First off all i want say that English is not my first language so please bear with me. That being sad i want to share my story with you guys.
So i know this chick since shes been 18 (shes 24 know). every couple years we would hook up for couple weeks, but i never took her seriously because i knew she was pretty slutty and also i had hotter girls in rotation.
In the beginning of last year i broke up with my ltr and contacted her (after 2 years of no contact) and we hooked up again (although i knew she had a boyfriend at that time) but after couple months i decided to move to very beautiful small city (>5k population) near the sea. So now she would drive 1.5h each way every couple weeks to spend weekend with me.
Things went like that for couple months. Then one night between fuck sessions we started talking about relationships and i told her that i knew that she have boyfriend she had little bit confused look but after i told that i dont care she calmed down and we didnt talk about it anymore. Things went as usual then after 3 week she told me that she broke with her bf i just shrugged and kept fucking her. but slowly she started me visiting more often(now almost every weekend).
Sex was phenomenal she never sad no. every time i wanted, every hole, every my degenerated fantasies she would do them all, with joy and enthusiasm like i never seen before. She would clean my apartment, do dishes, cook meals while wearing lingerie all the time. She was always upbeat when we met and never object to anything i sad. We would never argue. She showered me with compliments and told that im her ideal man constantly.
In the begging off this year i moved to bigger city (further away from her, now she had to drive 3h one way), but things remained the same. In the spring i started to have work/money problems it didnt affect any thing in the begging but in begging of summer, i started to see her less (due to me working in weekends, or some other weekends i just felt depressed). But when we met everything remained the same.
Then couple weeks ago while visiting her i saw in her facebook some suspicious messages and told her immediately that our relationships is over. She of course cried and tried to apologize but i packed my things and went home.
I was shocked. I thought our relationship was near perfect. i thought that she adored me beyond limits.
i didnt contacted her for couple weeks. But whole time i was depressed, now i had not only money/work issues but also relationships that i thought was excellent was only my imagination. So i called yesterday, we talked couple hours and i sad that im not feeling good. I asked her to come see me, but she give me 101 hamster reasons why she cant go and sounded so distant. She told me she will come today, but earlier this morning she sent me text that she cant see me because she loves me to much and dont want to hurt me again. i was like wtf and called her. While talking she told me she have to deal with herself and other bla bla bla nonsense.
I instantly deleted her phone number and all texts. I was mad whole day, i felt betrayed i saw through all her lies. I felt sick. I was even madder when i saw that she went clubbing.
Thing is i didnt want her back i just wanted feel some of her feminine affection.
Then i remembered "war brides" post in rationalmale and reread it. Whole thing started to make sense. Now im not angry anymore i realized that i expected from women things that they are not.
II want to end this post with in my opinion two best comments from "war brides"
-------This is why you should never fully trust a woman and you should never allow yourself to become emotionally dependent. Your relationship is only as good as her perception of you at any given time. She doesn’t love you for “you”, she loves the feelings you give her and the things that you can provide for her.”
-------It’s not about you and what you may go through, its ALL about her – to her. Protect yourselves at all times, don’t trust, spin plates, be the prize, and remember her “love” is conditional upon how you make her feel. Game, embrace it hard if you are in the trenches dealing with women"
So i know this chick since shes been 18 (shes 24 know). every couple years we would hook up for couple weeks, but i never took her seriously because i knew she was pretty slutty and also i had hotter girls in rotation.
In the beginning of last year i broke up with my ltr and contacted her (after 2 years of no contact) and we hooked up again (although i knew she had a boyfriend at that time) but after couple months i decided to move to very beautiful small city (>5k population) near the sea. So now she would drive 1.5h each way every couple weeks to spend weekend with me.
Things went like that for couple months. Then one night between fuck sessions we started talking about relationships and i told her that i knew that she have boyfriend she had little bit confused look but after i told that i dont care she calmed down and we didnt talk about it anymore. Things went as usual then after 3 week she told me that she broke with her bf i just shrugged and kept fucking her. but slowly she started me visiting more often(now almost every weekend).
Sex was phenomenal she never sad no. every time i wanted, every hole, every my degenerated fantasies she would do them all, with joy and enthusiasm like i never seen before. She would clean my apartment, do dishes, cook meals while wearing lingerie all the time. She was always upbeat when we met and never object to anything i sad. We would never argue. She showered me with compliments and told that im her ideal man constantly.
In the begging off this year i moved to bigger city (further away from her, now she had to drive 3h one way), but things remained the same. In the spring i started to have work/money problems it didnt affect any thing in the begging but in begging of summer, i started to see her less (due to me working in weekends, or some other weekends i just felt depressed). But when we met everything remained the same.
Then couple weeks ago while visiting her i saw in her facebook some suspicious messages and told her immediately that our relationships is over. She of course cried and tried to apologize but i packed my things and went home.
I was shocked. I thought our relationship was near perfect. i thought that she adored me beyond limits.
i didnt contacted her for couple weeks. But whole time i was depressed, now i had not only money/work issues but also relationships that i thought was excellent was only my imagination. So i called yesterday, we talked couple hours and i sad that im not feeling good. I asked her to come see me, but she give me 101 hamster reasons why she cant go and sounded so distant. She told me she will come today, but earlier this morning she sent me text that she cant see me because she loves me to much and dont want to hurt me again. i was like wtf and called her. While talking she told me she have to deal with herself and other bla bla bla nonsense.
I instantly deleted her phone number and all texts. I was mad whole day, i felt betrayed i saw through all her lies. I felt sick. I was even madder when i saw that she went clubbing.
Thing is i didnt want her back i just wanted feel some of her feminine affection.
Then i remembered "war brides" post in rationalmale and reread it. Whole thing started to make sense. Now im not angry anymore i realized that i expected from women things that they are not.
II want to end this post with in my opinion two best comments from "war brides"
-------This is why you should never fully trust a woman and you should never allow yourself to become emotionally dependent. Your relationship is only as good as her perception of you at any given time. She doesn’t love you for “you”, she loves the feelings you give her and the things that you can provide for her.”
-------It’s not about you and what you may go through, its ALL about her – to her. Protect yourselves at all times, don’t trust, spin plates, be the prize, and remember her “love” is conditional upon how you make her feel. Game, embrace it hard if you are in the trenches dealing with women"
