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I have anxiety issues and I can tell you this is legit:

I'm about 1hr in and I find it extremely useful.

[Swell]

This should be next on your list. It helped me a lot.

[Richard Turpin]

I read this book years ago. I prefer it to his more famous 'How to Win Friends and Influence People'. It's years since I read them, but for a time I lived by them and liked his old-time common-sense outlook on things and found a lot of his advice practical and actionable.

He places a big emphasis on public speaking, which made perfect sense to me.

I had a couple of bad years in my 20s and bought 'How to Stop Worrying and Start Living' one day while browsing a bookstore. Just a couple of pages in, I knew I had to buy it. It stayed by my bed for years and I used to read a little every day. I guess it did the trick, 'cos I'd forgotten all about it until I saw your post.

I might seek it out again (as old a copy as I can find, don't want any 'updated' crap).

I wonder what Dale Carnegie would make of the world as it is now?

[joost]

I've read it long time ago. I think "How to Win Friends and Influence People" more useful but both are good reads.

As far as I can remember, "How to Stop Worrying and Start Living" is about:

- Being rational about your fears. What's the chance of getting hit by lightning or dying in a plane crash?
- Keep busy. It's difficult to be depressed if you have a bunch of things to do. In the book there was an example of a widow(er) who decided to fix small things in the house. Don't worry making a list, just start doing something to keep your head busy and clear.

[semibaron]

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I'm 4 hours in. They need to retitle it "inner game - the book".

[roid]

if u have anxiety issue, it means u have hormonal imbalance. this book won't help. at most just mental masturbation.

[fktax]

(12-14-2018 01:17 PM)joost Wrote:  

- Keep busy. It's difficult to be depressed if you have a bunch of things to do. In the book there was an example of a widow(er) who decided to fix small things in the house. Don't worry making a list, just start doing something to keep your head busy and clear.

I always say this....... I don't have time to be depressed!

Doing shit makes me happy, even when it doesn't go to plan. Thinking about stuff for too long makes me anxious as fuck.

Do stuff!

[gmoneysauce]

Holy Shit, I just recommended this book to another dude on the forum. I read it in high school and liked it better than it's more famous brother (How to win friends...). I'm going to listen to the audiobook.

[Kurgan]

I read this book during a time when I was worrying a lot about things. It was very helpful, now these days I don't worry about much.

[Meliorare93]

Good stuff thx for the tip, wasn't aware Carnagie wrote more then influencing people, will dig in his bibliography

[tomzestatlu]

I have bought How to win friends and influence people and I haven´t finished to book yet, but I see a lot of useful things there.
Anyway, I see a lot of ideas are maybe in contradiction with red pill, when it comes to women.

In my mind I use as the main example my ex-fiancee. I always say, that after one year of our relationship, she became quite different. Not so much, but I felt she´s seeking more problems and generally the overall happiness downgraded. I was ignoring that and for me, it was just normal phase of relationship, that normal comes after love at the beginning. She even told me for so many times, that she doesn´t feel appreciated. And she deserved that, she was really feminine and beautiful girl with awesome body. And I totally forgot to flatter her and generally say nice things to her, because I had my own problems. Last time we met together, it was 7-8 months after break up. As usually we ended up blaming each other. I blamed her for not overlooking some bad things I done, because I had worst period in my life and she blamed me, to not caring about her problems. Next time I saw her it was with her new boyfriend.
Maybe that phase that I rationally understood as normal phase of relationship was just her calling for a help. It´s a history and I don´t want to bring it up again, but it immediately came on my mind, as I am reading through the book.

I don´t want to talk about my previous relationship, but compare what does the book and redpill say and find the best way, how to treat women.
Redpill about relationships with women
-You are the center of everything
-Woman is just an acessory to your lifestyle
-Important is what you want
-No excessive emotions

Since breakup (9 months), I put myself in somekind of mind mode, which forces me to care only about myself. I want to make my life important to me and only who´s important for me is myself. I started to see girls only as something, that is necessary to give me pleasure and then dump them.
Everytime I feel lonelliness or having a bad time, I just try to rationalize it and supress my emotions.

I don´t have any exact question, how those who have read this book, how do you see the stuff written there, in connection with redpill approach to relationships?

I realized I don´t remember, when I flattered some girl recently. Now it will be probably more than a year.