Went out tonight. 1st date. Fairly shy cerebral type girl. Intellectual logical type.
Went to a bar. We had a few drinks. I told a few interesting stories, and she was asking questions. Our conversation got going, it was a good interaction. I got body language - knee pointing at me. Some sort of indicators for me of attraction. We went to see a movie. I didn't touch her there, except for leaning over a couple of times, touched her leg, touch her arm briefly as I asked a question or made a comment.
We went to a bar after that and it was crowded, we ended up with almost full contact on one side of our bodies. Its funny, but I intuited we had contact long enough to get us ready perhaps for the next level.
Walked her to the car, ( I don't like to linger at this stage), and said goodnght, I went for the kiss, she turned her head - landed on the cheek.
Do I need to do a Lead up?
She saw I was after a bit more. It was awkward.
She's agreed to meet again in the next 3 days, and then on th e weekend for a party at her place. Her invite. That sounds promising for taking it elsewhere.
Any advice on touching? THis is my big obstacle. I came from a family that wasn't touchy feely at all and its all been a huge learning experience even with previous girlfriends. With a new person I tend to under-touch perhaps.
How important is hand holding? I felt perhaps, the touching was impersonal like if you sat next to a person on a bus. Anyway, this area is so fraught for me -any comments welcome.
I would have liked to kiss her properly tonight. Anyway, any advice for more experienced daters welcome.
Went to a bar. We had a few drinks. I told a few interesting stories, and she was asking questions. Our conversation got going, it was a good interaction. I got body language - knee pointing at me. Some sort of indicators for me of attraction. We went to see a movie. I didn't touch her there, except for leaning over a couple of times, touched her leg, touch her arm briefly as I asked a question or made a comment.
We went to a bar after that and it was crowded, we ended up with almost full contact on one side of our bodies. Its funny, but I intuited we had contact long enough to get us ready perhaps for the next level.
Walked her to the car, ( I don't like to linger at this stage), and said goodnght, I went for the kiss, she turned her head - landed on the cheek.
Do I need to do a Lead up?
She saw I was after a bit more. It was awkward.
She's agreed to meet again in the next 3 days, and then on th e weekend for a party at her place. Her invite. That sounds promising for taking it elsewhere.
Any advice on touching? THis is my big obstacle. I came from a family that wasn't touchy feely at all and its all been a huge learning experience even with previous girlfriends. With a new person I tend to under-touch perhaps.
How important is hand holding? I felt perhaps, the touching was impersonal like if you sat next to a person on a bus. Anyway, this area is so fraught for me -any comments welcome.
I would have liked to kiss her properly tonight. Anyway, any advice for more experienced daters welcome.
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