[Beyond Borders]

(08-01-2013 10:44 AM)RioNomad Wrote:  

(08-01-2013 08:20 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

(08-01-2013 08:04 AM)Aliblahba Wrote:  

Protein is in abundance in the Phils:

Plenty in Thailand too. My favorite meal is the barbecue chicken with papaya salad (thai-style not isaan) and I could eat it almost every day. A hunk of barbecued pork is always readily available as well and goes well with the papaya salad. Fish, duck, beef everywhere. To me, the veggies seem harder to come across than protein and I often find myself eating a lot of fruit or just snacking on the cucumber that comes with meals instead of getting proper vegetables. But you can always order some sauteed morning glory or mixed vegetables or whatever.

Honestly, it always surprises me that some guys get tired of the food in Thailand. It's so ridiculously diverse there. I get burnt on certain dishes sometimes but then I just switch it up for a while.

But I do understand it's not for everyone.

Good to hear some guys dig Filipino food as it's the one thing I've worried about when planning my trip there; I've read a lot of mixed reviews on the cuisine.

Aside from grilled chicken and grilled fish, it is hard to get a large amount of protein in a Thai meal unless you order 3 plates of larb or something like that.

Most meals have very little protein. If you are aiming to take in 150 or more grams per day, it can be very difficult. The grilled pork is good, but super fatty. I can only eat so many grilled chicken legs/thighs or fish per day. The grilled chicken is great, but it is thighs/legs with the skin on, so it has a lot of fat and is super greasy as well.

I love grilled chicken with som tom and sticky rice. I ate it yesterday and it was delicious. Unfortunately I was shitting half of the night. It was freshly grilled, so not sure why. There is two grilled chicken stands by my condo. I got sick from one yesterday, and the other one chops up their cooked chicken with the same knife, and on the same cutting board, as they do their raw pork and chicken. So I'm down from 2 to 0 grilled chicken stands, which fucking sucks because as you said, it's delicious.

My main problem with Thai food though is just that I am sick of rice. Thai food is diverse, but you eat rice with everything, so it isn't all that diverse. If I try to eat Thai food with no rice or noodles I would never get full.

I disagree about beef being everywhere. Thais don't eat much beef at all, and it is expensive here. There is a lot of duck around, but it is generally always either 5 or 6 small slices of duck with noodles, or with rice. Duck larb is fantastic, but not so easy to find.

Aside from grilled fish or chicken, most Thai meals are low on protein and high in fat or carbs. kai diow is great, but that is just eggs deep fried in very questionable oil and thrown over a bed of white rice. Not healthy for you at all. Just like in most of the world outside of the rest, Thai meals are a little bit of protein with a lot of rice or vegetables.

Anyways, I think BB is right that Thai food is diverse, but it isn't a good option for someone looking for a high protein/lower carb diet.

That's my rant for the day hah.

I will say that a lot of you guys are far more active than me too so you're probably feeling the protein strain way more and suffering more if you skip the rice. I actually don't even eat a ton for a guy with all the weight I carry on me. I can eat one plate of laarb and I'm fine, for instance, especially if I do have some rice with it.

But as far as meat being skimped, I didn't have much of a problem with it in Chiang Mai at all - in Samui, I'll give you that it was a bit tougher, and part of me wants to say that since the economy has gotten worse they've begun skimping on the meat portions a lot. Maybe it's the same in bkk as samui, or maybe the whole country has been skimping these past couple years.

As far as beef goes, yes, it's harder to find, but I've always felt a lot of expats made it seem harder to find than it actually was. I've been to a lot of local spots in the North that even serve beef larb. A good steak is definitely a hard one to get a hold of it, but so-so ones can be found - I like the one they cook on a flatiron with the pepper/garlic sauce. Not everywhere but one you find it it's a good one to go back to. I even ate raw beef in the marketplace with a Thai chef once - maybe a bad idea? - maybe you could just go buy a bunch to cook up at home.

I also like that dried steak with kafir lime leaves dish that comes from the Isaan region -kind of like jerky. A lot of different dried beef dishes come from the Isaan region and they're usually served pretty small but I find they make a good snack. Actually just had that beef and lime leaf dish last night here in Cambodia so seems big here too. Also had some beef sauteed with ants, which was surprisingly tasty.

