[yolo]

Her ex has always been married, a guy she dated for 2-3 years casually before me while dating other people, on and off; so recently (not when she was much "younger, hotter"). He was having an affair with her, his wife knew it but condoned it. So, I guess he's not really an "ex" in the sense that she was never exclusive with him. I've always known about this "ex" of hers and didn't really care about her seeing him as I was interested in being in an open relationship myself and dating other girls, too. Then about a half a year ago when wanting kids entered the picture, we decided that we'd go exclusive and ex's would be out of the picture as it added too much drama especially when we were trying at a baby. She agreed and we talked about how once we'd have raised the child, we'd go back to dating other people if we wanted to. Now, it's been more than half a year, and she still hasn't gotten pregnant, and she misses her ex and just wants the option to be able to see him again as before. For now it's just coffee, but I think we all know where that leads. Ok, yes I think it's obvious that we're not after a traditional marriage, family pursuit, because a) she was already married once, b) I don't believe in the institution of marriage and think it's a way for govt. to keep tabs on you, and c) I think it's possible in our society to raise a child while not being married as long as you're generally not a scumbag.

I've heard of many stories on here and other guys in their 40s-50s and still dating girls in their 20s and 30s. This ex of hers is one example even. He's in his fifties dated her in her 30s. So, I don't know about you, but it seems plausible to do and we all hear how young girls go for older guys. Now, if I'm in my 40s and 50s, I don't particularly want to think about getting married and having kids, and because I actually like this woman, I wouldn't mind having a child with her now, since she's already in her 30s and it's time. I agree with you when you say 'Follow the fallacy that raising a child is something to "get out of the way,' but I try to look on the bright side when I say that when the kid potentially becomes an adult, I'll still be at least young enough to be able to bang/sarge/etc hot girls in their 20s, 30s, not to marry them, just have a good time, etc. I'd hazard a guess that it would feel like I'd have some weight off my shoulders. I hear stories of men (family friends) in their late 40s, 50s who still haven't had a child but really want to, and at that point are pretty desperate (not everybody wants to have a child so it doesn't apply to them). I don't want to be in those shoes.

Anyways, the way I see it, she won't get pregnant anyways, and she wants to go back to the open policy and see her ex, so I'll have to move out and get back to the open relationship I had with her originally and forget about trying to find a way to make a baby work in this odd picture. It just pisses me off that after 6 months of trying, she's given up and wants to see her ex again. Why bother in the first place. Guess I do have a reason to be upset, but that's life. Just gotta straighten it out and make the right decisions to move forward. I guess I was wondering if you think I definitely should have a reason to be upset with her or I'm just overreacting.

[jayyrod1]

This is a real woman that you've got your hands on and you need to stop sulking and start fighting for her love. Only a divorced 33 year old slut can raise your kids properly and you shouldn't be so quick to let her go.

Has game taught you nothing?
Has Roosh taught us NOTHING!?

Man up son. You only live once.

[yolo]

So should I be ok with her banging her ex on rare occasion? And still live with her in the same apartment? Or should I still be together with her but keep it less serious and get my own place so Id be able to bang other girls too?

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

yolo, jayyrod1 was being sarcastic here. This woman is a terrible bet and there is no way you should ever have kids with her.

The fact that you do not recognise that it is sarcasm tells us that you are in great danger of ruining yourself by shackling yourself to her.

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Now, it's been more than half a year, and she still hasn't gotten pregnant

Count your blessings and start using condoms immediately.

[Jack198]

You must assume she's already been banging that 50 year old married guy now and again; perhaps even with a fuckbuddy in the mix. Assume the worst, always.

And no, you won't want to be with a woman that much older than you when you are in your 40s and it starts to get like throwing a hot dog down a hallway. Sure, she says she'll keep working out, but kids change everything. And most women, regardless of whether or not they keep working out, hit a serious wall right around 37 years old.

Move on - not worth it.

