Some time ago, I was fired from my job. It was New Year's Eve and I felt like shit. With nary a drop of vodka, I retired to my bed and endured a fitful and restless period of "sleep." I felt like shit that day.
Fast forward to this past Sunday. After a night of vodka, I awoke and imbibed some much needed water. I lazily logged into the forum, hoping to see some threads on general human idiocy or maybe Lindy West raped a bucket of chicken. I was sick to my stomach when I saw Roosh had been arrested for battery. I tried to snatch some more Zzzz's but I was worried sick about my friend. I felt like shit that day.
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Before you think this is some bashing or whatever thread - it isn't. The forum has brought me too much value for anything like that.
The reason I bring up these two situations is that you can approach them from two distinct ways. Sure, you could judge me in the first (I fucked up) or you can judge Roosh & Tuthmosis in the second (they fucked up). Or, you could consider it the other way: the victims. I pissed off an important client in the first; R&T pissed of the clientele of the fourm.
It is a mindless, politically correct rejoinder to say that the truth meets in the middle, somewhere. That isn't necessarily true but it obfuscates what matters here: trust and credibility. All the talk over frame, alpha v. beta, etc. is irrelevant. We are a community built on mutual trust. We are necessarily skeptical of new users simply because of our approach to life. We attract a ton of haters, fakers and people with ill intent. We need know that we are interacting with real men who have good intentions to contribute to the community.
We all know that Roosh and Tuthmosis are not trolls. They aren't trying to hurt us, even though they did by proxy. What is bothersome -- to me -- is that they took that trust and their credibility for granted. I can't necessarily blame them 100% - unfortunately, we are all human, after all. Should we have been more objective? Absolutely. But when a man I greatly respect -- Tuthmosis -- tells us to listen because its serious, I suspend plausible doubt.
However, taking this the other way, I can't imagine what it would be like to curate and nurture this forum, only to have a poorly thought out false-flag operation blow up like this. Like when I hurt myself by doxxing a shitty customer, I thought I had done right by myself but only realized that I had not just hurt myself but the people around me, as they were legitimately pissed I had gotten myself fired. Can you imagine Roosh having a quiet night of sleep tonight? He has put his heart and soul into this forum.
I was very angry at first, thinking that it was real at first - then thinking we had been hacked a very bad way. I frantically deleted all my PM's with my personal information in them and made a new password.
I was angry at Roosh at first, but I softened up quite a bit as I thought about it more and he posted more on the closed thread. I am not a person to dogpile on somebody who is in pain, but I cannot imagine a world in which he isn't hurting because of this. It was a prank gone horribly wrong, but --unlike the pig's blood on Carrie -- this is completely forgivable.
Tuthmosis needs to pubically apologize, to be sure. Roosh has come to cleanse his hands in the waters of our opinions of this situation.
We all make mistakes. Every single one of us has made terrible mistakes. Every one of us.
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That being said, I thought about it a bit more. It's 5 AM in my neck of the woods. I really wanted to talk to what I consider a good friend in Quintus Curtius. I dismissed that thought - he has to be at work in a few hours. Then I thought about it some more.
The only reason I even know Quintus is because of the forum/ROK. The only reason we called each other to talk about this is because we came here willing to begin with. He came to write for ROK and I came (I still don't know why I came) for reasons unknown, but the only reason I know him is because of this forum. I texted members and received texts over this past day. Hell, Ali drunk dialed me on Saturday with renotime and JohnKreese. Wouldn't have had that without the forum.
This may have been a prank gone bad, but it shouldn't be more than a blip in our history. When Beyond Borders brings his literary chops to bear and pens a history of the forum this is a chapter, but hopefully not one that is nothing but a stormy period at sea.
I felt very strongly about this issue when it happened over the course of these hours on Sunday, but it misses the value the forum has brought to myself. And you -- the reader -- of course.
Yet, what bothers me most, is what if I was Roosh? I lay down my arms almost completely to think about the originator of our forum and the leader of the manosphere must be experiencing right now. It might be a self-imposed jail of a bad prank.
For me, I wish this episode didn't happen in RVF history, but it did.
Roosh has brought great value to your life, whether you admit it or not.
