[nomansland]

TL;DR - Guy goes to bar, has some old man insist on paying for his tab. Goes to another bar, old man comes along and pays for him again. As he is leaving, old man puts his arm around his waist and propositions him to come over and use his washroom.

http://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/...eepy_guys/

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I'm a 22 year old male and I was new in town. I decided to hit up a couple bars. I decided to chat up an older gentlemen who was sitting by himself. He was in his 60's, and retired. We had a pleasant conversation about work, life and general small chat. He pays for my tab, which I take as a friendly gesture and I leave the bar. I didn't think much of them at the time, but he mentioned two or three times that "you're alright" and "I like you". These statements were usually accompanied by a weird eyebrow raise. The man decides to tag along as I go to the next bar, and also pays for my tab there. At this point I begin to think its a little strange, but I figured he is lonely and just wants to talk. I didn't spot a ring on his finger, which solidified my misguided theory. To play on it on the safe side, I mentioned I'm dating a girl at the time. He didn't pick up on the hint, unfortunately.

As we leave he puts his arm around my waist. Now I'm a small guy. 5'9 and have a fit, but still pretty petite build. This man was about 6'4 and his whole entire hand fit around my abs. I instantly backed away, and made the dumbest excuse I could ever think of. "I need to use the restroom", I said. "You can just use mine, I live around the block", he replied.

I wished him a pleasant evening and just booked it. After the experience, I felt incredibly vulnerable. It's hard to describe the feeling, but I know many of redditors on this sub have had similar situations happen to them on a regular basis. Being on the receiving end really put things into perspective for me.

Edit: To those saying I shouldn't have accepted the drinks, you are correct. I did refuse twice at the first bar, but he insisted. At the second bar, he threw down cash before I could even place my drink order.

[Ensam]

Dude should lift more and work on his physical presence. I haven't had to tell a dude to back off more than once (for whatever the reason) since I hit 165 lbs of lean mass (@ 5'10").

[Quintus Curtius]

RVF reader experiences what creepy threads are like.

[game_ethic]

What man refers to himself as having a "petite build"?

He sounds pretty if you ask me.

[Heathree]

I went to a bar tonight with a buddy but he was feeling sick so went home. I wanted to get drunk so decided to stay there. Got into a conversation with a guy, I could see he was poor as fuck so bought him a couple of drinks when I was going to buy some myself. I only bought him beers because I could afford to do so and its not going to dent my wallet.

I am not gay or anything but if I was interested in the other person buying then a drink is the last thing I'd do. You are falling into the supplicator frame and I would have thought, if anything, if you want to get into the pants of the other, you should get them to buy the booze.

So many men out there have got it wrong, going about it the wrong way.

[Heathree]

Many years ago, for whatever reason, late at night, I went and sat in a park (next to my house). This middle aged man appeared out of the blue and started a conversation. He ended up putting his hands over my chest/nipples.

It was only later it dawned on me that this was a bit odd and put it down to the guy being gay or something. A few weeks later, I ended up being in the company of him and his wife.

He felt so uncomfortable to the point of appearing to have a panic attack. That was enough justice for being 'violated'.

[Suits]

(07-24-2014 09:24 PM)game_ethic Wrote:  

What man refers to himself as having a "petite build"?

He sounds pretty if you ask me.

It's not . It's written by a woman.

There are a number of key phrases that are clearly female in origin, such as "These statements were usually accompanied by a weird eyebrow raise." Only girls write like that.

[kosko]

Creepy is fat whales trying to get a full stuffing of dark meat from a brother. I can't express in words how much for the low key, hush hush world of thirsty black dudes banging fatties has embolden these women to think they can step, look, touch, and holler at me. Nasty. That is officially creepy to me and I shoot them down with little remorse.

Typical fattie and kosko exchange:

You have such a nice smile

"you ain't my type...not interested"

well who be your type?

"healthy and athletic girls"...

I am healthy and active...

"no you ain't...not like me"

whatever, your a asshole and ugly

"you ain't think that 5 mins ago.. I'm hungry tho, I want a salad, you down?"

fuck you

[kmhour]

I bet he couldn't wait to get home and post on reddit about it so the girls could tell him what a nice guy he was.

[LaserBear]

So he spent all night having his drinks bought, by the same guy, who went bar to bar with him, then got upset when the guy assumed they might spend the night together... as they had spent the night so far together... and went so far as to ask?

My god, who would think it?!

How dare he politely try to lead things where he wanted them to go, and then let you leave when you weren't interested.

What a pig.



I'm just glad this guy had his online support net to pat him on the back for being a strong and independent woman.

[HeyPete]

Totally written by a woman.

