[MrRoundtree]

I post this in the newbie forun just because this is the first time it happened to me but how the hell on a drink date do you deal with a girl who speak way too much and never never let you gain control of the conversatiob? I litterally tried to share my stories but she would always cut me short and she would go yapping again...normally i control the conversations but this girl wanted literally to give me her life story, made it hard to go for any real escalation..we only kissed on thr lips at the end of the date but no resl makeout. She answered me today and we are having fun texting but i don't know if she she will put up easily. She is pretty cute and thin, she is worth pursuing

[Virtus]

Your thinking with your dick

On that date you could have just made fun of her. Say stuff like: let's play a game. What game? The quiet game, the first one to say something losses. And then go for the make out.

[Old Fritz]

You are missing a golden opportunity.

I find this annoying as well but when you find yourself dating this kind of woman, just listen. That's all you have to do. Most people do not know how to listen. If you come across someone that talks too much they will reveal many things about themselves; sometimes unintentionally. Just ask questions and probe her for information. You can spot red flags and other things along the way.

Be a smartass every now and then too instead of just nodding your head.

[MrRoundtree]

this is how i reacted, always teasing her a bit but of course the whole date was about her. it was just something i had to adapt to

Anyway date two is thursday, got pretty playful with her by text game so with everything she said and my memory it should be pretty fun ^^ ..i know a shitload about her hehe

[Texas_Tryhard]

This is an example of when to employ "Don't fuck up" game. With girls who are displaying high energy like this, all you have to do is act interested and not fuck up. She's obviously into you and pouring herself onto you, trying hilariously hard, so just escalate physically next time. Where was your second date? If you make a date at your place (make her dinner, on-the-cheap) then sex will probably happen organically.

[BarryInSF]

(08-29-2014 03:32 PM)Texas_Tryhard Wrote:  

This is an example of when to employ "Don't fuck up" game. With girls who are displaying high energy like this, all you have to do is act interested and not fuck up. She's obviously into you and pouring herself onto you, trying hilariously hard, so just escalate physically next time. Where was your second date? If you make a date at your place (make her dinner, on-the-cheap) then sex will probably happen organically.

I'm not sure I agree. Just because a girl won't stop talking to you doesn't mean she's into you. It probably just means she finally found someone who will listen because everybody else is blowing her off because she's so fucking boring. Also, if you can't get in a word edge-wise, how can you DHV?

I speak from beta experience. I've been playing "listening game" my whole life (until recently) and it hasn't gotten me laid even once.

IMO she considers you a sounding board, not a potential sex partner. You've been friend-zoned. Take if from a guy who's spent most of his life there.

[XXL]

Try to ask open ended questions that take the interaction further in a direction you want, shut up and let her talk. So you still control the conversation but it's more like steering rather than imposing your shit on her.

For example, she can say something about what she feels about xyz and you can throw in "that's interesting, you know that few bi girls told me the same thing? and just look at her with devilish smile. She will mock you or disagree and change topic, then you can throw in "you're cute when you're nervous, are you now? + that smile. She will say something and then start yapping about whatever, you throw in "the way you move and do those gestures you seem like you to dance". She will say something or change topic to start different never ending thread, you then throw in "american scientists proved that women who are [something about her] are more likely to get tattoos on their back". Stuff like that.

If she bites and carries on your "interruption topic" then let her talk and explore that thread. If she doesn't bite and starts yapping about irrelevant stuff you throw in something to break it. Leading baby, always lead in some sort of way, it doesn't have to be super active like shoving your shit down her throat all the time haha, it can also be done in more passive way like what I just described. But you still lead in your direction.

There is a cool free pdf called "principles 101" where is much more about leading and guiding women as a man.

[MrRoundtree]

ok guys i will finish off this story, keep in mind its a girl from tinder. I had the feeling she was pretty nervous when we met and she told me she was tired she spent the whole afternoon drinking beer at a bbq..i was tired too from working out and a night out.

i haven't gotten the second date because she told me, simply that it didn't "click" or she cannot go further even if she was attracted. I tried making out with her end of the date and she was reluctant..the next day she texted me and we agreed to plan date 2 i went a little too cocky with her than normally tho..but the day before the date i also received what i wrote in my previous paragraph.

Anyway, i ran into a girl friend i had not seen in a while and asked me how my date went and i was like what the hell, how can she know i had a date? Turn out she had bbq with my friend and some other people i know and they were like "omg i know him"...not all my best friends and my suspicion is that she probably didn't want to be known as a slut to her. She also probably knew more about me than I thought. I pushed for the makeout and she must know I don't want a relationship

She was extremely easy to game on tinder but on the date she got from nervous and fun to annoying and boring..she also just moved to montreal and stayed at her parents place until 24..she just got off a relationship

Moral of the story; you never know who your date may know from your acquaintances on tinder..

[The Reactionary Tree]

(08-25-2014 04:33 PM)calihunter Wrote:  

Your thinking with your dick

On that date you could have just made fun of her. Say stuff like: let's play a game. What game? The quiet game, the first one to say something losses. And then go for the make out.

Yea this is a good one. Also recommended in Daygame Nitro. You know the scene in Austin Powers movie where Dr Evil tells his son to zip it? Pretty much re-enact that scene to tease the girl. Then right when she is about fed up with your game, then reward her for being a good girl with some makeout.