I've gone low carb and high protein in the country but I usually just skip rice and noodles and double up on the meat and veggies. So I might pay more but you always have to pay more to eat healthy. If I was back home in the states I'd be having to skip bread and rice and pasta to do a diet like that, so I guess I just never saw how it's any more restrictive than such a diet in the west.

I do find that in the west they often have "carb-alternatives" or whatever, but I don't usually eat that type of stuff anyways.

In the north I often got chicken breasts and not just thighs and legs. I don't mind skin or fat on my meat and often make sure to eat it as I think it's high in nutrients - same with organ meats. But I'm hardly ripped or in shape so what do I know. LOL I even always saw the barbecued chicken itself as so varied - it always tastes different and the chef usually has their own special spicy sauce recipe - I skip the sweet and spicy one they give foreigners and ask for the "nam jim."

As for the shits, do you think it was the meat or the papaya salad? I usually assume it's the spices messing with my stomach when that happens, and I just accept it as part of the territory. I could see it being a bitch if you're working out though.

I find when eating with Thai friends, they often just order food at the marketplace late night and we lay out out a spread and it's almost all different types of meat, fish and pork (I actually like pork better than other meats), sometimes beef, prawns, and whatnot - with maybe one soup and one veggie dish. And sometimes friend chicken, yeah, but I eat it. Sometimes they do a lot of barbecuing too where we just sit and eat meat all night and barely pick at rice. Thais don't seem to eat many carbs at all when drinking though.

All rambling aside, I'm guessing maybe I just don't have a lot of the same observations because I'm not as health-conscious.

[Beyond Borders]

(08-01-2013 10:59 AM)Aliblahba Wrote:  

Are none of you guys in SEA learning how to cook?

I took five days of cooking classes but I've never had a kitchen out here so I never got to put it to use. And when I was home it was hard to find the right ingredients.

[DirectDanger]

(08-01-2013 10:59 AM)Aliblahba Wrote:  

Are none of you guys in SEA learning how to cook?

A lot of the apartments guys rent don't come with a kitchen. Especially studios in the less than $500/month range. Also people who are setting up for a month or so just don't like/want to cook.

I like to cook and would generally eat at home probably 80% of my meals. But I definitely spent more money by eating at home compared with guys who can eat street food all the time.

If you want quality meats and produce you have to shop at expensive grocery stores like Villa Market or the supermarkets at malls like Emporium/terminal 21/Paragon etc... which the prices are like shopping at whole foods in the US.

Eating a Paleo/low carb diet in Bangkok was fairly expensive. Eggs where not so expensive so I would eat a dozen a day as that was the best value for protein. Certain items that must be imported are expensive like Turkey and beef (usually Australian).

It is possible to get meat and produce from cheaper places like Big C and Tesco but when you see the quality you will be very disappointed.

[Aliblahba]

I didn't know apartments come without a kitchen. Places like are usually called hotel rooms. Girls can show you how to prepare meals on the cheap. The point is learning a valuable skill you can bring with you. There's all kind of ways to run cuisine game, and Thai food is popular worldwide. Always comes with a free side of diarrhea.

[Duke Castile]

I think the lesson to learn about THC's girl flipping out is that reframing is a powerful tool no matter where you are.

I have had to do it many times, if you show one iota of weakness or guilt, she will pounce on it like a tiger.

Girl LOVE to have some sort of drama, and even if you had no bad intentions but just were pushing boundaries and they act upset and you act guilty, then you could have a serious problem on your hands.

[Beyond Borders]

(08-01-2013 12:59 PM)Aliblahba Wrote:  

I didn't know apartments come without a kitchen. Places like are usually called hotel rooms. Girls can show you how to prepare meals on the cheap. The point is learning a valuable skill you can bring with you. There's all kind of ways to run cuisine game, and Thai food is popular worldwide. Always comes with a free side of diarrhea.

In SEA, it's quite common for apartments to come without a kitchen. Most single people just don't cook for themselves because it's so easy to grab a meal out.

Been in the depths of it and that's just how people roll unless they really have loot - and once people have loot they really don't want to work for anything. That said, you can get a house for about 150 bucks a month with a semi-kitchen and outfit it as you see fit. Just depends on how long you want to commit and how much shit you want to start buying to pimp out your little kitchen.

