[PizzaSult]

Looking for advice on how to respond to a text I got off this girl I've been banging for the last few weeks.

Hey PizzaSlut, sorry I missed your call last night. I can't see you wednesday. I've been spending time with my ex this week and.... well it's complicated. I'm sorry. My head is not in the right place to be dating anyone at the moment. I think you're a really lovely bloke and you deserve more than I can give you right now. I've had loads of fun handing out with you. Take it easy x

My initial reaction was to ignore the text, move on and forget. However I wouldn't mind banging her again in the future.

So is there an aloof response that would potentially keep that door open for me?

[Virtus]

You're a side piece. Send "k" and go deep silent. She will resurface

[Baphomet]

Ah, the old, "It's not you, it's me" crap.

One possible correct answer - "I'm just here for the sex, not your life's story."

[BCien]

Just dont respond... if she wants the D she will come back for it, dont sweat it man.. let it go... you dont want to get caught up in that whole "shes going back to her ex for an emotional tampon"... when she gets tired of it.. she will call you.. if she doesnt oh well...

[polymath]

"k" is powerful for minor slights, but this deserves a salvo of "i don't give a fuck."

I would say "good luck finding what's right for you." Doesn't matter if you wait a couple days to send it.

Then move on. Single bitches are boomerangs. If she's available again, you'll find out.

[Wahawahwah]

Meh.

Emotional turbulence + detachment

She craves the emotional turbulence from the ex and possibly his dick.

As she moves away emotionally from you and into him, u need to move even further away.

She's heartbroken about her ex? You'll be even more heartbroken about yours ( in a non beta way ).


Text her, " yeah been there. Text me when your heart's in the right place again. You're a lovely chick too."

Let her go back to her ex. When things don't work out again, shell get back in touch.

P.s. it'll help if when she calls, she hears girls in the background. If u don't have any other chicks, ignore her call and call her back from, say outside a club or somewhere.

[PizzaSult]

Thanks for the responses. I was looking for a way to communicate that I still want to bone her without coming across in a beta way. Sharkie, you nailed it.

Nice one man

[From Vegas to Tokyo]

You've lost her for now, but sharkie's advice is pretty solid. There's not a lot you can say to really 'win', so the key here is to just not 'lose'. Don't try and follow her along, leave her with something and then it's just a waiting game from there. If you've got other girls in rotation, this is no big deal. If you don't, get some.

[PizzaSult]

"There's not a lot you can say to really 'win', so the key here is to just not 'lose'"

This is exactly what I want to achieve. I'm under no illusion that a text is going to have her running back to me. I just wanted to communicate that when things go tits up, she should get in touch.

I have other girls so, like you said no big deal

[Ardbeg]

OP, you're thinking is in the right place. Any type of "fuck you" or "I don't give a fuck" will create negative feelings for her, and likely end any type of re-hook up. Your goal should be a text that says your mature enough to not be bothered by this, but that she is welcome to access your dick in the future.

Something like: "It does seem complicated. I hope your ex spanks you as well as I did. If not.....Anyway, see you around"

[wroclove]

You lost her. Imo all you can do is act like you don't care much and keep her wondering. I wouldn't write anything rude, just short and uninterested. She will come back if she wants.

I'd text "Alright, take care xxxx"

Where xxxx is preferably some dirty word you used to call her while you were pounding her

[PizzaSult]

Followed sharkie's template this morning, only swapping out "chick" with "girl". This was a couple of days after her text.

Couple of hours later I get this:

"Thanks PizzaSlut, I will x"

Will see how things progress.

[WestIndianArchie]

(06-11-2014 01:04 PM)PizzaSult Wrote:  

So is there an aloof response that would potentially keep that door open for me?

I dunno Sulty. The best way to keep her legs open is to keep advertising what you have to offer.

If you're FB/IG friends, good pictures of you having fun, and crazy stories. Wouldn't hurt for a few females in your feed to ping you.

If you're not, shoot her text on occasion about whatever cool thing you're at with your friends. Come out, it'll be awesome.

But trying to keep the spark going when she's trying to put it out, will always be try hard and hail mary. There may be 1 line out there that will change her mind, but the chances of you discovering it, are low.

WIA

[PizzaSult]

"The best way to keep her legs open is to keep advertising what you have to offer."

She added me on snapchat, so I can display value through the story feature, meaning I'm not directly sending her stuff, but she'll see what I'm sharing. Have a couple of trips, a wedding, and I'm sharing my cooking skills off - which she's responded well to already.

Who knows what will happen, I'm not hung up about her. However I'm in a stronger position than I was a couple of days ago, so we'll see.

Given the circumstances that's all I can expect.