[coverdoc]

So I am in Latin America and matched with this Hispanic 7 on tinder. I message her with the usual "your trouble but I like liner" she replies hmm sometimes. I go in for the number, and the next day we arrange to meet at a restaurant near where she lives, 5 minutes in a taxi from me.

We meet at restaurant and I comment that her English is really good and she proceeds to tell me she is actually not a local, but grew up in NYC. We sit down and within 5 minutes of the date she says "I am actually on tinder to meet friends and I can only stay for like 1.5 hours" At this point I strangely remember Nomad77 post about Nogirls vs Maybegirls and proceed to eject assuming she use that line because she wasn't interested in person. It's raining very hard so I just decided to stay eat my meal..
At first convo is boring but she begins to perk up and act excited especially after I tell her what field I am in(something she wanted but never accomplished) and asking her about her travels to south east Asia.

She keeps making statements every now and then like she is on a time constraint because she has to get ready for work (she's a English teacher) I proceed to tease the shit out of her, act more like a dick and she seems to be really receptive to it, I call her out on her tinder friend look B.S and we talk about thirst traps girls set. All the while I'm being more and more of a dick to her and she seems to take really well to it. We get ice cream right down the street(during this time I'm making light physical touches), when we arrive, she says again that she has to go in a few mins, but says let's sit. I tease her more and tell her to live an exciting life not a boring one that she seems to have now.

So we stay pass her time limit and I tell her stories about me getting arrested, I say to myself time to eject rain stopped and not about to stay with a nogirl. So in the middle of her talking I wave and stand up and say lets go it's past your time limit. As we walk to the main straight so I can hail a cab, I say "this was fun but in the future put on your tinder that you're looking for friends only, will save a lot of guys headaches in the future." She proceeds to say how she wants to be friends and keep in touch. I say "sweet heart I don't do friend zones" she says what does that mean, I explain. She still stays around like she almost wanted the situation to be escalated or something and she gives me two hugs then for some reason she just stands around. So we talk again, about like bull shit and at one point we were just looking at each other and I contemplated going in for the kiss, but caught a beta spell and said No if she was interested she wouldn't have said that friend line.

SO I eject and am walking home when it rains more, I text her and say "worst first date ever caught in the rain" She replies quickly with "awww" then "well i'm in my comfy bed, working on these lesson plans" I text back 30 mins later with -___- and she responds back in 10 mins saying "F this, I got home and was really tired, I didn't do anything productive and had a stressful day, so thanks for getting me out for a few" I respond back with see should have just came with me to get drunk instead of trying to be productive."

Long story short: met girl on tinder, go on date she says she is only on tinder to meet friends, I tease her, have great convo, act like a dick, she seems more receptive, but still couldn't read her well.

I think she wasn't interested anymore for what ever, I had good convo, teased her and was rude enough that she was intrigued, and she started to have a change of heart right before we split. Sorry it's so long. Any thoughts?

[game_ethic]

Here is a list of things you did wrong.

1. You ejected based on assumptions. Unless a girl verbally says something along the lines of "No, we can't do this" or "I'm uncomfortable," always be escalating. 2 steps forward, 1 step back.

2. Although I understand the sentiment of not wanting to be in the friendzone, you ended the date prematurely when she said she wants to be friends and keep in touch. You should've agreed and amplified: "I don't need anymore friends, I have too many already" and suggested another date later that day or the next day.

3. Not kissing her.

4. Texting her complaining about the rain(and the date) immediately after you parted ways. A simple "Hey, [girl's name] that was nice. Let's do it again
some other time" and if she agrees, set up another date; if she doesn't, wait a week later and hit her with a restart text.

[coverdoc]

(09-02-2014 10:07 AM)game_ethic Wrote:  

Here is a list of things you did wrong.

1. You ejected based on assumptions. Unless a girl verbally says something along the lines of "No, we can't do this" or "I'm uncomfortable," always be escalating. 2 steps forward, 1 step back.

2. Although I understand the sentiment of not wanting to be in the friendzone, you ended the date prematurely when she said she wants to be friends and keep in touch. You should've agreed and amplified: "I don't need anymore friends, I have too many already" and suggested another date later that day or the next day.

3. Not kissing her.

4. Texting her complaining about the rain(and the date) immediately after you parted ways. A simple "Hey, [girl's name] that was nice. Let's do it again
some other time" and if she agrees, set up another date; if she doesn't, wait a week later and hit her with a restart text.

Much thanks for the advice, this really put things into perspective for me. I will know what to do in the future now.