[coolkid]

Ever since I've taken the Red Pill, I've realized how isolated I've become. Here are a few problems:
1. I've been following a strict regimen of self improvement and a lot of people don't like it. Been losing a lot of 'friends'.

2.I find that I cannot talk about my personal affairs to anyone other than a couple of super-close friends. Everyone else uses whatever I say to bring me down. Including guys. Yes, I'm seeing guys act like a bunch of catty women. Its like crabs in a bucket.

3. I cannot talk about my red-pill beliefs to anyone else. I'd lose way too many friends. And I don't want to lose my anonymity online.

4. I don't know where to hang out with red-pill, aka 'real', men. I don't want to hang around with a bunch of pansies with penises, like the guys at my College, I want to hang out with real men who can help me improve.

Any and all advice would be appreciated. If you guys have any based on personal experience, please post it. I'm really in a fix and I can't afford to fly down to Brazil to rectify that quite yet.

[deathtofatties]

Better to be a lone wolf than a beta male.

See if you can meet an older guy (over late twenties) that seems like he has legit game. They have wisdom.

[Fender_Bender]

I know what you mean coolkid. It feels lonely sometimes surrounded by people that don't realize the wool is pulled over their eyes. I have friends that go back years and I've tried to ease them towards red pill concepts / game but I've just about given up. I see them do and believe the same dumb beta shit they've been conditioned to do and I am at least glad I see the absurdity of it all. I am of the opinion that you have to seek out this shit yourself if you really want to/deserve to know about it. If you're lucky you can find someone who wasn't just born a natural and had to learn the hard way, but they are probably also lone wolves in their respective spheres as well, keeping their true beliefs under wraps in this bullshit PC culture. I wish I could find a fellow red pill/gamer in real life, my friend with the best game is still painfully blue pill when it comes to his beliefs of women and what they are capable/not capable of.

Good luck.

[Cattle Rustler]

1 - Some of those good friends were dragging you down. People get uncomfortable with the truth.

2 - Try to find a red pill group, it's weird because most athletes and soldiers are blue pill.

3 - Just talk about general stuff, sometimes you can OD on the red-pill.

I understand how you feel because I went through the same thing a few months ago (found RVF in May, joined in June). Lost about 25 friends from FB, my social circle got smaller. Nearly all of my female friends still accept me, and my social circle got stronger. They don't need to know that I bang so many girls.

[nek]

I was thinking about this the other day. All this Red-pill, becoming more 'masculine', becoming more "alpha" is really code for becoming more independent. Not giving a shit about people's opinions? You're free to do as you please. Getting jacked and learning how to fight? You're not dependent on others to protect you. See where I'm going with this? Don't need others to hang out with and keeping your own counsel? Free to do what you want again (how many times have you wanted to do something but didn't do it because you've had no one to do it with? I bet more than a few. Now just go do it). So being comfortable with hanging out by yourself is part of the equation. I'm not claiming to have all the answers, but I think this idea of what it's all about might help you out too.

[AneroidOcean]

Many people yearn for true independence, to do "whatever they want" without realizing that the only thing that makes that possible is drawing from within and severing yourself from the trickles of comfort that society and your friends, coworkers, and sometimes family provide.

Don't look at the "downsides" of your transformation as negatives. Sure, you lost friends, but were they really true friends in the first place? It's an opportunity to identify who your true friends really are and therefore know the types of people who can add to your life in the future (even better friends than the ones you lost).

You can't talk to many people about your beliefs sounds like a negative, but that can give you more time to take ACTION instead of talking about things.

While I understand wanting to maintain anonymity, you may want to just seek out a couple forum members you respect that are in your area so you can have someone local to sound off from.

[gandt]

A couple items:

1) Everyone will cheer you on until you become more successful than them. Remember that and keep improving

2) Learn to enjoy your own company

These days I have 2-3 good friends that I hang with. Between my hobbies, entrepreneurial goals, traveling, family stuff, women, and fitness I barely have time to hang out with them.

I had this one friend in university that I lived with who was the complete opposite of me. He had thousands and thousands of one-n-done friends. They would be "BEST FRIENDS EVA" immediately upon meeting. He would use them for whatever resources he had and then move onto the next.

He called this networking.. I wonder why people don't take him seriously.

Point of the story is that you don't need an abundance of "boys" to hang with. Where in the US are you? There are plenty of guys on here willing to help you out.

[XXL]

(09-27-2013 02:18 AM)coolkid Wrote:  

1. I've been following a strict regimen of self improvement and a lot of people don't like it. Been losing a lot of 'friends'.

those are not your actual friends

(09-27-2013 02:18 AM)coolkid Wrote:  

2.I find that I cannot talk about my personal affairs to anyone other than a couple of super-close friends. Everyone else uses whatever I say to bring me down. Including guys. Yes, I'm seeing guys act like a bunch of catty women. Its like crabs in a bucket.

What's the point of talking about your affairs? Keep that shit to yourself.

(09-27-2013 02:18 AM)coolkid Wrote:  

3. I cannot talk about my red-pill beliefs to anyone else. I'd lose way too many friends. And I don't want to lose my anonymity online.

Learn diplomacy. It's very useful skill. Seek first to understand then to be understood. People live in their realities. Let them. Say ok and do your thing.

(09-27-2013 02:18 AM)coolkid Wrote:  

4. I don't know where to hang out with red-pill, aka 'real', men. I don't want to hang around with a bunch of pansies with penises, like the guys at my College, I want to hang out with real men who can help me improve.

Learn from successful guys and hang out with regular guys for fun.

[Peregrine]

Quote:

What's the point of talking about your affairs? Keep that shit to yourself.

This right here. If you need to get something deeply personal off your chest, write it down in a journal.