[michaeladilet]

My ex girlfriend had ignored the last 5 texts I sent her.. I asked her for a date and shit and no response..

Last week I went on a date with a new girl and all of a sudden the next day my ex texts me:
-Were you over by *** university yesterday?

I replied - I always knew you had a thing for me. But stalking, thats a bit much!

She said - you didnt answer me lol

I said - Cute. youre so concerned about where i am. i was there.

She said - Na really lol im happy for u and ur date if that was actually you haha congrats!

Game plan? I would want to sleep with her

[aphelion]

Ignore the ex. Move on.

[michaeladilet]

(09-07-2014 11:56 AM)aphelion Wrote:  

Ignore the ex. Move on.

I want to use jealousy to sleep with the ex.

[HawkWrites]

You're getting oneitis hard ESPECIALLY if you're using jealousy as a reason.

Go no-contact and focus on other people.

[Travesty]

Text her "pls stop txtin me thx", that will make her hamster spin. Don't answer her response. Try to get her seeing you with even another chick.

Ignore any texts she sends in response. 2 months down the road hit her up and act like nothing happened.

[Redwood]

Next.

[polar]

Based on her texts, sounds like she was the one to end this and she's moved on. Once they take you out of the sex zone and place you in the friend zone, you're most likely not coming back out. Even if she sees you with a new girl who's two points hotter, she'll just think "wow, that girl doesn't even know what a loser he is".

[michaeladilet]

(09-07-2014 06:16 PM)polar Wrote:  

Based on her texts, sounds like she was the one to end this and she's moved on. Once they take you out of the sex zone and place you in the friend zone, you're most likely not coming back out. Even if she sees you with a new girl who's two points hotter, she'll just think "wow, that girl doesn't even know what a loser he is".

the mistake was getting moved out of the sex zone in the first place. you're right. i fucked up the dynamics of this one from the start.

[MrXY]

Next time she texts you answer

"Who is this?"

[Dr. Howard]

(09-07-2014 08:15 PM)MrXY Wrote:  

Next time she texts you answer

"Who is this?"

+1 million.

[polar]

+1 on "who is this". Don't initiate contact, if she never texts you again, so be it. 95/100 she's a lost cause

OP - the other thing I'd recommend in your shoes is not over gaming. Based on your texts in the OP you're trying to be funny and witty too much. I went through this myself, it's like you get rewarded with positive reactions from her when you make smart remarks so you keep hitting the button...but soon she realizes that you can't deliver value (you may or may not have value to offer) other than of the cheap entertainment.

[AneroidOcean]

(09-07-2014 11:52 AM)michaeladilet Wrote:  

My ex girlfriend had ignored the last 5 texts I sent her.. I asked her for a date and shit and no response..

(bunch of other bullshit)

Game plan? I would want to sleep with her

Move on.

[robreke]

Lined up a drink date at a nice restaurant/bar with an ex short term girlfriend this weekend. we only broke up a few weeks ago. We'd been having great sex but when I asked for exclusivity two weeks ago...she broke it off as she likes to "control her time" and she felt "smothered" that particular weekend. In our random texting the past two weeks she keeps mentioning she's been 'thinking about me'

When I suggested we get together for a drink she readily accepted and offered a night to meet.

This is my first get together with an ex in a long time and I don't want to fuck it up. I'm not sure I'm interested in LTR with her but at least want her back in my life ( for sex for sure!)

How should I approach/play it? I was thinking just be lighthearted and fun and don't bring up the reasons we broke up or try to have a "talk" unless she does. Also....I'm thinking don't even mention a second date at the end of this one?

If it goes well at the end I'll suggest going to my place....but I'm thinking she may want to take it slow. I just don't want to come across as needy or "smothering" again as she said I was on our last date before the breakup. I'm looking for advice on how to have a "first date" with an ex.

[amity]

'Smothering' means she doesn't view it as a serious relationship, so that's how you should view it too.
Make sure to not come across as needy, if she smells neediness, it's goodnight irene.
Even if you don't have, act like you have 'two in the kitty' a la heartiste.
It will serve you well here, and just in general with women.
Sure, try and work it for her to come over to your place, have some kind of prop in place, or something you want to show her.
The alternative is asshole/neanderthal game, if you can pull it off, and with the right kind of girl, it can be very effective, but be warned that this can backfire.
Not all chicks respond so well to this, unless you really have the alpha vibe about you.
Ultimately though, know this.
9.5 times out of 10, exes are really not worth the hassle and (potential) heartbreak
They're exes for a reason, whether it was you or her that broke it off.
Do not pin your hopes on this chick cos sooner or later, she will show her true colours again, and the soulcrushing spectre of oneitis could come to haunt you for years.
If you must, get in, get some ass, and get out again.
Anything more than that will, in all liklihood, result in a world of pain.

