Today I had the proof that the most beautiful girls never get approached
09-09-2014, 04:30 PM
The hot girl paradox is often misunderstood, I will try to sum it up here:
It is one of the most complex paradoxes in the whole of game theory, so unfortunately it cannot be summed up in less lines.
1.1 Very attractive women, 9s (9.5s if you are coming from the American system - catwalk model quality) and up, get approached significantly less than 6s, 7s and 8s. This is pretty much applicable everywhere in the world, men have greater self-esteem issues than women and almost all have strong limiting beliefs. Most men never even come into contact with such women, and therefore their image of them is based on what they see on television. They imagine a life of glamour when she is often a broke girl living in a shitty apartment. As such, if 99.99% of men have strong limiting beliefs, 99.99% of men don't approach these girls.
1.2 They meet men through their social circle that mostly fit three categories: wealthy old betas looking to buy her, gays and approval-seeking asslickers. The gays are usually the men they are interested in, as they have game, but obviously access is closed off. The approval seekers are approval seekers for a reason, if you are a man with limiting beliefs (essentially every single man on the planet except the unicorns), you will interact with this girl if there is a green light of some kind (an introduction, etc.). When you do, you resort to approval-seeking, which is the strong natural instinct in these cases. Then you have the old betas trying to buy her. Sometimes she will go down this route, which I don't blame her for. If I had some ugly girl throwing money at me, I would take it aswell. In K-selected societies like Russia there is often a pendulum between their Disney training and her easy access to money, with many juggling love and money in two different men at once. In R-selected societies it can go both ways, a girl using men for money and having one-night-stands with the men she finds attractive. There is often a juggle between both, but glamour gets old quickly. Champagne and men of advanced age get old quickly, due to the lottery principle (you win the lottery and gain a lot of happiness, after a while your new fortune becomes normal and your happiness is returned to stability). Sometimes in the FSU they grow tired of it and just go back to this when they must, due to basic necessity (eg. you say many 9s on the Metro in Moscow, a city where there are tons of billionaires who would happily drive these girls around in Bentleys). In their emotions and logic (the latter only in the case of K-girls), they are always seeking for the ultimate emotional prize, which to a woman is pairbonding (see point 2.1).
2. There is a dearth of value. I see some men talking about models and high status men, in which case they have missed a key component of value, which is game. Do not underestimate the power of game. Looks or status in a man correlate only to one thing: attraction, which in women is very fleeting a superficial feeling (and often times the power of game is even more influential on attraction). Game has another very key component, which is connection. It comes down to this principle: The amount of men in the world who have such abundance they 1.truly in their hearts don't care if they lose her or not, 2.truly in their hearts see her as a lower value they are entitled to and 3. truly in their hearts are not scared of treating her like shit (or like a normal human being, unlike the treatment she receives from everyone else), are virtually none. Not even the best players. This is why these girls almost always fall in love with gay men, talk to any model and she will tell you about this. The men who have this kind of belief system are those who have a different set of priorities, they don't see looks as the ultimate expression of female value, but truly in their hearts believe that female value is somewhere else, which means they can see a pretty girl for who and what she is, which is the ultimate depedestalization. When this happens, they adopt the three traits mentioned above, very attractive women become discardable and interchangeable, which is the fundamental missing mindset in 99.99% of men.
2.1 9s get attracted to men frequently. They rarely, if even once in their life, get the chance to fall in love with a man who is in love back. This is the ultimate female desire, a woman is not made for fucking around or for golddigging wealthy old guys, she is made for pairbonding. They crave this more than anything in the world, and it is the state in which they are at the most ecstatic and happy. I must make a distinction here between R-selected societies and K-selected societies. In R-selected societies, the forebrain mentality will be messed up, but she is a woman nonetheless, her emotions are the same as every other girl, and her thoughts change along with her emotions. Nonetheless, I must state that she is riding the cock carousel just like her uglier counterparts, so the rules will be slightly balanced to ponder this (but the same rules are applicable if she does pairbond, these girls fall in love more easily than most for reasons I describe below - this would put her in the aprox. 25% of R-bangs that turn into relationships through female bonding). In K-selected societies, women want this in their forebrain, they believe that they want it, and when they see a rare suitable candidate, a unicorn, they get unordinarily excited. I'm sure many of you have some stories from the FSU where girls you thought were way above you were actually really excited that you were in their life. The overall message of point 2.1 is that the pool of suitable candidates (factoring in both attraction and connection - by this I mean alpha males with both soft and hard dominance, in a rare league of their own) for a 9 is near-zero, whereas a 7 has access to a greater number of suitable candidates. As I have mentioned before, the true value in these cases is an emotionally-defined one, the only one that counted for anything in the tribal days. This emotionally-defined value is present only in men who know how to treat women in the way they are wired to be treated. Unfortunately, society spoke men into believing this is out of their reach (and in the same way the person reading this post believes it, so does the next guy and every single guy on the planet except a few elite players).
