[Amateur]

I tried searching for something similar but couldn't find anything. My apologies if it is already on the forum.

I've been seeing this college girl for a few weeks and we've kissed many times before but I haven't been able to close the deal due to bad logistics (she has roommates, I live with my parents at the moment). I've been to her apartment twice. Once was at night after a date when most of her roommates were there making her self-conscious about the situation. Another time was in the middle of the day with most of her roommates out and one of her roommates in another room. I just failed to capitalize that day because I felt she wasn't comfortable enough being around me yet.

What would be the best wording to use to invite myself over during the day when I know most of her roommates won't be around? We've hung out many times before so I know she's comfortable around me, but she's also a little shy. I want a good way to phrase it to give her some plausible deniability.

[MidniteSpecial]

Just how you worded it here. Don't be apologetic either. Or get a hotel room.

[WestIndianArchie]

1) Boozy brunch, lemme drop you off, lemme come up
2) How's your kitchen, lemme make some lunch, pick a wine

We've all been there.

WIA

[Gopnik]

I currently have the same problem when I go out. I live in a dormitory and can't bring visits from 11:00 pm- 5:00 am so I usually try to get into the girl's place.

I normally opt for Rooshv's method in Bang for getting into her place. After a date, I tell the girl I want to walk her home and then I use the bathroom excuse and after ask for a tour around the flat. If you have already seen it, then say you are thirsty or want to grab something to eat real quick.

Does she have flat mates or roommates (as in the exact same room)?

Maybe you could consider bringing her to your home late at night when your parents are asleep and just bang her in your room. I did that a few times when I lived with my old folks, just make sure it doesn't get too loud.

You can always also suggest the obvious "movie at your place" excuse. If you have seen her many times already, she probably likes you and is dtf anyways (eve if she is shy). Make sure that you know that her roommates won't be there. Chances are you won't even watch the movie.

[Parlay44]

Pick a bar near her place. Offer to drive and pick her up.

[Frontenac]

Good thread. I have shitty logistics, and I've been wondering how to do this.

I guess if you game her to where she wants to invite you over, then it's great. But it's tough to have her wield the 'plausible deniability' if it's her place, and she invites you in.

[Earth]

Seed this earlier on in the interaction. Talk about stuff you have in your rooms until she mentions something in her house or room that is particularly interesting. Talk about that a bit then when time draws nearer, explicitly ask to see whatever it is. Music, poster, or say you have to show her a funny youtube video real quick and it's only good on a computer, it doesn't matter what.

[Texas_Tryhard]

"We've kissed many times before".

Read that quote until it gets through to you how easy this is going to be. She doesn't need plausible deniability anymore, you've apparently been on several dates and kissed several times. She's not going to put up an anti-slut defense because no one could call her a slut for fucking a guy she's dating.

Suggest a movie date for your next meetup. Go there and fuck her. If she doesn't fuck you, next her.

[heavy]

Be unapologetic.

Sunday I met a hottie +her roomy out, made a real connection with the hottie. I built enough connection so when roomy had to leave, she left me to take hottie home. Without boring you with details, during my ride home she actually thought I was taking her to my place...which she was fine with. So rather than taking her to her place, I turned a louie back to my apt and fooled around with her a while, badabingbadaboom.

Point is, if you're clicking with her, just assume it or unapologetically say what you want. It was a good lesson for me.