[heavy]

Alphalpha - "What" (almost zero energy input, but respond to spin her wheel faster)
liz - "I think I saw you by **"
Alphalpha - "is this liz#42"
liz - "What!!! You know who it is!!"

Then let her unzip your pants and allow her to proceed toward copulation. But based on your post and text exchange you're too invested. Context + exchange shows try hard. You've already banged her. You've won the war, you own the farm...act like it.

Edit: I've been there too many times. It's usually a slight feeling, so subtle you don't know it till afterward or if you see it in someone else...but it's there. We've all been there.

[robreke]

(09-12-2014 11:02 AM)amity Wrote:  

'Smothering' means she doesn't view it as a serious relationship, so that's how you should view it too.
Make sure to not come across as needy, if she smells neediness, it's goodnight irene.
Even if you don't have, act like you have 'two in the kitty' a la heartiste.
It will serve you well here, and just in general with women.
Sure, try and work it for her to come over to your place, have some kind of prop in place, or something you want to show her.
The alternative is asshole/neanderthal game, if you can pull it off, and with the right kind of girl, it can be very effective, but be warned that this can backfire.
Not all chicks respond so well to this, unless you really have the alpha vibe about you.
Ultimately though, know this.
9.5 times out of 10, exes are really not worth the hassle and (potential) heartbreak
They're exes for a reason, whether it was you or her that broke it off.
Do not pin your hopes on this chick cos sooner or later, she will show her true colours again, and the soulcrushing spectre of oneitis could come to haunt you for years.
If you must, get in, get some ass, and get out again.
Anything more than that will, in all liklihood, result in a world of pain.

That's just it isn't it? The fine line between getting that sweet poon again weighed against the balance that you may start to ( or rekindle ) emotions and then when it breaks off, you'll be hurting for weeks if not more.

The oneitis that haunts you for a long time. I want the poon. I want to try for it again. But do I want to re open wounds. Sometimes it's difficult to separate emotions. I suppose it must be a conscious thing while fucking like looking at her as a whore or some such.

[robreke]

(09-12-2014 05:05 PM)robreke Wrote:  

(09-12-2014 11:02 AM)amity Wrote:  

'Smothering' means she doesn't view it as a serious relationship, so that's how you should view it too.
Make sure to not come across as needy, if she smells neediness, it's goodnight irene.
Even if you don't have, act like you have 'two in the kitty' a la heartiste.
It will serve you well here, and just in general with women.
Sure, try and work it for her to come over to your place, have some kind of prop in place, or something you want to show her.
The alternative is asshole/neanderthal game, if you can pull it off, and with the right kind of girl, it can be very effective, but be warned that this can backfire.
Not all chicks respond so well to this, unless you really have the alpha vibe about you.
Ultimately though, know this.
9.5 times out of 10, exes are really not worth the hassle and (potential) heartbreak
They're exes for a reason, whether it was you or her that broke it off.
Do not pin your hopes on this chick cos sooner or later, she will show her true colours again, and the soulcrushing spectre of oneitis could come to haunt you for years.
If you must, get in, get some ass, and get out again.
Anything more than that will, in all liklihood, result in a world of pain.

That's just it isn't it? The fine line between getting that sweet poon again weighed against the balance that you may start to ( or rekindle ) emotions and then when it breaks off, you'll be hurting for weeks if not more.

The oneitis that haunts you for a long time. I want the poon. I want to try for it again. But do I want to re open wounds. Sometimes it's difficult to separate emotions. I suppose it must be a conscious thing while fucking like looking at her as a whore or some such in order to keep one's emotions at bay.

[BadgerHut]

(09-08-2014 06:58 AM)Dr. Howard Wrote:  

(09-07-2014 08:15 PM)MrXY Wrote:  

Next time she texts you answer

"Who is this?"

+1 million.

A Roissy special: if YOU get a "who is this?" text, reply with "Kanye West." Works every time!

[HawkWrites]

(09-07-2014 11:52 AM)michaeladilet Wrote:  

My ex girlfriend had ignored the last 5 texts I sent her.. I asked her for a date and shit and no response..

Last week I went on a date with a new girl and all of a sudden the next day my ex texts me:
-Were you over by *** university yesterday?

I replied - I always knew you had a thing for me. But stalking, thats a bit much!

She said - you didnt answer me lol

I said - Cute. youre so concerned about where i am. i was there.

She said - Na really lol im happy for u and ur date if that was actually you haha congrats!

Game plan? I would want to sleep with her

Don't. Move the hell on. You're setting yourself up for more problems than she's worth if you continue pursuing.

The fact of the matter is that the ex always remembers you as the person that you were prior to the split; they will never recognize you as a different individual. It's considerably more work trying to make this happen than it is to move on to a new specimen and cut your losses completely.

The long and short: start gaming other women.

[BadgerHut]

This weekend I texted my ex-gf 20 minutes before kickoff to meet me at a bar to watch some NFL football. She bought me brunch!