I mean, for me I couldn't see being much happier than having some traditional thai girl sprung on you and filling your kitchen up with dank food every night. Not that easy to make that happen but most westerners will never bother. Always nice to know it's there if you want it, but in thailand non-married people don't think too much about kitchens.

For the most part it's not the norm.

[iknowexactly]

(08-01-2013 07:27 AM)Acute Angle Wrote:  

(07-31-2013 11:12 PM)TravelHardcore Wrote:  

But when I go for the panties she looked me dead in the eye and said: "NO!" (like she means it).

Okay: reframing and humor to the rescue. I step it back a moment, we make out some more, chilling. But when I try to re-escalate, AGAIN she won't let me touch her pussy. I pull out the Fisto-invented routine for this exact situation...

I just think guys need to protect their freedom first. No pussy is worth going to jail for.

This already sounds uncomfortably ambiguous-- if you had said anything like "Or i'll smack you" it could qualify as rape.

I think the use of the term LMR is dangerous, because it implies a mindset the girl might not have. That "they all want it" or some such presumption. It implies she wants to do it but is simply scared, or putting on a show, but the basic consent and desire is there.

It may well not be.

Women across history report lubing and orgasming from REAL rape too; one famous situation being when the Russians invaded Germany at the end of WW2.

Some theorists believe getting wet is a reflex to prevent damage from inevitable intercourse from a time when there was no such thing as rape ( perhaps back at earlier mammalian levels of development) , or when all sex was more like rape than not.

[Beyond Borders]

(08-01-2013 10:52 AM)scotian Wrote:  

U.S. tourist stabbed to death with iron rod in Thailand: http://news.nationalpost.com/2013/07/31/...-thailand/

Yea, I read about this. This type of shit goes down quite a bit. An entire family of foreigners, not just the father but also wife and son and daughter, got jumped by a bunch of tuk tuk drivers the other day too. Definitely gotta stay on your toes out here.

The Land of Smiles.

[Sp5]

(08-01-2013 10:52 AM)scotian Wrote:  

U.S. tourist stabbed to death with iron rod in Thailand: http://news.nationalpost.com/2013/07/31/...-thailand/

Update: Three men accused of murdering an American in the ‘Hotel California’ killing at a Thai tourist holiday town have been granted bail and allowed to walk free, local police said today. The case will be taken to court tomorrow, with the prosecutor interviewing witnesses before the Americans fly home.

http://farangdeath.tumblr.com/

Seems like they were trying to AMOG the band too much, Texas-style. Bobby Ray Carter, RIP. I'm glad the son survived.

Myself, I'm trying to change my rotation with some new women, passing up the sure thing and not answering texts and phone calls. So a few day's drought for me.

I'm changing up partly because I wasn't satisfied with the quality of the sex with some of them, partly because they can't speak anything beyond basic English, partly because I am tired of "you not love me, you not take care of me."

I do get the "You Superman!" from the cleaning and office staff girls here because of my rescue the other night. Got a date at 5 pm then going to a pool party for the residents at my apartment later on.

[Vendetta]

Excellent article on how to eat Paleo in Bangkok/Thailand:

Biohacked - Paleo

[DirectDanger]

(08-02-2013 05:34 AM)Vendetta Wrote:  

Excellent article on how to eat Paleo in Bangkok/Thailand:

Biohacked - Paleo

Very informative article. But man does that seem expensive and time consuming. It wouldn't be so bad if you had a maid that can do the shopping and hit up all the places but doing that on your own is a pain in the ass.

I wonder how the Paleo Robbie business is doing. Anyone ever tried it?

[bacan]

Amazing thread. THC what have your notch per day averages been in other parts of the world?

[Duke Castile]

(08-01-2013 10:56 PM)iknowexactly Wrote:  

(08-01-2013 07:27 AM)Acute Angle Wrote:  

(07-31-2013 11:12 PM)TravelHardcore Wrote:  

But when I go for the panties she looked me dead in the eye and said: "NO!" (like she means it).

Okay: reframing and humor to the rescue. I step it back a moment, we make out some more, chilling. But when I try to re-escalate, AGAIN she won't let me touch her pussy. I pull out the Fisto-invented routine for this exact situation...

