[They Call Me Mister Tony]

There is this one girl whose number I got at the end of May when she came into my retail store.

We texted back and forth over the past three weeks.

She's an 8.25 with a big nose
She is 27 years old
She drives a nice Benz

The first time I suggested that we do something on a Thursday night at a bar closer to where I live, she texted me that she was going somewhere else that night and we would hang out soon. Being a dumbass, I WALKED to the fucking bar (I don't have a car.) thinking that if I didn't show up in time, she would get mad and say I wasted her time. I texted her when I got there, but she said she wouldn't make it. And 90 minutes later, she texted me saying that she didn't even go to where she was gonna go.

So last Tuesday she calls me and we try to set something up again. We set a date for Thursday. I'm psyched and excited as hell because it would be the first time I ever went out ALONE with a cute girl. I ask her what time we should meet up and she says she has to clean up around the house. I called her about three hours later and she said she was still cleaning. I have not heard from her since.

I want to give her another chance but at the same time, I don't want to set something up again and get blown off.

TL;DR: Tried to hang with girl twice, blown off both times. Should I give her one more shot or be like "to hell with this bitch"?

[samsamsam]

The fact that you posted about this hints that you may already know the answer which is to move on.

If that makes any sense. In other words you sort of know the answer already, it could be you are wondering if you are missing something that would make it worth the 3rd effort. I am saying that critically, we all have some blind spots in how we see the world.

I'd say next her. But I think you knew that. And unless she reaches out to you, I would definitely not consider seeing her. She knows you made the effort any more and it will just confirm she has the power in this dynamic.

[From Vegas to Tokyo]

If youre ever asking "should I next her?", you probably should.

More specifically, yeah. If a girl really wants to bang you, she will let nothing in the world stop her. Game can help push someone over the tipping point, but from what I can tell, she's not that special even if she "drives a benz", also, she's 27. Remember, for every 27 year old girl who gives you the runnabout, there's a 21 year old who is looking for a good time and is going to be that much younger, hotter, and tighter. Go get some game experience with a bunch of different girls. No amount of game advice you get here or elsewhere will replace time spent in the trenches talking to girls in real life.

[AnonymousBosch]

(07-05-2014 03:33 PM)They Call Me Mister Tony Wrote:  

TL;DR: Tried to hang with girl twice, blown off both times. Should I give her one more shot or be like "to hell with this bitch"?

a) her disrespect shows she's not interested

b) even if she was interested, she's two years out from the wall.

At 27, she's aware the hot guys she really wants are losing interest, and is 'testing' your patience to see if you'll be her Beta Bucks fallback plan.

Next her. There'll be other, younger girls. Do the fade. If she gets into contact, simply say "Thanks but busy".

[Christian McQueen]

Next.

The chick has disrespected you twice.

Work on your inner game.

[They Call Me Mister Tony]

(07-05-2014 05:51 PM)AnonymousBosch Wrote:  

(07-05-2014 03:33 PM)They Call Me Mister Tony Wrote:  

TL;DR: Tried to hang with girl twice, blown off both times. Should I give her one more shot or be like "to hell with this bitch"?

a) her disrespect shows she's not interested

b) even if she was interested, she's two years out from the wall.

At 27, she's aware the hot guys she really wants are losing interest, and is 'testing' your patience to see if you'll be her Beta Bucks fallback plan.

Next her. There'll be other, younger girls. Do the fade. If she gets into contact, simply say "Thanks but busy".

a) Ah. I see your point. I'm giving her a week to reach out and if I don't hear from her, she's nexted. I have other girls that I'm going after anyway, so she really won't be missed.

b) I ain't trying to go out with the girl, just looking to fool around with her. I know there are hotter girls out there.

Thank you all for your advice.

[SydneyD]

Why do you care so much about a flaky number you got in May that you actually wasted your precious time posting online about it?

You need to shift your mindset and adopt an Abundance mentality.

My guess is you care so much about this prehistoric number because you don't have many prospective numbers in your phone to begin with.

That needs to change!

Approach new women, Live life and don't let a silly number you got in May affect your state of happiness


She doesn't deserve that week you're giving her

[They Call Me Mister Tony]

(07-06-2014 09:10 AM)SydneyD Wrote:  

You need to shift your mindset and adopt an Abundance mentality.

My guess is you care so much about this prehistoric number because you don't have many prospective numbers in your phone to begin with.

That needs to change!

Approach new women, Live life and don't let a silly number you got in May affect your state of happiness

You're right. Once I next her, I will have ONE prospect, and she's in Florida for the summer.

I work as a cashier at a high-end grocery store, and I see hot women come in my line every now and then. I can't get their numbers while I work, because the managers would deem it "unprofessional".

I plan on leaving before the end of the year anyway, so I may go for broke soon.

[Donkey_Riding]

(07-05-2014 03:33 PM)They Call Me Mister Tony Wrote:  

I'm psyched and excited as hell because it would be the first time I ever went out ALONE with a cute girl.

This attitude is part of your problem. Such high expectations translate into unattractive neediness. It's better to approach first dates with a more laid-back and relaxed attitude.

(07-05-2014 03:33 PM)They Call Me Mister Tony Wrote:  

I ask her what time we should meet up and she says she has to clean up around the house. I called her about three hours later and she said she was still cleaning.

You should always default to the leader position in your dating interactions, especially when you're asking her out (as you almost always will be in the early stages). So rather than ask her what time, you should suggest a time yourself: "meet me at X bar at 9." By asking her you adopt a passive role which kills her tingles, and you also betray your neediness by showing that you have nothing better to do that night than wait for whenever she happens to be ready to meet you.

(07-05-2014 03:33 PM)They Call Me Mister Tony Wrote:  

I want to give her another chance but at the same time, I don't want to set something up again and get blown off.

If a chick flakes on the first date, she will most likely never meet you. (The first Thursday you never really had a date set up, so that doesn't count; her flake was the second Thur).

[SydneyD]

(07-06-2014 08:00 PM)They Call Me Mister Tony Wrote:  

(07-06-2014 09:10 AM)SydneyD Wrote:  

You need to shift your mindset and adopt an Abundance mentality.

My guess is you care so much about this prehistoric number because you don't have many prospective numbers in your phone to begin with.

That needs to change!

Approach new women, Live life and don't let a silly number you got in May affect your state of happiness

You're right. Once I next her, I will have ONE prospect, and she's in Florida for the summer.

I work as a cashier at a high-end grocery store, and I see hot women come in my line every now and then. I can't get their numbers while I work, because the managers would deem it "unprofessional".

I plan on leaving before the end of the year anyway, so I may go for broke soon.

I don't think you get it...having just one prospect is not abundance

You don't have to hit on every girl you see at work. Just talk to them in a casual yet professional way just so you can improve your social skills.

Try and make some time to go approach girls after or before work. An hour would be ideal. If you work long hours then try to approach like a beast during the weekend

If you approach at least one or two women a day you'll always have fresh prospects in your phone so you won't have to depending on just one single girl from Florida, etc

^^ that's what Abundance is