[huntingyou]

I have read the forums for a while and actually joined last year but never posted anything. Was thinking of messing around a bit (I'm married) but then got moved to Miami (civilian) and decided to forget about that...until recently.

BY the way, I have played around very sporadically through out the years...more like one every three years when it basically falls on my lap and cant say no.

Ok, so there is this navy girl (19) working in my section, she is maybe a 7 but I could be biased because she is filipina and I always like Asians so who knows. Well, she talks a lot, kind of goofy, video game player and for the last two weeks has been talking with me at work about anything she can think of. The first time we chatted she mentioned she had a boyfriend back home.......ever since she calls him " a friend" whenever the conversation leads that way.

My friend at work tells me this week the Asian girl its looking at me "shy smiling" whenever she walks by us. He then encourage me to ask her out blah blah. Fast forward today, walking to the car after work, she asked me what I'm doing this weekend....I tell her, she says "it's going to rain and you might have to cancel tennis.........it would be perfect for movie night". I kind of ignored it and go my way....my brain goes crazy after ten minutes "was she hinting at me?" I mean, the girl obviously likes me, her body language it's very clear and she keeps trying to validate herself every time I hit her with a neg comment

So what did I do? Got the roster, text her with "it's raining like you told me blah blah" I had her guessing a little before that line and she got my name of course. We are texting, everything cool....I call her and we start talking about stuff like we always do at work. I ask her what are her plans tomorrow after the haircut...she says she is doing all her errands tomorrow and will be done around 6pm. I said "let's hang out afterwards" and she goes into she always goes to bed early around 8pm, then she ask me "aren't you meeting with your friends after tennis"? at that point a bailed out....say no worries is not a big deal; got to go hang up.

Obviously I never escalated...because of my position and the fear of young girl being unpredictable; I kept the conversation and even the asking her out very relax and non committed.

What are your thoughts? Should I distance myself from her at work (stop the chit chatting)?

[Jaylow]

I guess this isn't really advice but theres probably a way where you could have just acted aloof and found an excuse to invite her over to your place and escalated without having to do the whole movie/date type crap. Sounds like shes pretty obsessed with you.

[huntingyou]

well, that would be great if I was single or the wife wouldn't mind the idea.

for the record, she did turned down my invitation to hang out by using the horrible excuse of going to bed early.....she even said "sorry" and then went into "are you going out with your friends after tennis". I know I was very weak with the phone rumble but.....maybe she expecting me to ask her out during the day? nah....she just wanted attention and since I'm not escalating this any further I guess I will keep her at distance

[Jaylow]

You are asking us advice on how not to fuck her?

[huntingyou]

(05-03-2013 06:51 PM)Jaylow Wrote:  

You are asking us advice on how not to fuck her?

no bro...I would love to fuck her of course. I think my chances went way down though and unless I press hard (risky...see work with me factor) the only thing this girl will give its ton of chitchat which I could care less for.

Am I right putting distance on her?

There are other older (21-28) prospects in the same place.......the though of 19 year old pussy its strong though

[eradicator]

she goes to bed at 8pm?!?! That is either a lie or she wakes up at 3am every morning. If that is the case, you could try meeting up with her early in the morning. Does she know you are married?

Just ask her out for something during the day on a weekend, or the early morning. Or don't cheat on your wife in the first place? If you are looking to fool around, your marriage isnt healthy. End the marriage if you are that unhappy and fuck whoever you want, whenever you want?

[huntingyou]

(05-03-2013 07:27 PM)master_thespian Wrote:  

she goes to bed at 8pm?!?! That is either a lie or she wakes up at 3am every morning. If that is the case, you could try meeting up with her early in the morning. Does she know you are married?

Just ask her out for something during the day on a weekend, or the early morning. Or don't cheat on your wife in the first place? If you are looking to fool around, your marriage isnt healthy. End the marriage if you are that unhappy and fuck whoever you want, whenever you want?

of course she knows I'm married.........we never talk about it. Even today she didn't use it as an excuse which would have been credible.

Are you a women? Yes, I'm not healthy......

[Monte Cassino]

(05-03-2013 06:08 PM)huntingyou Wrote:  

...What are your thoughts? Should I distance myself from her at work (stop the chit chatting)?

Don't mess with the stuff at work. Especially if married. PM if you want other advice.

[BoneDaddy]

(05-03-2013 07:33 PM)huntingyou Wrote:  

(05-03-2013 07:27 PM)master_thespian Wrote:  

she goes to bed at 8pm?!?! That is either a lie or she wakes up at 3am every morning. If that is the case, you could try meeting up with her early in the morning. Does she know you are married?

Just ask her out for something during the day on a weekend, or the early morning. Or don't cheat on your wife in the first place? If you are looking to fool around, your marriage isnt healthy. End the marriage if you are that unhappy and fuck whoever you want, whenever you want?

of course she knows I'm married.........we never talk about it. Even today she didn't use it as an excuse which would have been credible.

Are you a women? Yes, I'm not healthy......

You're going to get lots of "end the marriage if you're unhappy" bullshit from the guys who have either never been married or are looking to get married. I'll guarantee you that these same cats will be back on the forum a few years from now looking for advice on how to do what you're doing.

The only thing that would give me concern in your situation is that you are doing it where you work. Play on, playa, but do it far, far away from your regular work/life routine.

[huntingyou]

(05-03-2013 07:41 PM)BoneDaddy Wrote:  

You're going to get lots of "end the marriage if you're unhappy" bullshit from the guys who have either never been married or are looking to get married. I'll guarantee you that these same cats will be back on the forum a few years from now looking for advice on how to do what you're doing.

The only thing that would give me concern in your situation is that you are doing it where you work. Play on, playa, but do it far, far away from your regular work/life routine.

I see, got me by surprise since this is suppose to be the "alpha" male type forum.

marriage its just another social construct used to "control" society and promotes consumption.

I hear about the work ordeal. I was reluctant but man, it has worked in the past.

[BoneDaddy]

(05-03-2013 07:53 PM)huntingyou Wrote:  

(05-03-2013 07:41 PM)BoneDaddy Wrote:  

You're going to get lots of "end the marriage if you're unhappy" bullshit from the guys who have either never been married or are looking to get married. I'll guarantee you that these same cats will be back on the forum a few years from now looking for advice on how to do what you're doing.

The only thing that would give me concern in your situation is that you are doing it where you work. Play on, playa, but do it far, far away from your regular work/life routine.

I see, got me by surprise since this is suppose to be the "alpha" male type forum.

marriage its just another social construct used to "control" society and promotes consumption.

I hear about the work ordeal. I was reluctant but man, it has worked in the past.

We're on the same page. I've been playing this game successfully for a long time. My LTR is the better for it, believe it or not. Any thoughts or questions, let me know either in the thread or PM.

[Monte Cassino]

(05-03-2013 07:41 PM)BoneDaddy Wrote:  

The only thing that would give me concern in your situation is that you are doing it where you work. Play on, playa, but do it far, far away from your regular work/life routine.

We are on the same wavelength here. PM for more.