[joker]

So its been about 6 months since my breakup with my girlfriend and I wanted to give you an update about how I've slowly developed my lifestyle and I hope, through you guys reading this, can inspire and motivate you to do the same. I'll be as honest as I can and suggest the sacrifices and benefits of my new system.

After my breakup I spiraled down for about 3 months working a job I hated which I quit 1 month into, getting fat, over-thinking and being depressed over my ex. I had taken 2 years off uni cause I didn't think it possible that I could finish especially with a woman in my life. My best mate had also joined the army at this point and it left me feeling alone. Eventually I started pumping some iron, I've had previous experience in the art, so I wasn't starting from the ground up. 3 months later, present day, my best mate came back for the weekend and noticed my physical change which was the result of training 4-5x a week for 3 months which hasn't stopped. Moreover, I am back at uni with the aim in getting my degree and starting teaching. I also have a job interview for the job I want as a part-time security guard at the airport to finance my studies and develop myself. I also try and read a little every day 2 hours on the average.

From the experiences I mentioned above I've learnt a few things. Time being the biggest factor. Over time, if you are consistent with your endeavors you will get there, albeit slowly. So don't be deterred if you aren't making fast progress as long as you immerse yourself within what you want to achieve you will get better day by day. In regards to gym the days you aren't feeling it or can't lift with intensity have some fun with your exercises by doing what you feel you can for that day. Believe me its a great confidence booster. Surrounding yourself with positive people definitely helps. With uni, I've gotten quite a few stars from girls although until money starts rolling in I'm not even going to make an effort other than exchange pleasantries. Now to the part of sacrifice. Having been only 6 months of breaking up I haven't had sex but it doesn't bother me as much cause ultimately my goals will lead to a better life. I don't go out at the moment other than hang with a couple close friends, and haven't started investing in a new wardrobe. For me, in the direction I'm going women might get in the way because I'm very easily side-tracked when it comes to women so I'm hoping I could get advice on dealing with my own goals and chasing women, is there a golden middle?

Lastly, I hope I can inspire you guys to do the same. Personally, I'm a an individual who is very sensitive when it come to believing in love, friendship, trust and loyalty. I do hope to meet a girl who I can LTR cause that gives me happiness, but for now I'm gonna keep on my path and I encourage you guys to do the same. In summary, my experiences have helped me learn to be on my own, relying only on myself and now I can slowly move forward in becoming the man I want to be. That, in my opinion is Alpha

[malakaix]

(03-14-2015 01:20 AM)joker Wrote:  

Having been only 6 months of breaking up I haven't had sex but it doesn't bother me as much cause ultimately my goals will lead to a better life. I don't go out at the moment other than hang with a couple close friends, and haven't started investing in a new wardrobe. For me, in the direction I'm going women might get in the way because I'm very easily side-tracked when it comes to women so I'm hoping I could get advice on dealing with my own goals and chasing women, is there a golden middle?

I can get behind this, it sounds a bit similar to where i'm currently at.

I had a wild year last year where i slept around a ton and enjoyed every minute of it, but my goals suffered and so did my discipline. Now im on the other extreme where my goals are the priority and i can justify it because i know it will lead to a life i want.

Perhaps there is a middle ground but i'm terrible when it comes to balance.. when i create a goal weather it's women, work, or building wealth it becomes an obsession for me and i will forgo other aspects of life in order to achieve it.. all or nothing. Im working on changing this because it's not healthy but for me it's still the fastest way to get there..

[RagnarLothbrok]

I also developed a new lifestyle after coming back from SEA last month. This blog post helped me a lot:

http://www.kratosguide.com/16-habits-you...every-day/

I think someone else already posted that link here. I can only recommend writing down your own habits that you would like to implement into your life and then work on it.

My current habits are:

Exercise: Every day either gym, soccer or mobility training (on rest days)

Diet: I track all my food and my everyday's goal is to hit the exact amount of calories, proteines, fats and carbs. No sugar, no alcohol, no cigarettes. Enough fruits and vegetables. At least a gallon of water a day.

