we continue to discuss this issue.
Jump-offs keep getting sex from you simply because the sex is good. Without that, the chick is just a one-night stand or fling that you get rid of after you realize there's no potential on any front, which shouldn't take more than two encounters -- I typically don't expect the first sexual encounter to be great, but it has to be good enough for there to be a second; chicks who are too freaky too soon, that's a red flag.
As you deal with your jump-offs, I think you should conduct yourself by a code, or what we'll call "The Jump-off Rulebook". In doing so, you'll keep the drama to a minimum. The fact remains, there are three sides to every relationship: yours, hers, the truth. As long as the other two sides are somewhat close to yours, you'll maintain control of the situation.
You will lose control as soon as the girl starts to believe that she is more than a jump-off, and the drama will ensue.
1. Keep Communication To A Minimum
You should not be talking to your jump-off regularly. No phone calls, no texting, no facebooking, no tweeting, no whatever. Your communication with her should take place only around the time you want to hook up.
That means if you're going out Saturday night, and you want her to be available in case you strike out at the club or on your date with another chick, who you might not view as a jump-off, hit her up during the day/early evening. Let her know that you'd like to see her "later on". Don't give her an exact time and don't give her details about your plans. Ultimately, you're going to do whatever it is you're doing, it's going to run late, you're going to fall asleep, whatever excuse you need to give, and then at 2:00-3:00 in the morning, you're going to let her know that you want to see her.
It doesn't hurt if you periodically message her throughout the evening, even if it's just random bullshit, the goal is to keep her waiting for you. As time goes on, you won't have to do this as much, you'll literally be able to just hit her up whenever and be like "hey let's chill", and she'll be down.
If you don't have plans and you just want to get it in, get a bottle or have her get a bottle and chill. After a couple of drinks, it's time to fuck.
2. Don't Let Her Waste Your Time
The plan with a jump-off is to fuck. If she gives you any type of energy that isn't about fucking, don't link up with her. If you get together, and then she starts showing you that kind of energy, you have to end the interaction. I usually have a built-in excuse going in that limits our time together, so after we're done, I can quickly be out, or if we're not going to start, I can leave and she doesn't feel like I just came over to fuck.
3. Don't Introduce Her To Anybody You Know, Don't Meet Anyone She Knows
This part could be difficult, like let's say the girl is your neighbor and she has a roommate, but that's not what I'm talking about. If she has other friends over and she tries to invite you over, don't go. Tell her to hit you up "later on", chances are the buddies won't still be there late at night by the time you plan on getting it in.
One of the reasons she will try to introduce you to her friends is because she will tell her friends she has a boyfriend or that she's seeing someone, and then present you to them as that, you're not that. She's going to tell herself and others anyway that she has a boyfriend, even though she knows that's not the case, she wants to protect her ego and keep up an appearance, so she's not going to tell herself or people she knows that in reality, she's just a person you hit up when you want to fuck and nothing else better is poppin' off.
The other side of it is, don't introduce her to anyone you know. Look, this is a girl you are fucking. She is not your girlfriend, your friends don't need to know her, because you won't be doing ANYTHING social with her along with them, which takes me to the next rule.
4. Don't Do Anything Outside Of Hooking Up With Her
You do not take your jump-off to dinner. You do not take her to a movie. You don't go to the mall with her. You don't do anything social with a jump-off. She will try to have you meet up for drinks or something along those lines, you have to play that shit to the left.
5. Don't Go Out of Your Way To Treat Her Like A Jump-Off
When you do spend time with her, it's cool to give her the impression that you like her more than you actually do. That doesn't mean sweet-talk her and give her cute nicknames and shit, it just means that it's cool if you acknowledge that you like spending time with her, just don't put extras on it. Obviously she assumes you like her because you continue to see her, but don't feel the need to treat her like shit just because you don't have real feelings for her.
Remember, a real player knows how to make a girl feel like "she's the only one", even when she isn't.
6. and 7. Ration The Dick and The Cum; Don't Cum In Her
You should not be fucking your jump-off three, four times a week. Sometimes the sexual chemistry is high and the sex is really good, but if you fuck her regularly, she starts getting the wrong idea whether you like it or not. Fuck her periodically and on your terms. When she starts fishing for dick, which she will, most of the time you have to play her to left, and sometimes you can indulge because maybe at the moment you're thinking about having a piece of her too.
Also, don't cum every time you fuck your jump-off. If the chick is worth it at all, your sexual satisfaction matters to her. She wants you to cum, and it probably frustrates her if you don't, and she begins to think she's not doing her job, so she'll keep fucking you to please you. She probably wants you to cum in her, but don't do that.
The last thing you want is a chick who you don't even want to introduce to your friends becoming the mother of your child.
8. Don't Spend Money On Your Jump-Off, Nor Do Her Favors
If it's not for bud, liquor, or a notel room, you don't spend money on your jump-off. No gifts on her birthday, don't pay her phone bill, or anything like that, and obviously no gifts or attention on any days or time periods typically reserved for couples. Furthermore, don't do any favors for her. If she's trying to get you to do a favor or bust a mission for her, again play that shit to the left, she will try once or twice, but after a couple no's or you're too busy or whatever, she'll stop.
9. Give Your Jump-Off An Expiration Date
At some point your jump-off is going to start showing her ass, and when she does that, you gotta start preparing for cutoff.
I know dudes who have been fucking their jump-offs for years.
Fuck that.
First off, the longer you fuck her, the more she starts to believe that she's your chick, and you're her man; you don't have to take her to Red Lobster for that to start. Second, you should be working towards having quality relationships with better women. Remember, chicks are jump-offs because they lack the things you'd want a girl that you'd enter into a real relationship with to have. There may be a variety of reasons for that, but the bottom line is, she's in the jump-off box so she stays in the jump-off box, until you're ready to move on.
Feel free to add onto these rules as we continue to discuss this issue.