[yolo]

At the end of the day when you're 70 and she's 80, or if you're 70 and she's 60, none of that is going to matter. Plus, she says she'd let me bang other girls if I wanted to, so it's not like I'd be stuck with only banging her for the rest of my life. Unusual circumstance or not, I've never met a girl like this one - she reads a ton of books, writes, co-hosts on PBS - just very original, interesting personality, has a thirst for knowledge.

But, the truth is if she truly cared about me and having a child together, she wouldn't be thinking about her ex at this important time. So that's a red flag. I would understand if way down the road, we had this child, and time has passed, and then we had this talk like "Hey can I catch up with my ex" - that would be a different story. But it's obvious now that me, a child, isn't her priority. Thanks guys!

Despite her selfishness, I still think she's someone that I'm going to try to keep in my life, but I think it's obvious that I need to plan on getting a new place, and start finding new ladies. Thanks guys!

[Jack198]

One last thing - let me bore you with a story:

I knew someone who waited until she was in her early forties to try and conceive - with a fuckbuddy, not even a boyfriend. She had a miscarriage. Eventually she stopped trying that and married an older guy and they're doing ok together, though childless.

She was married young while in law school in the early nineties but got divorced after barely a couple of years when he cheated on her, leaving him and the three kids he had from a previous marriage. She transferred to a much better law school, graduated near the top of her class and got a great job, still wanting kids but "never finding the time". She wanted them, just not as much as she wanted her career.

She probably friendzoned a lot of guys and maybe even had an abortion or two when pregnancy would have been inconvenient (when is it ever convenient?). So now, she makes a hell of a lot of money as a lawyer for a big IB firm in NYC, but like so many other women who applied the feminist line to their lives, she's missed out on something major and she knows it.

Your friend is at a similar turning point in her life, a life that revolves around herself. The PBS angle suggests to me, among other things, that like most over-educated Western women she's a pretty liberal girl - so liberal as to have drunk much of the SJW kool aid and thinks raising a kid is like buying a dalmatian. Her tendencies are strong enough for her to look at you as little more than a sperm donor, regardless of mere words about the future. She's made a habit of putting herself first, not you. If a kid comes into the mix, it'll be herself, kid, then you.

And your instincts about the ex are likely correct - don't look for validation when you already have the truth.

Good luck.

[OnlyMarryInTajikistan]

Intelligence in a woman is a bad thing. It is always coupled up with selfishness, liberalism and a string of poor life decisions. This is woman who has done nothing right in her life, is "fucking other guys", has ridden the carousel for years, and you expect her to be a good mother and wife? Are you crazy? The advanced age only makes matters worse. Combine the two and you have absolute death.

Why are you going for such a low SMV woman? Get some self-esteem, learn game, and go find a higher-quality girl.

[heavy]

You need to decide man:

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Her ex has always been married, a guy she dated for 2-3 years casually before me while dating other people, on and off; so recently (not when she was much "younger, hotter"). He was having an affair with her, his wife knew it but condoned it.

She's cool with having an affair with a married man. Not good.

She's cool with having an affair with a married man who's wife condones it. If that's not true, she's lying to you and having a secret affair.

Let's give her the benefit of the doubt and say it's true, the guy's wife does condone it. Then she was banging a guy with whom she would never be able to really have long-term relationship. She's having a fantasy relationship relationship with him.

Don't compete with a fantasy.

On a lighter note, this married guy is livin' the good life.

[enderilluminatus]

This topic terrifies me.

[yolo]

So we broke it off in November right in time before the holidays, cha ching. She got her own place in DC. I moved back to Cali. I just visited her 2 months later in DC, and hit it a few times. This chick is such a mega slut, but I like it. We had this real talk that we should go back to how things were before we got serious and starting the baby talk. It's like as soon as I put her back in the mega slut bucket, things are good. We scrapped the whole kids, exclusive relationship drama, and just went back to how things were before we got serious. Don't mind that. Such a slut though, had her snorting coke off my cock, got the whole thing on video, LMAO. She's begging me to face fuck her so she could snort a line off my cock. Damn, some girls surprise me. Such a mega slut. Kinda wish more girls were like her, without any insecurities/hang ups around slutty behavior, putting on a virgin mask all the time. She's in her mid 30's, already been married, gave that ship up, and now claims to be "non-monogamous" proud to be slut. So be it, works for me. Problem with me, I still kinda want to knock her up for some reason call me crazy. But this bitch is kind of like a celebrity in this niche industry crafts market, is on a PBS show, and has a decent following. I keep thinking it'd be a prize to knock her up, but maybe I am one naive motherfucker. I can post a pic of her snorting a line off my cock, but I don't think anybody wants to see a dick pic haha.

