Last night I had a date with a Russian 9. When I say 9, I mean model beautiful. Magazine cover beautiful. The kind that was turning head after head even on South beach. I closed, but after one of the most challenging dates I’ve arguably ever had.
Here is what I gathered from our date:
Disclaimer: Most of these things MAY NOT work on American girls. They don’t have the intellectual capacity, or are too shallow to fathom a genuine romantic connection anymore.
RESEARCH: Before dates with foreign women. DO YOUR HOMEWORK. In this case I was lucky to be able to think on my feet and because I’m lucky to have an incredible memory, I could remember poems and literature I read years and years ago. Research things about their culture. Learn a few sentences in their language, memorize the name of a staple dish, and refresh up on the famous artists or writers of their country.
SIMPLE HUMOR: Childish type jokes and humor work wonders. Sarcasm can work but you must be careful how you deliver it.
Examples:
The old trick “oh you have something on your shirt” and then you touch her nose when she looks down.
Role Playing: Example: Joking about riding bears around in the snow in Russia when you visit, and giving the bears vodka for fuel.
Escalation: Youre sitting next to her and you start playing with her hair a bit, or massaging her shoulders. SHIT TEST: Her: “What are you doing??” You: “I think I left a coin back here, I’m looking for it.” <smile> (The key is coming off harmless, most of these girls especially the very beautiful ones will be skittish/reserved)
COLD READING: Maybe this is easier for some, but because of what I do I’m generally good at reading people. By now its more of a warm reading, as you should have enough information to make good enough guesses as to her temperament. Try to look at what she’s wearing, how she carries herself, and her general attitude, demeanor, and whatever information she’s given you so far. If you're struggling, generally use “You’re independent, attentive to detail, cautious but adventurous, and left-brained. She’ll generally ask how you know this or to explain.
Independent- if she’s traveled extensively, her parents are divorced/separated, she knows more than one language, enjoys doing things alone
Attentive to detail- make a comment about her style, or what she’s wearing and how it matches/works with another thing she’s wearing. Extrapolate this to how she orders a drink, or food, etc.
Cautious but adventurous: She was Russian so I was getting the vibe that she was testing me on a few actions/questions. This works on any girl and you can adapt to the situation. Even engage the hamster: "You were cautious coming her tonight, but there's a saying, (even better if delivered in russian) he who doesn't risk, doesn't drink the champagne."
Left brained:
Perform some Tests: (This works well for compliance as well)
Ask her to cross her arms. If the left arm is on top, she’s left brained. If right, right brained. I’m not even sure if this is correct or not, but again you can make up the characteristics for each.
Ask her to look at her nails. If she fans her hand out, she’s more feminine and artificial, cares more about herself. If she uses a closed fist and curls her fingers in, she’s more masculine and genuine. Cares more what people think.
*Bonus Points if you can guess if she’s right or left handed based upon how she holds her drink, or uses her phone etc.
**Double Bonus Points if you use some third party you people watched and cold read and make up a funny/ridiculous story about what they do, who they are etc...
FAMILY STORIES: Have a canned family story about how your parents met, or about a family member and you that is funny, but also shows a soft side. The more romantic the better. She will subconsciously draw parallels and yearn for that type of happenstance and destiny. This also gives you trustworthiness and credibility. She gets some insight to who you are as a person, and where you come from.
3 QUALITIES: Ask her about 3 qualities about herself she wish she could change, or that are negative. Careful with this one, I can see it working better on American girls if they are acting kind of conceited or attention whorish. This works to break down the wall a little bit, and the more fun you have with it the better.
ARTS: This girl really challenged me here. I had to really dig deep to keep up with her. European education is so much better than American it is incredible. I found myself discussing Russian Artists and Poetry with her. I remembered a painting my parents had in the living room when I was 13 that was a Marc Chagal copy, and I did my best to remember some concepts from art school (I went for a summer when I was 14). She was reciting Pushkin in Russian and translating for me. At the end of this she said “I’ve never had such deep conversation with someone before, you’re so different."
MUSIC: Often these foreign girls love the local music scene. Showing some knowledge about this can be crucial. Even better if you play an instrument. Make sure to drop it subtly.
Her: What kind of music do you like?
Me: Depends, if I can play it, I usually like it…<smile/wink>
Pictures on your phone of your guitar help even better.
BE A GENTLEMAN: Take your jacket put it on her shoulders when you go on a walk to change venue, or for escalation. Walk arm in arm. They prefer this over hand in hand generally. Its less committal, and its more European.
COMPLIMENTS: I may get slack for this, but I MYSELF couldn’t believe some of the things that were coming out of my mouth. After she’s laughing: “No, but seriously, <look her in the eye>, I’m really enjoying your company and our conversation.”
The old saying “Tell a beautiful girl how smart she is, and a smart girl how beautiful she is” rings very true here. After she tells you something that you think merits bonus points.
You: “Its so refreshing to have an intellectual conversation with someone who looks like you…”
Her: “Looks like me??!!”
You: “Yeah, you’re like one of those (insert whatever cute furry animal), so curious you’re cute.”
