[Tom Ato]

Hi,


I was browsing Roissy's blog and he said "Emotionally connecting with a girl is 90% of getting her into your bed. The first ten minutes of meeting her — swooping in, introducing yourself, steering the conversation, and building her attraction to you through body language and high value stories" in one of his posts.

The high value stories part is what gets me. Are there any tips on how to be a good story-teller / captivate the audience well, especially when talking to women? It's probably the weakest part of my game right now.

[MiXX]

(06-17-2010 09:53 AM)Tom Ato Wrote:  

Hi,


I was browsing Roissy's blog and he said "Emotionally connecting with a girl is 90% of getting her into your bed. The first ten minutes of meeting her — swooping in, introducing yourself, steering the conversation, and building her attraction to you through body language and high value stories" in one of his posts.

The high value stories part is what gets me. Are there any tips on how to be a good story-teller / captivate the audience well, especially when talking to women? It's probably the weakest part of my game right now.

Storytelling is kind of like displaying a "bird's eye" view of your life, or better yet, a highlight reel of how fun and interesting of a life you have.

Women connect to this "life reel" as if watching a movie - there should be a little of everything, and in the end, the movie ends with you coming out a better person from such experiences. You are basically trying to connect with her emotions and mind.

Now, careful not to tell a story that is obvious bullshit, or can be perceived as such - like telling a story of how you banged Jennifer Lopez, or scaled Mt. Everest when you were 17 years old while attending your nomination for the Pulitzer prize.

Choose a highlight in your life that is sprinkled with comedy, a little bit of thrills, and shows you as a cool, and fun guy to be around.

Normally, I always lead teh conversaton to talk about my world travels (NEVER TALK ABOUT YOUR JOB - women don't give a shit - really). In world travels, I may talk about a waterfall I bathed in: naked =) Or, I will talk about my first experience riding a horse - inside the ocean with teh horses head jsut above teh cool sparkling water....or how I went to a job interview once with no underwear as a good luck charm...shit like this makes them laugh, and be intrigued by you...

Be careful not to stay in this storytelling phase too long, or you will become an "entertainer" and not a potential fuck buddy - say enough to generate interest, and move on to Kino escalation/comfort building.

And lastly - be playful!! always!! Playful gets you laid - treat her like a kid sister, make fun of her small flaws and insecurities, but be sure to not come across as serious about it to the point where you truly humiliate her...that will close her legs up in nanoseconds!

Mixx

[speakeasy]

Good stuff Mixx, now how do you make your transition from the initial hello to telling about going to work with no underwear?

[MiXX]

(06-17-2010 10:59 AM)speakeasy Wrote:  

Good stuff Mixx, now how do you make your transition from the initial hello to telling about going to work with no underwear?

Actually it was a job interview. I wear underwear to go to work (now). =)

It really depends on the vibe the girl gives you, sometimes you have to "feel her out" - see what level of tolerance she has for humor. Is she cool, snobby, bitchy or receptive? - does she have a huge smile when you approached her, or was she bitchy and felt she just got her period cramps the very second you approached?

The girl I opened and mentioned my "no underwear" job interview, was a girl I met at a lobby of my corporate office buildings cafeteria - I commented on her nice shoes (always works with women), and then asked her what dept. she worked in...she then told me she was there for a job interview, which I immediately used as a trigger to move into my "storytelling" phase and connect with her nervous emotions about being at a job interview. I told her to relax, I got this job by having a surefire lucky charm, and explained to her what it was...she immediately burst out laughing...which of course, was a trigger for me to move on to getting more details about her, and how we can "get together" to celebrate her new job (always be positive).

2 years later...

I recently saw her at a nightclub about 3 weeks ago...she was celebrating her bacchelorette party....and since I was pre-approved, I f-closed on 2 of her brides maids =)

End Movie.

End Credits.

The End.

Mixx.

[stein]

"level of tolerance she has for humor."

This is so key. I struggle moving on from the 'pull-her-leg' and 'tell-a-funny-story' mode and I'm learning that most girls are not as cool as the guys. I've had to tell myself to tone down the humor just because a chick I'm targeting has a very lame sense of detecting humor and witty sarcasm.