I just think guys need to protect their freedom first. No pussy is worth going to jail for.

This already sounds uncomfortably ambiguous-- if you had said anything like "Or i'll smack you" it could qualify as rape.

I think the use of the term LMR is dangerous, because it implies a mindset the girl might not have. That "they all want it" or some such presumption. It implies she wants to do it but is simply scared, or putting on a show, but the basic consent and desire is there.

It may well not be.

Women across history report lubing and orgasming from REAL rape too; one famous situation being when the Russians invaded Germany at the end of WW2.

Some theorists believe getting wet is a reflex to prevent damage from inevitable intercourse from a time when there was no such thing as rape ( perhaps back at earlier mammalian levels of development) , or when all sex was more like rape than not.

whoa whoa whoa

THC is not going to do a write up on how to rape girls.

Jesus christ.

The guy overcame LMR. Not cries of rape.

If the girl felt raped she wouldn't have been so lovey dovey afterwards.

Let's chill down with the out of context rape stuff.

[Soma]

(08-02-2013 04:13 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

(08-01-2013 10:52 AM)scotian Wrote:  

U.S. tourist stabbed to death with iron rod in Thailand: http://news.nationalpost.com/2013/07/31/...-thailand/

Yea, I read about this. This type of shit goes down quite a bit. An entire family of foreigners, not just the father but also wife and son and daughter, got jumped by a bunch of tuk tuk drivers the other day too. Definitely gotta stay on your toes out here.

The Land of Smiles.

I know the story you're talking about. The South-African family was walking around Patong at 2am (mistake #1), the father got into a fight with a tuk-tuk driver (big mistake #2) and the driver left and came back with some friends and beat them all up. Obviously getting your buddies to gang up on a family, beating up the wife and kids, is incredibly cowardly from the Western perspective, but that shit happens to farang here. If you understand the culture even a little and just avoid any situation that involves a Thai losing face that should prevent 99% of all problems in Thailand.

[TravelHardcore]

(08-01-2013 10:56 PM)iknowexactly Wrote:  

(08-01-2013 07:27 AM)Acute Angle Wrote:  

This already sounds uncomfortably ambiguous-- if you had said anything like "Or i'll smack you" it could qualify as rape.

I think the use of the term LMR is dangerous, because it implies a mindset the girl might not have. That "they all want it" or some such presumption. It implies she wants to do it but is simply scared, or putting on a show, but the basic consent and desire is there.

Granted, the LMR-techniques I use are advanced and a warning for the newbies is in order.

Warning: I have learned, experimented and perfected this over the years. A correct reading of the situation is imperative.

This story is a short summary, the whole interaction is much more elaborate and complex. Besides the caveman'ing, freeze-outs and some other gimmicks that were applied. Explaining all of this in full detail would make this story into a book.

Short addition: I also did freeze-out's (all lights on, music off and start reading my emails), within 2 minutes she's asking me to come lay with her on the bed again.


I would like to address that I'm not at all generalizing "they all want it".


But LMR is a real thing.


But first let's make a clear definition of what I mean by Last Minute Resistance (LMR). LMR only applies to a woman who is completely attracted to you. She is feeling comfortable around you and with you touching and holding her. She is comfortable kissing you and with your initiative to sexual escalation. Basically she WANTS to have sex with you, but last minute (right before sex) she throws up an objection.

LMR does NOT apply if the woman is not (yet) fully attracted to you or still on the fence about her feelings towards you. LMR is NOT applicable when she is sincerely uncomfortable with your initiative: sexual escalation.


It is critical that you understand and correctly read this difference!


Now if she's really that attracted to you and *wants* to have sex with you, then why does she give LMR? Why does she give you objections right before sex?


Before I elaborate on that, consider this very simple analogy, but it's one that holds much truth to it:

A key that can open a lot of different locks is called a master key.
A lock that can be opened by a lot of different keys is a crappy lock.

A man who is able to have many women will make him more desirable to other women.
A woman being easily accessible for many mating partners does NOT make her more desirable to a man.