2.2 Consider also that she is very tall. What is the chance that she will meet a man who is not only this rare unicorn (of which she is lucky if she meets 1 or 2 in her entire lifetime), but who is also taller than her? Virtually zero. If you dig into their love life, you will see a clear dysfunction. A 6 or 7 will have access to the type of value that she doesn't. This happens due to another principle: A man who has game towards a 7 is almost always a whipped approval-seeking beta towards a 9. This means that a 6 or 7 has access to the unicorns, while those very unicorns are not available to the 9. Think of an intermediate player, he doesn't give a shit about that 7 and treats her accordingly, with the 9 his inner game is fucked up and he doesn't behave the same. This principle is applicable on such a macro-scale that it applies to almost all men.
2.3. There is often a shift in her paradigm where values change. She has access to model men and high-status men, which means that in her younger days she will have almost certainly dated them. There is no novelty and socially attributed male traits will lose the importance that they would have for a girl who hasn't tasted them. Clearly observable in the field is that these women often end up with men who are somewhat weird-looking or a have quirks of some kind, there is a shift in her value-paradigm where certain basic emotional traits take precedence over other socially attributed ones. As is described above, high-value women have access to socially attributed value (in men), medium-value women (7s..) have access to naturally attributed value. Each wants what the other one has, the 9 wants the naturally attributed value she lacks, the 7 wants the socially attributed value she lacks. This is a very important maxim and one of the most important of the theory.
2.4. The unicorns, by definition have an abundance mentality that is extended to women of her league. Therefore it is not a guarantee for her that she will get him if she finds him.
3. Throughout life, men treat her more nicely and she gets a better overall impression of them. She doesn't hate men (you will find that many 6s and 7s hold great contempt for men), and this can be seen in the way she interacts with them. This lack of bitterness often translates to a sweeter personality. Often times, especially in the FSU, you will find that some of the hottest girls are also some of the sweetest.
4. These girls know their value, this is also undeniable. They get a lot of looks from men and therefore they know their value, but there are a few things I must say with regards to this:
4.1 It is not correct to say they have higher standards than a 7. A 7 gets enough attention from men to have an ego just as bloated, and standards just as unrealistic. A 7 also gets a higher number of approaches and compliments, which are more powerful in inflating the ego than looks are. A 7, the so-called "attainable" woman, is the most in-demand on the market, so she has a very real economic value that is actually higher than the 9's, and her ego is in accordance to this. The 9 has high standards because she knows her value, so in this respect she cannot be compared to a 5, but these standards are no higher than your average 7's. Believe it or not, many 7s also have the chance to follow the life of glamour many men attribute to 9s, it is often the 7s and 8s that get most showered with gifts from wealthy betas (even these guys are often intimidated by 9s). Essentially, any girl over a 7.5-8 has the capacity to gain considerable amounts from wealthy men.
4.2 Their standards are as high as they should be, rather, they are emotional standards. She is wired to get the highest-quality man (following cavern-day standards) she can get. This principle must be brought together with the dearth of value discussed in point 2.
4.3 Sometimes they get so many looks from men that they develop a "look-bitch-shield" if you will, they try to not make eye contact with anyone so as to get through the day. This is also applicable to many 6s an 7s in countries where they receive heavy attention, like Spain or Italy. However, this does not translate to an approach-bitch-shield, as the actual approaches she receives are less. Naturally they exist, but it is not a matter of her not getting approaches (although I must emphasize she rarely gets approaches), but that the men she comes into contact with, through whatever means, are not of sufficient value, a.k.a. have no game (remember this base "sufficient value" is equal for a 7 according to the principles described above). Therefore, if you combine this lack of bitch shield with a lack of hatred of men, most very attractive girls will at least give a chance (contrast this to many 7s who will shut you down immediately, this is very rare with 9s). Then it is down to showing that you are the unicorn.
*Disclaimer: Only applicable to young girls in their prime, and therefore the rules are very different from those applicable to the +28 husband-hunting market in the West.
This is basic game theory that you will often find in the manuals. I didn't come up with it, it is the collective experience of hundreds of players throughout history. Hopefully it will clarify some doubts about the theory.