No fit 22-year old dude, at least 5-9, would be worried about a 60-year old dude. Even if he was 6-4.

Worse comes to worse there's now way that dude could ever catch you.

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

Even if this were true, the benefits that women get from all this attention in life are so large that not a single one of them would give them up willingly. A woman would have to be retarded to not be able to extract the best for herself from it. Not so much for men - as far as attention goes, we're given what we're given.

[rustylions]

"wished him a pleasant evening", "had a pleasant conversation about work, life and general small chat", "decided to chat up an older gentlemen".

The language used is not only female but I'm very doubtful that it is that of a 22 year old.

"I didn't spot a ring on his finger" takes the cake though.

What fucking 22 year old male has gotten into the habit of looking for a ring on someone's finger. That is a decidedly middle-aged women behavior.

[funkyzeit]

OP's obviously a woman, I used my carefully applied scientific methods compiled on a twelve core supercomputer to get to that conclusion. You compare straight guy (who doesn't like guys) being hit on by a guy, and a straight girl (who likes guys) being hit on by guys. 0/10 go back to jezebel.

[Simeon_Strangelight]

(07-24-2014 08:33 PM)nomansland Wrote:  

... After the experience, I felt incredibly vulnerable. It's hard to describe the feeling, but I know many of redditors on this sub have had similar situations happen to them on a regular basis. Being on the receiving end really put things into perspective for me.

.... felt vulnerable -

Hamster is trying to turn around the female experience. Would not run the same way. I've been hit on by gay guys sometimes and they are usually quite careful around men, if they are not certain about your orientation.

Best is to take it as a compliment and then ask them if they have any cute girl-friends they could help to hook you up with.

[Deuce Anna Half]

"Vulnerable" sealed it for me. This was definitely written by a woman.

No man "feels vulnerable" being hit on by another man. "Rage", maybe. "Disgust", possibly. Even "amused" is possible. "Vulnerable"? Not happening.

[RockHard]

Oh please. I'm not even going to read the article. I've been hit on by a guy more than once. Some are persistent. "No thanks" works wonders, or if he's more direct, "no thanks, I'm not into guys". It's very simple and not at all traumatizing.

[jamaicabound]

I think this sorta topic has been brought up many a times, the whole gay movement and everything has really thrown off regular dude relationships. The art of manliness blog does a lot of writeups on this and similar topics, basically showing pics of dudes in olden times hugging and stuff. Not that I want to run around hugging all my boys but at the same time I agree everything is perceived as gay these days. I think this has definately put a damper on making friends.

My old roomate used to go out solo all the time, he kinda got me curious as I would have never even thought of doing that but thought it sounded intersting, he always wound up making friends or being "adopted" by some group so I was like hell I'll give it a try. Started going out solo. Was sitting at a bar one night, chatted up some girls who came and went. Then a dude comes over and sits next to me when there's plenty of other seats, found it a bit wierd but whatever. Anyhow, he starts chatting me up, my first thought is, is this dude trying to pick me up or something. didn't really give me any indication he was but its like your first reaction these days.

Turns out he just moved to town from down south for a job, doesn't really know anyone or have any friends. Apparently he had plans to meet up with a group of girsl for one of their birthdays who he sorta knew. Wound up inviting me along, and it was basically me him and about 20 girls that evening so dude most definately wasn't trying to pick me up but I almost automatically walked away when someoen tried to strike up a convo or friendship just because it struck me as weird when it was really completely understandable and normal.

Then on the otherhand though you have situations like this with the OP.

[Suits]

(07-25-2014 04:13 AM)Zelcorpion Wrote:  

(07-24-2014 08:33 PM)nomansland Wrote:  

... After the experience, I felt incredibly vulnerable. It's hard to describe the feeling, but I know many of redditors on this sub have had similar situations happen to them on a regular basis. Being on the receiving end really put things into perspective for me.

.... felt vulnerable -

Hamster is trying to turn around the female experience. Would not run the same way. I've been hit on by gay guys sometimes and they are usually quite careful around men, if they are not certain about your orientation.

Best is to take it as a compliment and then ask them if they have any cute girl-friends they could help to hook you up with.

I've been hit on gay guys plenty. Never made me a feel vulnerable. Always took it as a compliment.

I've had three gay guys start grabbing my penis. Never made me feel vulnerable. I just removed their hand from the affected area and moved on with my life.

[JustJay]

(07-24-2014 10:50 PM)kosko Wrote:  

Creepy is fat whales trying to get a full stuffing of dark meat from a brother. I can't express in words how much for the low key, hush hush world of thirsty black dudes banging fatties has embolden these women to think they can step, look, touch, and holler at me. Nasty. That is officially creepy to me and I shoot them down with little remorse.