When a man is sexually attracted to a girl and he wants to have sex with her, he has no reason to hide it. In fact hiding your sexuality is a beta-trait. Presenting yourself as asexual or not interested in sex will DECREASE her attraction for you.

Now for women this is a different thing. For them hiding, or at least down playing, their sexual interest is beneficial. It makes her appear more selective and increases her desirability. "It takes the right key to open her, she is not a crappy lock."


With that in mind, I think this kind of LMR can stem from 2 things: Because you had good game and you pushed the right buttons, so she can't help but FEELING attracted to you. This is something she can't control, but her logical/cultural brain is still active and is conflicting with that feeling.

"I just met this guy, I'm not like this."
"I don't do one night stands. I'm looking for my prince."
"I'm not a slut. I don't have sex on the first date."

Her feelings tell her: "GO", her logics tell her: "NO".

So she says: "NO!" but she wants and feels "YES". In her mind saying this voice "NO" will relieve her of responsibility for getting laid. She wants to pretend she had nothing to do with it and it "just happened". This way she can rationalize it as "he just kept insisting" so I finally caved in. In her mind it's no longer "her fault" she had sex. And she can live on with the illusion she is a good girl that never gives it up on the first date.

"It didn't count this time because I said NO". Even though she said "NO" while grabbing your dick or while opening her legs.

Or even as extreme as last weeekend's example, while she's saying "NO" while she sent me out to buy condoms. That's how far this internal conflict goes with women.

And, by the way, the girl from that story is completely into me right now. She's texting me non stop to see me again. Why? Because I correctly read what she wanted and I listened to her ACTIONS rather then her WORDS.

[Beyond Borders]

(08-03-2013 06:12 AM)TravelHardcore Wrote:  

(08-01-2013 10:56 PM)iknowexactly Wrote:  

(08-01-2013 07:27 AM)Acute Angle Wrote:  

This already sounds uncomfortably ambiguous-- if you had said anything like "Or i'll smack you" it could qualify as rape.

I think the use of the term LMR is dangerous, because it implies a mindset the girl might not have. That "they all want it" or some such presumption. It implies she wants to do it but is simply scared, or putting on a show, but the basic consent and desire is there.

Granted, the LMR-techniques I use are advanced and a warning for the newbies is in order.

Warning: I have learned, experimented and perfected this over the years. A correct reading of the situation is imperative.

This story is a short summary, the whole interaction is much more elaborate and complex. Besides the caveman'ing, freeze-outs and some other gimmicks that were applied. Explaining all of this in full detail would make this story into a book.

Short addition: I also did freeze-out's (all lights on, music off and start reading my emails), within 2 minutes she's asking me to come lay with her on the bed again.


I would like to address that I'm not at all generalizing "they all want it".


But LMR is a real thing.


But first let's make a clear definition of what I mean by Last Minute Resistance (LMR). LMR only applies to a woman who is completely attracted to you. She is feeling comfortable around you and with you touching and holding her. She is comfortable kissing you and with your initiative to sexual escalation. Basically she WANTS to have sex with you, but last minute (right before sex) she throws up an objection.

LMR does NOT apply if the woman is not (yet) fully attracted to you or still on the fence about her feelings towards you. LMR is NOT applicable when she is sincerely uncomfortable with your initiative: sexual escalation.


It is critical that you understand and correctly read this difference!


Now if she's really that attracted to you and *wants* to have sex with you, then why does she give LMR? Why does she give you objections right before sex?


Before I elaborate on that, consider this very simple analogy, but it's one that holds much truth to it:

A key that can open a lot of different locks is called a master key.
A lock that can be opened by a lot of different keys is a crappy lock.

A man who is able to have many women will make him more desirable to other women.
A woman being easily accessible for many mating partners does NOT make her more desirable to a man.


When a man is sexually attracted to a girl and he wants to have sex with her, he has no reason to hide it. In fact hiding your sexuality is a beta-trait. Presenting yourself as asexual or not interested in sex will DECREASE her attraction for you.

Now for women this is a different thing. For them hiding, or at least down playing, their sexual interest is beneficial. It makes her appear more selective and increases her desirability. "It takes the right key to open her, she is not a crappy lock."


With that in mind, I think this kind of LMR can stem from 2 things: Because you had good game and you pushed the right buttons, so she can't help but FEELING attracted to you. This is something she can't control, but her logical/cultural brain is still active and is conflicting with that feeling.