[RockHard]

(02-09-2015 09:48 PM)yolo Wrote:  

So we broke it off in November right in time before the holidays, cha ching. She got her own place in DC. I moved back to Cali. I just visited her 2 months later in DC, and hit it a few times. This chick is such a mega slut, but I like it. We had this real talk that we should go back to how things were before we got serious and starting the baby talk. It's like as soon as I put her back in the mega slut bucket, things are good. We scrapped the whole kids, exclusive relationship drama, and just went back to how things were before we got serious. Don't mind that. Such a slut though, had her snorting coke off my cock, got the whole thing on video, LMAO. She's begging me to face fuck her so she could snort a line off my cock. Damn, some girls surprise me. Such a mega slut. Kinda wish more girls were like her, without any insecurities/hang ups around slutty behavior, putting on a virgin mask all the time. She's in her mid 30's, already been married, gave that ship up, and now claims to be "non-monogamous" proud to be slut. So be it, works for me. Problem with me, I still kinda want to knock her up for some reason call me crazy. But this bitch is kind of like a celebrity in this niche industry crafts market, is on a PBS show, and has a decent following. I keep thinking it'd be a prize to knock her up, but maybe I am one naive motherfucker. I can post a pic of her snorting a line off my cock, but I don't think anybody wants to see a dick pic haha.

You're face fucking her, having her snort coke off your cock and then you want her to be the mother of your kids?

Sucks to be your kid.

[yolo]

I haven't seen her in a couple months, so we wanted to have a little bit of fun. She does have a "loving/motherly" side as well, don't get me wrong. I know it's crazy and wishful thinking at this point: not gonna happen. I don't know why I have this urge to want to knock her up, may be just purely biological. Logically/rationally, it doesn't make much sense, besides her having sort of a celeb status and would make for a good story. I'm moving back to Chicago on my own and will seek out younger chicks this time around, but I basically gave her the green card to a child if she ever wants to give it another go in the future. Either way, I pretty much have a guaranteed bang for me waiting in DC if I ever want it. Not bad. Going to go find me some 21 year olds.

I'd prefer a DTF mother, than a fat bitch who sits at home eating Doritos and not wanting to put out on a regular basis, which would force me to have to go find sex elsewhere - wouldn't be good for the child either..

[MY DETROIT PLAYAS]

Just my 2 cents

I keep hearing you talk about the thrills of easy sex or her being DTF. That's cool, but you should understand you can get that with carefree young women without the strings. Also she is the one who is winning in this equation. She has a young stud willing to fuck her on demand and now help her conceive if she ever gets that itch in the future.

Never give up your nuts that easy man. You only lower your own stock, and trust me you cannot just walk away once you plant the seed in her womb. The law will see to it that you just signed a 18 year contract (at least) to a sinking ship of a relationship full of guilt trips, screaming matches, and crying spells

See the price of easy pussy?

[MY DETROIT PLAYAS]

Just be careful with this kind of thinking in the future

With each passing year, I realize the most important thing we have as men is our word, and our ability to pass on our lineage

It's not to be dished out all willy-nilly or as charity

[yolo]

Thanks DETROIT. I like where your head's at. Can you elaborate on "Never give up your nuts that easy man. You only lower your own stock."

"It's not to be dished out all willy-nilly or as charity" Agreed. I gave her a real chance once, but she showed her true colors. Moving on. I'm going to call it quits. I had a fantastic weekend with her in DC, good memories, and even got a dope video to put into my salvage box for a good story later. Going to quit while I'm ahead and move on. Been hell of a ride with this one.

