[MdWanderer]

Yesterday was randomly messaged by a 23 yo chick on Tinder. Has a 4 yo daughter (I usually disqualify single moms but she is fairly attractive and has lost a lot of weight.) Exchanged numbers right away and texted the whole night. Told her that I had an early morning and had to hit the sack when she then said "make sure you dream about me =)"

Gotten burnt many times in the past for not going for the lay and dragging out dates, but want to establish comfort first. Plan on inviting her to a bar near my place then seeing some Netflix at my place. There is an 80s party on Saturday I'm going to also.

Should I go for the lay beforehand or use a time bridge and go for the kill at the 80s party. Any help is appreciated.

[Lothario]

(02-19-2014 09:42 AM)MdWanderer Wrote:  

Yesterday was randomly messaged by a 23 yo chick on Tinder. Has a 4 yo daughter (I usually disqualify single moms but she is fairly attractive and has lost a lot of weight.) Exchanged numbers right away and texted the whole night. Told her that I had an early morning and had to hit the sack when she then said "make sure you dream about me =)"

Gotten burnt many times in the past for not going for the lay and dragging out dates, but want to establish comfort first. Plan on inviting her to a bar near my place then seeing some Netflix at my place. There is an 80s party on Saturday I'm going to also.

Should I go for the lay beforehand or use a time bridge and go for the kill at the 80s party. Any help is appreciated.

Bar and bounce to your place and apply Tuth's first date recipe for bang.

[Snowplow]

I'd say bang before the party. You don't want to find out she's a whack job at the party. Or she's cool and makes you look better at the party.

Or....

Bang her then find another at 80s night. Build a harem!

[MdWanderer]

Update: Chick messaged me and told me that she has a daughter and cannot go out Thursday to Saturday to watch her. Asked her if Sunday was okay but said she is helping her sister move. Then texted her "whenever you're available to go out just let me know". No reply from her for the rest of the day.

Thursday comes and she texted me "good morning". Didn't respond for three hours then texted her back. She asked for a picture of me and I sent it to her via text. She said "Thank you" with a smiley icon and haven't heard from her since.

To make a long story short, the girl messaged me first. Went back and forth for a bit that day and told me she would love to go out. Next day comes and I ask her when she is available and that is when she gave me the lines above. I'm putting the ball in the court and waiting for a text on the day she is available to meet up. Still going to the 80s party to enjoy myself. Invited a female friend along but she has to work!

[Remington]

You should have made her send a picture first and made demands about what you want to see. Don't respond to that "good morning" text BS. She's pretty much crying for attention. Keep your frame.

[MdWanderer]

Yeah...I'm cutting it as a loss. Not upset in the slightest.

[gringochileno]

(02-22-2014 07:46 PM)MdWanderer Wrote:  

Update: Chick messaged me and told me that she has a daughter and cannot go out Thursday to Saturday to watch her. Asked her if Sunday was okay but said she is helping her sister move. Then texted her "whenever you're available to go out just let me know". No reply from her for the rest of the day.

That's bad text game. If a girl says she's "busy" and doesn't counter-offer another day, you need to go radio silence for a few days and then try a restart text. You look really weak if you keep throwing out different dates and getting shot down.

I think this is most likely done and she was probably never serious about meeting up from the start, but if you want to try the hail-mary just wait a few more days, restart with something innocuous (e.g. "how was the move?"), then immediately push for the meetup and if she doesn't bite then delete her number and move on.

As for what to do on a date, all first dates are the same regardless of who the girl is and whether you met through cold approach, Tinder, OKC, or anywhere else. Meet her at a bar close to your place, follow the first date bang recipe, and go in hard for the notch.

[redbeard]

"whenever you're available to go out just let me know" was definitely a mistake. I understand it though. It sounds reasonable. She tells you a good time, and then you move your schedule around to facilitate. Rational right? Women don't think like this. Women hear "oh this guy is available a lot" and thinks

1. This guy isn't getting laid
2. He doesn't have an intensive job
3. He doesn't have hobbies
4. He really wants to bang me

You don't want her to think any of this. You propose a time, and if she can't make it, you try again in a week. She can wait. Go to the 80s party and build the harem.