"I just met this guy, I'm not like this."
"I don't do one night stands. I'm looking for my prince."
"I'm not a slut. I don't have sex on the first date."

Her feelings tell her: "GO", her logics tell her: "NO".

So she says: "NO!" but she wants and feels "YES". In her mind saying this voice "NO" will relieve her of responsibility for getting laid. She wants to pretend she had nothing to do with it and it "just happened". This way she can rationalize it as "he just kept insisting" so I finally caved in. In her mind it's no longer "her fault" she had sex. And she can live on with the illusion she is a good girl that never gives it up on the first date.

"It didn't count this time because I said NO". Even though she said "NO" while grabbing your dick or while opening her legs.

Or even as extreme as last weeekend's example, while she's saying "NO" while she sent me out to buy condoms. That's how far this internal conflict goes with women.

And, by the way, the girl from that story is completely into me right now. She's texting me non stop to see me again. Why? Because I correctly read what she wanted and I listened to her ACTIONS rather then her WORDS.

Excellent post.

[Vendetta]

I had an LMR with a girl off Thai Friendly the first night I got her over to my place. She wasn't even really down for kissing, just wanted to hang out, watch a movie.

At some point I pushed as hard as I thought was right and she said, "I just want to go home". I felt she meant it and was uncomfortable. So, I helped her get a taxi downstairs and off she went. As son as she was "out of my grip" she was texting me all these sweet messages etc. The next morning she sent a text saying that she'd not wanted to go any further because she was on her period!

So there's another angle - not that she didn't want to but she knew she was on her period so couldn't. It just so happened to be at the end of her cycle and the next day she came back and boom!

Deal closed.

[TravelHardcore]

(08-04-2013 01:07 AM)Vendetta Wrote:  

So there's another angle - not that she didn't want to but she knew she was on her period so couldn't.

Women feeling self-conscious can definitly play a part.

Like a girl the other day was giving me a hard time to take off the panties. Turned out she was genuinely not prepared to have sex that night so she didn't shave her pussy, and that made her very self-conscious. I had to put in a lot more effort to get her past the point that she didn't care anymore.

[TravelHardcore]

(08-02-2013 04:13 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

Definitely gotta stay on your toes out here.

The Land of Smiles.

Not so long ago an American got killed by a taxi driver on Sukumvit Soi 68 with a sword.



The story is also on Sp5's link.

An argument about 51 bath.

[Vendetta]

(08-04-2013 03:49 PM)TravelHardcore Wrote:  

(08-02-2013 04:13 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

Definitely gotta stay on your toes out here.

The Land of Smiles.

Not so long ago an American got killed by a taxi driver on Sukumvit Soi 68 with a sword.



The story is also on Sp5's link.

An argument about 51 bath.

To be fair though, every one of these recent stories sounds like death/injury could have been avoided if these people had followed the 2 Golden Rules of Thailand:

1. Never be caught with drugs
2. Never get into an argument/fight with a Thai

The taxi driver in this story said the taxi had turned a corner and got caught in a traffic jam - the American passenger blamed the taxi driver saying he'd done it on purpose, got out, and threw his empty coffee cup back at the driver and refused to pay the fair to that point. This all sounds highly plausible from the taxi driver's POV.

Then the driver took a sword out of his car (they all carry knives/guns/er... samurai swords) to threaten the American. What did the American do? Charge at the taxi driver (this can actually be seen in the video footage) so the driver instinctively swiped at him with the sword (don't forget he was fucking angry too so probably did it hard) and this blow or two ended up killing the American.

Did the American cause his own death? I say yes.

Or what about Bobby Carter, 51, who was just killed in Krabi - why? Coz he climbed on stage when a Thai band where playing, started drunken singing, argued with the band when they didn't play the song he requested, then refused to get off the stage and knocked their tip jar over, enraging the band. When he and his 27 year old son left the venue, the band were waiting outside, they got into an argument/fight (Golden Rule 2) and the father ended up getting stabbed in the stomach with a mental spike and dying.

Did these two Americans bring it upon themselves? 100%.