Hopefully, we will all be okay
Fast forward to this past Sunday. After a night of vodka, I awoke and imbibed some much needed water. I lazily logged into the forum, hoping to see some threads on general human idiocy or maybe Lindy West raped a bucket of chicken. I was sick to my stomach when I saw Roosh had been arrested for battery. I tried to snatch some more Zzzz's but I was worried sick about my friend. I felt like shit that day.
![[Image: 2_92321175_3.jpg]](http://www.totalwine.com/_static/webupload/730/2_92321175_3.jpg)
Before you think this is some bashing or whatever thread - it isn't. The forum has brought me too much value for anything like that.
The reason I bring up these two situations is that you can approach them from two distinct ways. Sure, you could judge me in the first (I fucked up) or you can judge Roosh & Tuthmosis in the second (they fucked up). Or, you could consider it the other way: the victims. I pissed off an important client in the first; R&T pissed of the clientele of the fourm.
It is a mindless, politically correct rejoinder to say that the truth meets in the middle, somewhere. That isn't necessarily true but it obfuscates what matters here: trust and credibility. All the talk over frame, alpha v. beta, etc. is irrelevant. We are a community built on mutual trust. We are necessarily skeptical of new users simply because of our approach to life. We attract a ton of haters, fakers and people with ill intent. We need know that we are interacting with real men who have good intentions to contribute to the community.
We all know that Roosh and Tuthmosis are not trolls. They aren't trying to hurt us, even though they did by proxy. What is bothersome -- to me -- is that they took that trust and their credibility for granted. I can't necessarily blame them 100% - unfortunately, we are all human, after all. Should we have been more objective? Absolutely. But when a man I greatly respect -- Tuthmosis -- tells us to listen because its serious, I suspend plausible doubt.
However, taking this the other way, I can't imagine what it would be like to curate and nurture this forum, only to have a poorly thought out false-flag operation blow up like this. Like when I hurt myself by doxxing a shitty customer, I thought I had done right by myself but only realized that I had not just hurt myself but the people around me, as they were legitimately pissed I had gotten myself fired. Can you imagine Roosh having a quiet night of sleep tonight? He has put his heart and soul into this forum.
I was very angry at first, thinking that it was real at first - then thinking we had been hacked a very bad way. I frantically deleted all my PM's with my personal information in them and made a new password.
I was angry at Roosh at first, but I softened up quite a bit as I thought about it more and he posted more on the closed thread. I am not a person to dogpile on somebody who is in pain, but I cannot imagine a world in which he isn't hurting because of this. It was a prank gone horribly wrong, but --unlike the pig's blood on Carrie -- this is completely forgivable.
Tuthmosis needs to pubically apologize, to be sure. Roosh has come to cleanse his hands in the waters of our opinions of this situation.
We all make mistakes. Every single one of us has made terrible mistakes. Every one of us.
![[Image: 1205c0c09eef13e7f0d0b986a7d2132d.jpeg]](https://pbs.twimg.com/profile_images/378800000217270267/1205c0c09eef13e7f0d0b986a7d2132d.jpeg)
That being said, I thought about it a bit more. It's 5 AM in my neck of the woods. I really wanted to talk to what I consider a good friend in Quintus Curtius. I dismissed that thought - he has to be at work in a few hours. Then I thought about it some more.
The only reason I even know Quintus is because of the forum/ROK. The only reason we called each other to talk about this is because we came here willing to begin with. He came to write for ROK and I came (I still don't know why I came) for reasons unknown, but the only reason I know him is because of this forum. I texted members and received texts over this past day. Hell, Ali drunk dialed me on Saturday with renotime and JohnKreese. Wouldn't have had that without the forum.
This may have been a prank gone bad, but it shouldn't be more than a blip in our history. When Beyond Borders brings his literary chops to bear and pens a history of the forum this is a chapter, but hopefully not one that is nothing but a stormy period at sea.
I felt very strongly about this issue when it happened over the course of these hours on Sunday, but it misses the value the forum has brought to myself. And you -- the reader -- of course.
Yet, what bothers me most, is what if I was Roosh? I lay down my arms almost completely to think about the originator of our forum and the leader of the manosphere must be experiencing right now. It might be a self-imposed jail of a bad prank.
For me, I wish this episode didn't happen in RVF history, but it did.
Roosh has brought great value to your life, whether you admit it or not.
Hopefully, we will all be okay