major problems in approaching girls.
10-25-2008, 11:02 AM
Quote: (10-25-2008 01:42 AM)charmer Wrote:
i have two problems....and both are very serious in approaching women.
1.lake of confidence.
2.lake of material.
i get nervous around HB and my breath and heart beat get faster and i try to control it.(i know she knows that iam getting confused in her present).....please tell me how to overcome this and build up confidence boost in myself.
second whenever i talk to any girl...i run out of material....even i read many articles...many openers..but i dont know i cant be talkative no matter how hard i try....i go like "hmm,what should i ask her or tell her now''..
any help would be appreciated.
Your first mistake is thinking you need canned material. That is PUA guru bullshit. Here is the fundamental flaw with using canned material: you just cannot predict every conceivable permutation in the conversation to make it feasible. Openers are okay if you're just getting into the game. But to have a list of material is just pathetic, weak, and shows a serious lack of game. What are you going to do, break out a notepad and think, "Well, it looks like I already used The Cube. Maybe I should try reading her palm! WWWDD (what would D'Angelo do)?"
Weak.
Why do you lack confidence? Is it because you have had very little interaction with women? Growth is painful. You have to fail in order to succeed. Do not be afraid of "failing" with women. It is how you get better. And trying the magic pill of canned material is impeding your growth as a man and an individual.
You need to get your house in order first. Women smell bullshit a mile away, and with VH1 now airing their pickup show, all the losers who use opinion openers and all that other bullshit are going to fail in the long run. The wheat will be separated from the chaff.
Do yourself a favor and get your own house in order first. Give yourself a solid foundation to work from and you will see success much sooner than if you continue to rely on crutches such as canned material.
Look for situational openers. Make a comment on something she is wearing. It will seem much more genuine and in turn will create comfort. Making a woman feel comfortable is paramount in seduction. Without her feeling comfort and rapport, it's a lost cause.
Want to know how you gain confidence?
-Go to the gym. Now! Do it today! I CANNOT stress this enough.
-Eat healthy
-Study/work very hard
-Find a job that you really and truly enjoy. Find your life's calling.
-Clean yourself up. Personal hygiene is key. When you look good, you feel good. And when you feel good, you cannot help but make others around you feel good too.
-Talk to every woman you can. The old bag checking out your groceries, the lady behind you in line at the post office, the young blonde that serves you your latte every day. You should be interacting with women every chance you get.
Women are not scary. Next time you get nervous around a hot babe, just picture her groaning out a big ol' turd. Besides, most of the hot women I've met are the most insecure women I've known.
This is the mentality you need to adopt:
THE PROCESS IS THE PRIZE.
Ciao.