Then again, i've noticed their tolerance for being treated like shit goes way up if they are already very attracted to your looks, vibe.

Much respect to Mixx for breaking his early game down for us. Thanks man.

[thegmanifesto]

"I struggle moving on from the 'pull-her-leg' and 'tell-a-funny-story' mode and I'm learning that most girls are not as cool as the guys. I've had to tell myself to tone down the humor just because a chick I'm targeting has a very lame sense of detecting humor and witty sarcasm."

This is called "Rapport".

You actually need it when you converse with anyone.

The good thing is you can get better with practice.

[Pepini]

Sometimes I use this ridle for girls:

There´s a man in a room hanging with a pudle of water beneath him. He comited suicide alone, how did he died?

The answer is he stood in a ice cube that melted.

This is one of the questions to be a criminal detective.

[MiXX]

Sometimes, no matter how confident, fun, and cool you are - you will eventually run into a girl who is just a bitch no matter what. It could also be she just got her period or is about to and is having serious cramps. Or, it could be she is missing half her paycheck from this week, fired from her job, missed out on a 2 for 1 sale of Jimmy Choo shoes last night, or it could be that she could not cash her check in time to pay her rent and is in a pissy mood.

Today, I bumped into a girl who is the perfect example, and thankfully, I'll let someone else deal with her bitchiness.


Scenario:

Preparing for my trip to Calgary, I have been snooping around Facebook e-mailing as many girls as I can to at least hit the ground running. I also like this approach so that I can have some girls line up as social proof for local events. Anyway, my e-mail was very respectful, and I only mentioned wanting to make local friends to show me around the city to enjoy my trip.

Not once did I mention sex, or anything related to so much as kissing or any hints of my true intentions of banging of course.

In one of my cool e-mails, a girl responds in a very bitchy attitude: "I have a boyfriend, he would not appreciate or be impressed by this e-mail you sent to me" - now, of course, women will always put you through a simple shit test - but some, like I said, have some serious fucking issues to deal with inside their head.


Sooooo, I politely, and humorously replied "hey girl - that's cool, I was only e-mailing you to give you the chance to make a cool new friend, and you reply to me with your personal problems your BF has?"

Now, that was meant to be funny of course, but she replied "Fuck you, don't write to me".

Granted, out of about 50 e-mails I have sent, more than 10 have replied with eager and excitement, and this has been the only blacksheep of the batch.

point being, You never know what is eating away inside a womans head - so you "feel her out" and when you get a bitch like this, step away like a confident gent - and simply say "later"...and move on to bang her sister, who was very receptive of your e-mail =)



happy swoopin'


Mixx

[speakeasy]

How do you find girls on facebook to email? It was easy on myspace. It was almost like a dating site where you could filter out by city, radius of miles, relationship status and all kind of shit. Nearly every girl on Facebook has her profile in privacy locked down, so how are you even getting at them?

[MiXX]

(06-18-2010 07:45 PM)speakeasy Wrote:  

How do you find girls on facebook to email? It was easy on myspace. It was almost like a dating site where you could filter out by city, radius of miles, relationship status and all kind of shit. Nearly every girl on Facebook has her profile in privacy locked down, so how are you even getting at them?

Well, unfortunately, unlike Myspace, Facebook requires a bit of diligence on your part. Say you are in Cordoba, Argentina, and you want to start spamming local girls to see which one bites.

You do a search for Cordoba, Argentina on FB, and take a look at the different groups and people who are members of anything to do with Cordoba, Argentina.

Now, once you start choosing girls, not all will have their friend lists locked down. Now, the ones that do have their profiles locked down, usually still have a way for you to send them a message, or add as a friend, with a personal message. When you find a girl you like, chances are she has similar looking girlfriends. Take a look at ALL her friends. A small pop-up window wil appear. HERE is where you can narrow your search of her/his friends by City.


Now, you cannot filter by sex, age, distance like you could MS, but hey - persistence pays off! The nice thing is that not many guys will go the extra mile and do the extra work, so chances are, a nice e-mail form you, is something she does not get everyday...unlike Myspace.

TIP: Always look at guys friends list too, they tend to have more female friends you can cherry-pick. =)

Happy FB hunting!

Mixx