Typical fattie and kosko exchange:

You have such a nice smile

"you ain't my type...not interested"

well who be your type?

"healthy and athletic girls"...

I am healthy and active...

"no you ain't...not like me"

whatever, your a asshole and ugly

"you ain't think that 5 mins ago.. I'm hungry tho, I want a salad, you down?"

fuck you

[Big Nilla]

(07-27-2014 12:54 AM)Suits Wrote:  

(07-25-2014 04:13 AM)Zelcorpion Wrote:  

(07-24-2014 08:33 PM)nomansland Wrote:  

... After the experience, I felt incredibly vulnerable. It's hard to describe the feeling, but I know many of redditors on this sub have had similar situations happen to them on a regular basis. Being on the receiving end really put things into perspective for me.

.... felt vulnerable -

Hamster is trying to turn around the female experience. Would not run the same way. I've been hit on by gay guys sometimes and they are usually quite careful around men, if they are not certain about your orientation.

Best is to take it as a compliment and then ask them if they have any cute girl-friends they could help to hook you up with.

I've been hit on gay guys plenty. Never made me a feel vulnerable. Always took it as a compliment.

I've had three gay guys start grabbing my penis. Never made me feel vulnerable. I just removed their hand from the affected area and moved on with my life.

I think you're going to need to expand on that. How the heck does that happen... 3 gay guys, on different nights I assume, grab your dick? Why would they think they could get away with that without a beating... and why didn't you beat the fuck out of them?

[Sebastian]

I dont know how to talk to guys. Its harder than talking to a woman. Its obvious i want to fuck her sooner or later and if she doesnt like my intention, fine. But I dont like it if guys take it wrong way. (Especially if you are dressed nice in small town)

[StrikeBack]

This has to be a fat woman who fantasizes about being skinnier (petite build), taller (5'9") and with a case of penis envy (pretends to be a guy).

[Simeon_Strangelight]

nomansland=womansland

actually nice wording by the likely female troll

It is really funny how they infiltrate the forum again and again. It probably takes them by surprise that no one buys their crappy deluded feminist & LBGT ideology. The feminine imperative - always trying to redefine what men should feel like or change into.

[Suits]

(07-27-2014 01:32 AM)Big Nilla Wrote:  

(07-27-2014 12:54 AM)Suits Wrote:  

(07-25-2014 04:13 AM)Zelcorpion Wrote:  

(07-24-2014 08:33 PM)nomansland Wrote:  

... After the experience, I felt incredibly vulnerable. It's hard to describe the feeling, but I know many of redditors on this sub have had similar situations happen to them on a regular basis. Being on the receiving end really put things into perspective for me.

.... felt vulnerable -

Hamster is trying to turn around the female experience. Would not run the same way. I've been hit on by gay guys sometimes and they are usually quite careful around men, if they are not certain about your orientation.

Best is to take it as a compliment and then ask them if they have any cute girl-friends they could help to hook you up with.

I've been hit on gay guys plenty. Never made me a feel vulnerable. Always took it as a compliment.

I've had three gay guys start grabbing my penis. Never made me feel vulnerable. I just removed their hand from the affected area and moved on with my life.

I think you're going to need to expand on that. How the heck does that happen... 3 gay guys, on different nights I assume, grab your dick? Why would they think they could get away with that without a beating... and why didn't you beat the fuck out of them?

The first time was when I was 19. I was hanging out with a coworker and he reached around me and tried to play with my digit. I removed his hand and excused myself. Didn't hang out with him again, obviously. I never thought about responding with violence and in retrospect, he was much stronger than me and their didn't seem to be anything to be gained by punishing him.

The second time, was a tailor in a Chinese upscale shop, while he was sizing me for a shirt. I complained to management and when they claimed that it was all a misunderstanding, I told them that neither I nor my friends would be shopping for their brand. I've kept my promise. You can all help me out by never purchase K-Boxing brand clothing.

If I'd kicked his ass, he would have called the police and they would have called me a liar because I'm a foreigner.

The third time, I was at a party in the USA and all the girls asked to see my uncircumcised penis. So whipped it out and the gay brother of the host couple made a grab for it. I removed his hand, but I let it go because I didn't think that I'd enjoy kicking his ass right in front of his brother.

In none of these cases, I never felt compelled to use violence. I am capable of violence, but I don't operate with much emotion in situations like this.

I center in the on the treat, I remove the threat and once it's remove, I have no reason to become a threat to someone else.

I'm downright mechanical in situations like this. I'm also not motivated by anger. It's not an emotion I've experienced in a long time.