I have been dealing with a friend that is a girl in my life who claims that it is possible to be strong and cry all the time. She was diagnosed with breast cancer at 26 and has thus become an emotional wreck. Frankly I've gotten tired of dealing with the emotional push and pull of the BS in her life that i've started to distance myself from her. This is written as a part rant/observation of human behavior.
I've been dealing with so called "emotionally strong people" all of my life who claim that it is ok to deal with all of life's problems by simply crying it out. The whole phrase goes, "People cry because they've been strong for too long."
Honestly, that phrase to me is a load of BS. Emotionally strong people feel very deeply and in fact I dare say know how to manage their emotions far more effectively than people who cry it out.
Crying does nothing to solve the situation you are in. It's a release, that is for sure but a piss poor one at that that. It is nothing more than a half needy attempt to elicit sympathy from other people. Well what about going off privately to cry? Trust me, you want attention even more when you do that. Hiding it makes it even needier.
To me, there is something off about people that tear up all of the time. It wreaks of instability and a part of me questions the individual's ability to remain cool under pressure. A skill that I realize most people lack.
Not all crying is bad however, it definitely falls on a scale. I certainly cried quite a bit when my grandfather and great grandmother passed away and after I discovered some sick and twisted crap an ex-girlfriend did to me in secret.
However, going off and crying about shitty life circumstances, medical conditions you have no control over, loss of a job, etc is pointless. This is the time to do whatever it takes to clear the high amounts of cortisol levels in your brain so you can begin to take the steps to begin over at step 1.
Take solace in the fact you are at ground zero. You can only go up from there.
Discuss.
I've been dealing with so called "emotionally strong people" all of my life who claim that it is ok to deal with all of life's problems by simply crying it out. The whole phrase goes, "People cry because they've been strong for too long."
Honestly, that phrase to me is a load of BS. Emotionally strong people feel very deeply and in fact I dare say know how to manage their emotions far more effectively than people who cry it out.
Crying does nothing to solve the situation you are in. It's a release, that is for sure but a piss poor one at that that. It is nothing more than a half needy attempt to elicit sympathy from other people. Well what about going off privately to cry? Trust me, you want attention even more when you do that. Hiding it makes it even needier.
To me, there is something off about people that tear up all of the time. It wreaks of instability and a part of me questions the individual's ability to remain cool under pressure. A skill that I realize most people lack.
Not all crying is bad however, it definitely falls on a scale. I certainly cried quite a bit when my grandfather and great grandmother passed away and after I discovered some sick and twisted crap an ex-girlfriend did to me in secret.
However, going off and crying about shitty life circumstances, medical conditions you have no control over, loss of a job, etc is pointless. This is the time to do whatever it takes to clear the high amounts of cortisol levels in your brain so you can begin to take the steps to begin over at step 1.
Take solace in the fact you are at ground zero. You can only go up from there.
Discuss.