University: Investing at least an hour in my studies apart from the mandatory classes. This could be studying for exams, homework, organisational stuff.

Reading: Reading a book for at least 60mins a day. I mark all important parts and write them into a separate word document to internalize and archive the content. In addition to books, I also try to read good blogs everyday.

Expenses: I write down all my expenses to know exactly how much money I spend in a month. This helps me saving money for my future travels.

News and current events: Everyday in the morning I read 3-4 articles to get a feeling for what is happening in the world.

Podcast/TED Talk/Lectures: I try to listen to one of those everyday to expand my knowledge in a particular field.

Planning the next day: This is crucial. I found out that it is a lot easier for me to follow my habits when I write a daily schedule. Every evening I write down the things I have to do and should do the next day. This should include all the above habits I listed. I use Evernote to write my daily schedule on my computer and then check it on my smartphone during the day.

Journal: I am keeping a journal to write down all my accomplishments and feelings I had during the day. I am not sure yet if and how I will benefit from it.

I also use excel to visualise my progress like the author of the blog post does. This is a great motivation as you see exactly on what days you were lazy and what habits are causing you trouble.

I am doing all this for a week now and I feel great. I procrastinate a lot less and I am a lot more productive since I follow my daily schedule with all the habits that influence my life in a positive way.

Things I want to implement in my daily routine as well are:

- Meditation (if anyone has good recommendations for books or blogs about meditation, pls let me know)
- learning a new language
- working on a personal project
- working on one specific skill (such as programming, copywriting, graphic design)

[djjunior]

I follow pretty much the same schedule, except I do meditate monday to friday from 4.30 am to 5 am. This helps me attain an amazing sense of happiness and mental peace which I cant really describe on this thread.

A few additions to your great schedule.

I love reading the financial times every morning and gives me a great sense of whats up in the world.

If i do miss a workout, i try to do this full bodyweight 5 min workout from youtube.. link below
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-u1DjsQz7l0

On meditation try applying this principle from Napoleon Hill on controlled attention (focus on whatever it is you want, I try to block every material aspect of my life from my mind when I meditate)...

Napoleon Hill Revisited: On Controlled Attention
Concentration on one's major purpose projects a clear picture of that purpose on the conscious mind, and holds it
there until it is taken over by the subconscious and acted upon. This is controlled attention.
Controlled attention is the act of coordinating all the faculties of the mind and directing their combined power to a
given end. It is an act that can be achieved only by the strictest sort of self-discipline. Attention that is not
controlled and directed may be nothing more than idle curiosity. The word controlled is the key to thought power.
The most successful people in all callings are those with a so-called one-track mind -- that is, a mind that is
controlled and concentrated upon one thing at a time. It is this trait that manifests itself as a fixed habit of turning
on more power instead of quitting when the going becomes hard and defeat seems imminent.

(03-14-2015 06:05 AM)Dipar Wrote:  

I also developed a new lifestyle after coming back from SEA last month. This blog post helped me a lot:

http://www.kratosguide.com/16-habits-you...every-day/

I think someone else already posted that link here. I can only recommend writing down your own habits that you would like to implement into your life and then work on it.

My current habits are:

Exercise: Every day either gym, soccer or mobility training (on rest days)

Diet: I track all my food and my everyday's goal is to hit the exact amount of calories, proteines, fats and carbs. No sugar, no alcohol, no cigarettes. Enough fruits and vegetables. At least a gallon of water a day.

University: Investing at least an hour in my studies apart from the mandatory classes. This could be studying for exams, homework, organisational stuff.

Reading: Reading a book for at least 60mins a day. I mark all important parts and write them into a separate word document to internalize and archive the content. In addition to books, I also try to read good blogs everyday.