[MY DETROIT PLAYAS]

Sometimes when we have the run of the yard with a chick, so to speak, it's easy to get stuck in neutral or make more of a situation than what it REALLY is. Sentimentality has held many a man back in his pursuit of a better future.

Everything has it's seasons, and when you come to the end of the road with someone you have to accept it for what it is. It sounds like you have reached that point with this one. What you don't want to do is place yourself in a shitty situation to appease someone else (her).

By giving up your nuts, I meant by handicapping your future handcuffing yourself to her for the next 18 years of your life. You are a young man with hopes, dreams and aspirations and the last thing you want to do is place a roadblock in your path by reproducing with a woman you don't even plan on being with.

The choices you make now, will either haunt or benefit you for life.

[1818Steve]

(01-21-2014 05:23 AM)yolo Wrote:  

(let a 2 year fling with an older married lover go)

I guess I am old fashioned, but this 2 year fling with a married guy brands her as unsuitable for anything other than just banging. Have a baby with her and it will not end well. Everything will change.

[1818Steve]

"So should I be ok with her banging her ex on rare occasion?"

[N°6]

Your story is so classic that I am wondering if you are trolling.

Woman rides the carousel throughout her 20s, picks up the baggage, then when the time is right for her -or in this case crucial for her - DEMANDS that provider material commit to a long-term contract with severe break clauses for the man.

Meanwhile a man hits his mid to late 20s when even the dating market in its default setting starts to favour him slightly more after it being against him for much of the previous decade. Such men are about to stretch their wings when they are quickly snapped up by women their age or older. Have you not noticed the increased attention from younger women?

Your comment about good sex is telling. Ever stopped to consider that you are partly responsible for this? Or do you see good sex as a treat that women chose to give to good boys? You are old enough to have seen behind the curtain where women are built to have more physical enjoyment from sex than men.

A wise man sees danger ahead and runs.

If you get married, you should wear white and she black if we are going to be honest at the results of the modern 'empowered' dating market for women.

[iknowexactly]

(01-21-2014 01:39 PM)samsamsam Wrote:  

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My point is, I don't think I have to worry about becoming a financial slave to my kids.

Never assume anything about a woman. Never trust what they say.

Since you never thought of having kids with her, you are now going to do it because she is asking you? Who is running the show? You've known her for 6 months?

This. Especially about the inheritance.

If she gets pissed off at you , OR bored with you ( probable from her behavior) you will PROBABLY "become a financial slave to my kids."

Your risk assessment is extremely naive. That is the normal course of events in divorce with a responsible guy who is seen as a reliable paycheck for the State and her.

Also you are in the USA where you could be stuck for child support until you are 50, with jail hanging over your head.

I've thought about this, and I'm not a lawyer, but the only way I'd bite on this ( and there's no way they would do it, it's just a fantasy) is that they put 1 million in escrow in a Swiss irrevocable trust, with your lawyer seeing to it that you get that one million should you for any reason under any jurisdiction be assigned child support or spousal support.

If you are never assigned child support, when they kid is 21 and you are 40-something you get 20% kid gets 80%.

The point is you would have enough money to leave the jurisdiction of the USA and say FU to the child support authorites as long as you had no assets reachable in USA or connected country. I forgot you also need another passport for a livable country. Child support in the USA is like the fucking Terminator you cannot escape it.

See how fast they act astounded when you say you will only do it if you never have to pay child support after she divorces you, because, of course, she would never divorce you right?

[iknowexactly]

(02-10-2015 08:59 AM)RockHard Wrote:  

[quote='yolo' pid='953335' dateline='1423536519']
[b]... had her snorting coke off my cock, got the whole thing on video, LMAO. ....


now claims to be "non-monogamous" proud to be slut. So be it, works for me.[/b]

You are so insane you might pay child support for 22 years plus a graduate degree and not even mind it while she fucks 150 other guys.

My congratulations, you are an incarnation of Buddha.

[Cyclone419]

Run bro, ITS A TRAP!