[Grontor]

Hello,
I recently had my surgery and now have an ileostomy (see wiki), basically 2cm of small intestine protrude from my belly and I put a bag over it to hide it and contain wastewater.

I am feeling much healthier after surgery and my Dr says "good progress". BUT, how do I game after this? Maybe there are some ways to explain to women that it was done for my health??? The nurses here are cute and nice, so I know I still got the magic!

[presidentcarter]

Fucked up but a part of life, I suppose. Just hit on the nurses man!! They already know what's up.

[RichieP]

Feel for you mate. Might be hard to see how you can reconcile that with gaming chix.

That said, even though for some girls it might be a dealbreaker, there are girls who will be able to accept it. So it's really just business as usual - keep gaming. Girls have more ridiculous things that are dealbreakers for them, after all.

I do know that how you frame it is going to be a factor... being apologetic and going into the medical details is probably not optimal.

OTOH if you were unapologetic about it and could stand behind it - you know you did it for your health, you know it took courage and strength to go through - then that can come over. That's the sort of personality trait that girls value.

I'm not saying it's going to be an asset - just that you gotta play the cards you've been dealt. There's a way to creatively work around it, and you'll find it if you can keep approaching and playing around with different frames.

[Screwston]

Damn, that's hard. This thread should be moved to the Game section for more advice. I would say I got shot/stabbed or something like that.