Expenses: I write down all my expenses to know exactly how much money I spend in a month. This helps me saving money for my future travels.

News and current events: Everyday in the morning I read 3-4 articles to get a feeling for what is happening in the world.

Podcast/TED Talk/Lectures: I try to listen to one of those everyday to expand my knowledge in a particular field.

Planning the next day: This is crucial. I found out that it is a lot easier for me to follow my habits when I write a daily schedule. Every evening I write down the things I have to do and should do the next day. This should include all the above habits I listed. I use Evernote to write my daily schedule on my computer and then check it on my smartphone during the day.

Journal: I am keeping a journal to write down all my accomplishments and feelings I had during the day. I am not sure yet if and how I will benefit from it.

I also use excel to visualise my progress like the author of the blog post does. This is a great motivation as you see exactly on what days you were lazy and what habits are causing you trouble.

I am doing all this for a week now and I feel great. I procrastinate a lot less and I am a lot more productive since I follow my daily schedule with all the habits that influence my life in a positive way.

Things I want to implement in my daily routine as well are:

- Meditation (if anyone has good recommendations for books or blogs about meditation, pls let me know)
- learning a new language
- working on a personal project
- working on one specific skill (such as programming, copywriting, graphic design)

[Alche]

@malakaix - hehe you sound like me.

Nice work guys, one tip for being productive that has worked for me is to not set yourself certain time periods to do something. When you do that it can feel like a chore. Whether its studying or exercise make it feel fun or pretend its a game and enjoy it. This has helped to be productive all day pumping out 10+ hrs when needed.

[RagnarLothbrok]

(03-16-2015 07:45 AM)Alche Wrote:  

@malakaix - hehe you sound like me.

Nice work guys, one tip for being productive that has worked for me is to not set yourself certain time periods to do something. When you do that it can feel like a chore. Whether its studying or exercise make it feel fun or pretend its a game and enjoy it. This has helped to be productive all day pumping out 10+ hrs when needed.

I need to do the exact opposite and write down in my schedule what time I need/want to do what task. Otherwise I will just postpone it when I lack motivation.

[Alche]

Oh yeah i probably should have mentioned, to begin with i did keep a schedule of what to do, and sometimes still do. But if i was to write down, do 5hrs of study on etc etc, for me i would probably only do 3 compared to just working without thinking about how many hours ive done, I find is easier.

Just make sure you dont associate setting specific hours with it being a chore and you will be good.

[Deepdiver]

After serving 6 years in the Military on nuke boats having everything structured to the minute seems a bit too constricting.

In life plans tend to get preempted by random events, customer priorities, new business initiatives, project issues, job opps, etc.

Preface that I like young intelligent and very sexy women who love men of action. No finance no romance - no jingle no mingle, no money no honey, etc.

Out of the blue a month ago I was contacted by a VP of a major corp I my industry from LinkedIn email - picked it up in my daily emails routine... replied - did not hear from him for two weeks - he had a last minute invite to the White House for an industry conference ... anyway he introduced me to one of his subordinate directors and two versions of an SOW later and I was told the purchase order is being cut and I have a new prestige client with an understanding if they like my work it will be long term and highly location independent at a high comp rate - seems like the stars aligned because I was flexible and open to some serendipity - an old cliché I like is "The secret of luck is being prepared when timing, opportunity and fortune turn in your favor".

Fact is we all need money to live and achieve our goals and I find that a very simple prioritization method works best for me.

So my simple ABC (Always Be Closing) prioritization schedule is:

Priority A - Actions that bring money in the door today.

Priority B - Actions that bring money in the door tomorrow.

Priority C - Everything else.

Tends to be a lot less stressful - especially if some PYT is buzzing in your ear about you being a workaholic or emotionally unavailable or whatever other passive aggressive behavior to get you to mix up your priorities like the talk where are we heading - unless she is a big earner for you she and all the others are a priority C - everything else after you have taken care of your mission priorities A & B.

Simples.