Quote: (10-09-2012 03:58 AM)RichieP Wrote:
I would start with friends and money. Sure go out and cold approach a couple nights a week, or if you see a cutie during the day, but friends and money are force-multipliers for picking up girls, if only because they put you in a much more stable, positive headspace. When you have a comfortable monthly income and solid friends to go out with, getting girls is sooo much easier than if you're couped up alone all week or worried about whether you can afford to eat and pay rent.
For me, income wise, Im hammering internet business and online freelancing. Which is really just about picking what service you want to offer, then learning a shitload about how to market + sell + getting clients + delivering.
Making money totally depends on what you're drawn to, your skills, strengths, etc etc. Gotta go the path thats right for you.
For meeting friends:
-Couchsurfing
-Sport or martial art or hobby
-Meetups for niche groups or hobbies you're interested in - e.g. meetup.com
-Classes - language, cooking, whatever
-Club /Pub crawls / any other structured "night out" events. Find listings websites and events pages on facebook
-PU forum guys (hit and miss)
The focus should definitely be on friends and money before women.
For a lot of people, friends and money go together since their first circle of friends in a new city may come from their immediate work environment. It gets tricky when your job is more of the freelance variety and you work alone, right?
In that regard, wouldn't you say the first step you should take is to make friends in a new city? The very first step in building a foundation for yourself in a new city should be to make friends who can cut time off your learning curve and help you with adjusting, no? In this thought experiment, you have a few months of savings to fall back on.
So when you're new to a city:
1. Hustle to make friends
2. Through friends, meet other friends, make connections, get jobs.
3. Then use the friends and money from job as force-multiplier for women.
Now the question is, how do you make the kind of quality friends who can help you get set up? Where would you meet them? Maybe this is where Thomas Rhymer's links would come in handy.