[silent_scope]

I've lost the upper hand with this girl I've been seeing for the past 4 months. Her behavior has become so shitty, that she made plans with me to hang out with her and some friends but flaked at the last minute on everybody, without a good explanation. I thought I dealt with it ok by immediately calling her on her bullshit and going out with her friends anyway, but I probably ended up looking like a hurt beta.

Is there any way to regain it or should I just learn the lesson, cut my losses and move on?

[Daddy]

(02-10-2014 08:04 AM)silent_scope Wrote:  

I've lost the upper hand with this girl I've been seeing for the past 4 months. Her behavior has become so shitty, that she made plans with me to hang out with her and some friends but flaked at the last minute on everybody, without a good explanation. I thought I dealt with it ok by immediately calling her on her bullshit and going out with her friends anyway, but I probably ended up looking like a hurt beta.

Is there any way to regain it or should I just learn the lesson, cut my losses and move on?

Start seeing other girls, be prepared to dump her. You will see how magically she will be polite and obedient again.

[Sombro]

(02-10-2014 10:15 AM)Daddy Wrote:  

(02-10-2014 08:04 AM)silent_scope Wrote:  

I've lost the upper hand with this girl I've been seeing for the past 4 months. Her behavior has become so shitty, that she made plans with me to hang out with her and some friends but flaked at the last minute on everybody, without a good explanation. I thought I dealt with it ok by immediately calling her on her bullshit and going out with her friends anyway, but I probably ended up looking like a hurt beta.

Is there any way to regain it or should I just learn the lesson, cut my losses and move on?

Start seeing other girls, be prepared to dump her. You will see how magically she will be polite and obedient again.

If she flaked on everybody and not just you, it sounds like she's the one with the problem, not you.

But yeah, see other girls. Or be seen with other girls. (hamsters gonna jealous)

[kinjutsu]

Lets break this down:

You've been seeing her for 4 months? Is it exclusive bf/gf relationship or more along the lines of FWB?
Maybe she flaked because she's with another dude. In my experience, when girls flake its usually because they have a better option that give them tingles.

At 4 months you should be able to gauge how on point or off point she is with keeping her commitments.
I have the feeling this is an ongoing problem that is now just becoming so bad you can't ignore it.
Can you give example of other shitty behavior she has demonstrated?

Go complete radio silence.

Do not contact to give her shit. It shows you care too much about her behavior.
Go be with more pleasant females, ones that appreciate your value you as a man.

[Feo]

^I second this. Radio silence

[silent_scope]

First of all thanks for the replies, I've always liked the fact that dudes can come here and hash out their issues. I've tried to put in my 2 cents if I've had experience with some stuff. More often than not, I'm sitting back reading the successes and failures of others and keeping quiet.

Anywho this chick and I have known each other and gone out a bunch of times over the course of a year, while seeing other people, before traveling the exclusive BF/GF route. She used to tell me what she was doing, no matter how minor without me prompting. She stopped doing that. She flakes on her friends quite a bit because she's tired from working two jobs and her schedule is fucked. But she always made time for me on her weekends Fri+Sat. The last two weekends I haven't seen her. I see her less now than I did before we were exclusive. Yeah she's got issues, like most chicks. Self-centered and a fear of intimacy comes to mind if I examine the whole time we've been together.

I'm more concerned that my attempt at nipping this shit in the bud by calling her on her flaking didn't achieve the desired effect.