Thailand is basically really fucking safe - all you have to do is follow rules 1+2 and show some respect to the Thai people and how they do things. Be a quiet observer, don't be some brash, loud twat, acting like you own the place.

My 2 cents!

[WanderingSoul]

(08-04-2013 11:50 PM)Vendetta Wrote:  

To be fair though, every one of these recent stories sounds like death/injury could have been avoided if these people had followed the 2 Golden Rules of Thailand:

1. Never be caught with drugs
2. Never get into an argument/fight with a Thai

The taxi driver in this story said the taxi had turned a corner and got caught in a traffic jam - the American passenger blamed the taxi driver saying he'd done it on purpose, got out, and threw his empty coffee cup back at the driver and refused to pay the fair to that point. This all sounds highly plausible from the taxi driver's POV.

Then the driver took a sword out of his car (they all carry knives/guns/er... samurai swords) to threaten the American. What did the American do? Charge at the taxi driver (this can actually be seen in the video footage) so the driver instinctively swiped at him with the sword (don't forget he was fucking angry too so probably did it hard) and this blow or two ended up killing the American.

Did the American cause his own death? I say yes.

Or what about Bobby Carter, 51, who was just killed in Krabi - why? Coz he climbed on stage when a Thai band where playing, started drunken singing, argued with the band when they didn't play the song he requested, then refused to get off the stage and knocked their tip jar over, enraging the band. When he and his 27 year old son left the venue, the band were waiting outside, they got into an argument/fight (Golden Rule 2) and the father ended up getting stabbed in the stomach with a mental spike and dying.

Did these two Americans bring it upon themselves? 100%.

Thailand is basically really fucking safe - all you have to do is follow rules 1+2 and show some respect to the Thai people and how they do things. Be a quiet observer, don't be some brash, loud twat, acting like you own the place.

My 2 cents!

It's easy to make it sound like the other persons fault when he's already been hacked to death by a machete. You think the taxi driver is going to say "I tried to rip him off because he's a farang, and I hate farang, so when he got out and refused to pay I chased him down and hacked him up with a machete so I wouldn't lose face by being ripped off by a dirty, rich farang."

Only two people know what really happened, and one of them is dead.

Your advice is correct, avoid confrontation with Thais. They are cowards. They don't fight one on one, not even against other Thais. Another piece of advice is that they will lie to save face in many situations, so don't trust their word.

[Beyond Borders]

(08-04-2013 11:50 PM)Vendetta Wrote:  

To be fair though, every one of these recent stories sounds like death/injury could have been avoided if these people had followed the 2 Golden Rules of Thailand:

1. Never be caught with drugs
2. Never get into an argument/fight with a Thai

The taxi driver in this story said the taxi had turned a corner and got caught in a traffic jam - the American passenger blamed the taxi driver saying he'd done it on purpose, got out, and threw his empty coffee cup back at the driver and refused to pay the fair to that point. This all sounds highly plausible from the taxi driver's POV.

Then the driver took a sword out of his car (they all carry knives/guns/er... samurai swords) to threaten the American. What did the American do? Charge at the taxi driver (this can actually be seen in the video footage) so the driver instinctively swiped at him with the sword (don't forget he was fucking angry too so probably did it hard) and this blow or two ended up killing the American.

Did the American cause his own death? I say yes.

Or what about Bobby Carter, 51, who was just killed in Krabi - why? Coz he climbed on stage when a Thai band where playing, started drunken singing, argued with the band when they didn't play the song he requested, then refused to get off the stage and knocked their tip jar over, enraging the band. When he and his 27 year old son left the venue, the band were waiting outside, they got into an argument/fight (Golden Rule 2) and the father ended up getting stabbed in the stomach with a mental spike and dying.

Did these two Americans bring it upon themselves? 100%.

Thailand is basically really fucking safe - all you have to do is follow rules 1+2 and show some respect to the Thai people and how they do things. Be a quiet observer, don't be some brash, loud twat, acting like you own the place.

My 2 cents!

To an extent I agree with you. With cases like the guy who got stabbed with the metal spike though, you also should take into consideration that Thais are notorious for lying to make themselves look better or to get out of trouble - not to mention that most people are going to lie if there's any possibility of lessening a murder charge. I'm not 100% sold on the band's version of the story - no reason to really doubt it either, just not taking it without question.