If you're doing this right, you should feel almost conflicted that you're creating such a powerful connection, but at the same time doing it only to get what you want.
Here is what I gathered from our date:
Disclaimer: Most of these things MAY NOT work on American girls. They don’t have the intellectual capacity, or are too shallow to fathom a genuine romantic connection anymore.
RESEARCH: Before dates with foreign women. DO YOUR HOMEWORK. In this case I was lucky to be able to think on my feet and because I’m lucky to have an incredible memory, I could remember poems and literature I read years and years ago. Research things about their culture. Learn a few sentences in their language, memorize the name of a staple dish, and refresh up on the famous artists or writers of their country.
SIMPLE HUMOR: Childish type jokes and humor work wonders. Sarcasm can work but you must be careful how you deliver it.
Examples:
The old trick “oh you have something on your shirt” and then you touch her nose when she looks down.
Role Playing: Example: Joking about riding bears around in the snow in Russia when you visit, and giving the bears vodka for fuel.
Escalation: Youre sitting next to her and you start playing with her hair a bit, or massaging her shoulders. SHIT TEST: Her: “What are you doing??” You: “I think I left a coin back here, I’m looking for it.” <smile> (The key is coming off harmless, most of these girls especially the very beautiful ones will be skittish/reserved)
COLD READING: Maybe this is easier for some, but because of what I do I’m generally good at reading people. By now its more of a warm reading, as you should have enough information to make good enough guesses as to her temperament. Try to look at what she’s wearing, how she carries herself, and her general attitude, demeanor, and whatever information she’s given you so far. If you're struggling, generally use “You’re independent, attentive to detail, cautious but adventurous, and left-brained. She’ll generally ask how you know this or to explain.
Independent- if she’s traveled extensively, her parents are divorced/separated, she knows more than one language, enjoys doing things alone
Attentive to detail- make a comment about her style, or what she’s wearing and how it matches/works with another thing she’s wearing. Extrapolate this to how she orders a drink, or food, etc.
Cautious but adventurous: She was Russian so I was getting the vibe that she was testing me on a few actions/questions. This works on any girl and you can adapt to the situation. Even engage the hamster: "You were cautious coming her tonight, but there's a saying, (even better if delivered in russian) he who doesn't risk, doesn't drink the champagne."
Left brained:
Perform some Tests: (This works well for compliance as well)
Ask her to cross her arms. If the left arm is on top, she’s left brained. If right, right brained. I’m not even sure if this is correct or not, but again you can make up the characteristics for each.
Ask her to look at her nails. If she fans her hand out, she’s more feminine and artificial, cares more about herself. If she uses a closed fist and curls her fingers in, she’s more masculine and genuine. Cares more what people think.
*Bonus Points if you can guess if she’s right or left handed based upon how she holds her drink, or uses her phone etc.
**Double Bonus Points if you use some third party you people watched and cold read and make up a funny/ridiculous story about what they do, who they are etc...
FAMILY STORIES: Have a canned family story about how your parents met, or about a family member and you that is funny, but also shows a soft side. The more romantic the better. She will subconsciously draw parallels and yearn for that type of happenstance and destiny. This also gives you trustworthiness and credibility. She gets some insight to who you are as a person, and where you come from.
3 QUALITIES: Ask her about 3 qualities about herself she wish she could change, or that are negative. Careful with this one, I can see it working better on American girls if they are acting kind of conceited or attention whorish. This works to break down the wall a little bit, and the more fun you have with it the better.
ARTS: This girl really challenged me here. I had to really dig deep to keep up with her. European education is so much better than American it is incredible. I found myself discussing Russian Artists and Poetry with her. I remembered a painting my parents had in the living room when I was 13 that was a Marc Chagal copy, and I did my best to remember some concepts from art school (I went for a summer when I was 14). She was reciting Pushkin in Russian and translating for me. At the end of this she said “I’ve never had such deep conversation with someone before, you’re so different."
MUSIC: Often these foreign girls love the local music scene. Showing some knowledge about this can be crucial. Even better if you play an instrument. Make sure to drop it subtly.
Her: What kind of music do you like?
Me: Depends, if I can play it, I usually like it…<smile/wink>
Pictures on your phone of your guitar help even better.
BE A GENTLEMAN: Take your jacket put it on her shoulders when you go on a walk to change venue, or for escalation. Walk arm in arm. They prefer this over hand in hand generally. Its less committal, and its more European.
COMPLIMENTS: I may get slack for this, but I MYSELF couldn’t believe some of the things that were coming out of my mouth. After she’s laughing: “No, but seriously, <look her in the eye>, I’m really enjoying your company and our conversation.”
The old saying “Tell a beautiful girl how smart she is, and a smart girl how beautiful she is” rings very true here. After she tells you something that you think merits bonus points.
You: “Its so refreshing to have an intellectual conversation with someone who looks like you…”
Her: “Looks like me??!!”
You: “Yeah, you’re like one of those (insert whatever cute furry animal), so curious you’re cute.”
If you're doing this right, you should feel almost conflicted that you're creating such a powerful connection, but at the same time doing it only to get what you want.