Quote: (06-05-2010 08:41 PM)Iceman Wrote:
Wondering what you guys think about how many guys is it ok for a chick to have slept with before she becomes a no-go for long term relationship material?
I met a pretty attractive chick a few weeks back and she seemed to be fun, intelligent and lots in common and was getting along great so thinking this may be LTR material, and they weren’t any obvious things that set my alarm bells off. However, a couple of nites back we decided it was time to do the talk about exes and she told me she’d been with four guys till now( 2 long term bf’s and 2 short term bf’s).
Now I might sound a bit old-fashioned, but am I all right in thinking this is above average for a 22 year old and strike her off as I was looking for something serious as opposed to a fling.
Wow I can't believe I missed this one. 4 too many for 22? No that is not many at all. You do have to consider you are old fashioned and accept that times have indeed changed. I;m not going to attack you or get upset, but you really can't go judging on that. That is quite a low #. What i'd wonder is whether she's being honest or not. But either way, you shouldn't have asked and she shouldn't have shared.
I consider myself a late bloomer. I lost my virginity at 19, a few months from turning 20. by the time I was 22 i had been with about 12 guys. My number slowed down significantly after that, because I entered grad school , stopped partying, matured and got over the repression anxiety from my strict upbringing, plus a few relationships. Considering, most of the guys girls sleep with are first timers, and i sucked fewer of those mens dicks, (which to me is much more personal and more disgusting with someone i don't know) , i'd be more concerned about how many times she's had her thing used and abused.
A girl who has been in constant long relationships since she was 14 and has been having sex since then, even though they may have only been 7 or 8 , would be something i'd be more worried about. Either way , ti doesn't really matter as long as she is STD-free. No one should know about anyone's sexual past either way. If you didn't' learn that anyway, you should learn that by now. Don't ever ask a woman about her past. it will lead to insecurities and you wondering about whether she is relationship material, just like you are now. It has only lead to issues in my past, so now i keep it to myself in relationships.
Quote: (06-05-2010 10:41 PM)Iceman Wrote:
I thought I was not being unrealistic on 4 being too many for 22 going by Roissy -
http://roissy.wordpress.com/2008/12/29/i...fy-a-slut/
0 lifetime partners: Sweet virginal manna. A bit weird, but you’re confident you’ll break her in.
3 lifetime partners: Typical woman. Wife and mother of your children material.
10 lifetime partners: Above average. Proceed with caution.
15 lifetime partners: Well above average. Be dominant or she’ll cheat.
25 lifetime partners: A whole lot. Use her and lose her.
100 lifetime partners: Stopwatch material. You wonder how fast you can get her from “Hi” to “Spread your ass cheeks, I’m going in”.
I fall right between these two in bold. Guess the only issue is wondering whether i'll cheat, if you've got the balls to be dominant to prevent me from cheating and if you don't, just use me or lose me? Nice.