95% of the time you will be fine if you don't act like a twat. Very true. That said, as with anything, there are always exceptions, and there are people who do get victimized and abused for no reason here too.

Just a couple examples. One old Swedish guy I met told me a story about a car driving by him really closely and the mirror knocking into his arm. The Thai must have thought he hit his car on purpose and proceeded to stop and fire off some shots in his general direction. There are definitely loose cannons out here - Thai guys kill each other over pointless shit quite often.

Another farang told me a story about standing in a bar once and a girl caught his eye and seemed to be smiling at him so he lifted his glass, etc. Her and her friends left after a bit and then suddenly a motorbike pulled up with a bruiser Thai guy and the girl. The guy got off the bike and kicked this feeble older white guy in the chest and sat there yelling at him, throwing a couple more kicks at his head while he was on the ground. Of course none of the staff intervened and this guy still doesn't understand what happened.

And what about that Russian recently who went on a date with a Thai woman who told him the guy living with her was her brother...only to have her husband knock on his apartment door later and put a gun to his head? You even hear stories about people who get attacked and go to fight off their attacker only to have uninvolved Thais jump them. Then there was the guy who got acid thrown in his face after getting off the train in Bangkok - luckily it was a weak acid and he managed to get through it with no disfigurement - just temporarily messed up his eyes.

The reason I bring these instances up is that it's very common for farangs who live here to hear any story about another farang being physically assaulted or murdered and their instant reflex is to say that the guy must have done something wrong. Well, that's not always true - and I certainly don't just take a Thai's word for it either as they rationalize some weird shit. I've definitely heard my share of stories about completely unprovoked violence and assuming all victims must have done something wrong is kind of a dangerous sentiment, in my opinion.

I can certainly understand it but I've tried to remove it from my mind a bit because bad things do happen to good people here sometimes too. Sometimes it's a cultural misunderstanding. Other times they just had the misfortune of running into the wrong Thai. And then there's plain old racism too.

We're all here in same boat and I know there are a lot of idiot farangs, but it would be nice to see a bit more solidarity in the expat community, in my honest opinion - as this can be a dangerous place to live for a white boy sometimes. Would be nice to at least know that if you got fucked over people weren't going to just automatically assume you were asking for it.

I find it interesting how Westerners who move abroad often demonize each other and adopt an "every man for himself" attitude. Immigrants who come from non-Western countries, on the other hand, cling to each other and watch one another's backs almost to a fault. I've even caught myself doing that. Just something to think about.

[Aliblahba]

Do you see a pattern where they're attacking and killing older guys? Or is it even across the age demographic?

[Beyond Borders]

(08-05-2013 12:27 AM)Aliblahba Wrote:  

Do you see a pattern where they're attacking and killing older guys? Or is it even across the age demographic?

Kind of hard to say as there are so many more older guys here. I don't think too many Thais are all too keen to tangle one-on-one with a young, scrappy farang guy - even though they're pretty damn tough themselves - but they usually have backup so they wouldn't necessarily need to anyways.

An old Aussie guy did tell me a story about seeing some Thais pull that ratpacking shit with a group of in-shape American military boys and the soldiers mopped the floor with them. He said it was kind of nice to see after watching so many foreigners get jumped over the years.

[WanderingSoul]

(08-05-2013 12:29 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

(08-05-2013 12:27 AM)Aliblahba Wrote:  

Do you see a pattern where they're attacking and killing older guys? Or is it even across the age demographic?

Kind of hard to say as there are so many more older guys here. I don't think too many Thais are all too keen to tangle one-on-one with a young, scrappy farang guy - even though they're pretty damn tough themselves - but they usually have backup so they wouldn't necessarily need to anyways.

An old Aussie guy did tell me a story about seeing some Thais pull that ratpacking shit with a group of in-shape American military boys and the soldiers mopped the floor with them. He said it was kind of nice to see after watching so many foreigners get jumped over the years.

Similar thing happened at Spicy a month or two back, except one of the Thai guys pulled out a gun and shot a few people. Think 1 or 2 died, and a couple of innocent by standards got shot.

Thai guy said something a long the lines of he only shot them because he and his friends were losing the fight.