I ran into another one of these couples, but unfortunately I didn't get to talk to them to piece things together. The funny thing though is in this specific instance, the 'butch' one was formerly straight, she had had a boyfriend I was told, in recent years. The butch girl would be a 5 or 6 at best with feminine style, and she was well below that with her butch look. I could understand her, the ugly 5, becoming a
lesbian because she couldn't secure a decent man.
But that still doesn't explain why the cute girl she was dating, while not a smokeshow this time, was still a solid 7.5.
Looking back on this thread, I'd chalk it up to the two factors I mentioned earlier:
1.
Cock trauma - she has been pumped and dumped so many times that she is averse to getting emotionally invested in men. But she still craves that emotional connection. To get that emotional connection from a man, she'd have to lower her standards, because she's been fucking studs out of her league all her life, and they aren't about to see her as wife material. And she just can't handle that huge downgrade. Even if no one else really cared, she'd think everyone would see her as a loser for settling with a dork when she's been rutting with cool dudes all along.
2.
It's Diiiiiiiiiiiifferent - In that vein, a
lesbian is like a guy with a foreign accent. Suddenly the fact they are otherwise an average guy is irrelevant; everything he does is seen in a positive light. I've witnessed this with my own eyes, the Italian guy spitting sappy game at an American girl that would never work in a million years on her coming from a non-celebrity American male. She's no longer dating a decently cool American guy, but OMG AN ITALIAN HE'S SO ROMANTIC.
Lesbians, like Italians, are just on a whole other metric in these girls' minds.
3.
Gay is cool - When homosexuality was more taboo, the social opprobrium a girl faced for dating a woman was enough to not even consider a
lesbian relationship. Now, it's the opposite, as 2Wycked pointed out. Girls get cultural brownie points for dating other women now. We may see more post-wall women becoming
lesbians, because they have trouble finding men to emotionally connect with and commit to them.
(from iop890)
4. History of drug abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse or other mental trauma. These things can change people in all kinds of ways. This is a factor some of the time, surely, but it wouldn't explain why we're seeing more and more of these dime and troll couples
increasing over time.
I don't really buy the aggressiveness explanation, because a hot girl can find that without issue. That explanation may make sense for a girl who isn't so hot, sure. What I *do* see is girls punishing men for behavior like aggressiveness or neediness that they
reward in women. And that ties back to my reason #2 above.
My earlier reasoning, which I stand by.
Quote: (03-01-2014 09:11 PM)Basil Ransom Wrote:
I've heard that girls in lesbian relationships can be a lot needier. And I feel like a lot of girls are craving an emotional connection, yet at the same time utterly reject men who show serious interest. I've had girls vaguely insinuate I was needy - or suspected they thought as much - because I wanted to bang them again the next week. All that spur of the moment cock in her past has shut down her ability to connect, and has her repulsed by any efforts at it. But when a girl shows emotional interest, the beta alarm doesn't go off. In her mind, it's okay that a GIRL is needy. A guy has no such room for fault of that kind.
So maybe it's that she's so dysfunctional that she only lets women penetrate her emotional barriers. Or just that she develops these far more readily than with men, even if her sexual contact with men is generally far greater.
As for the fine Thai girls dating tomboys, I have a Thai-American friend who knew of such a girl. He's not very red pill, but he said of the fine girl that due to her past relationship, she was a bit 'scared' of men, scared of being cheated on and mistreated, and going
lesbian was a safe choice. I think the strong acceptance or indifference to homosexuality in Thailand is a big factor there - but I'm not sure if it's increasing in Thailand as well like it has here.