[AneroidOcean]

(03-10-2016 11:06 PM)Jtguthrie12 Wrote:  

Well was talking to a girl all day and night on Tinder. Convo got pretty sexual talking about dick size tit size how i would give her pleasant surprises. 1 hour before she is supposed to come she says

"can we do it Saturday instead"

"Why?"

"i'm feeling sleepy lol"

haven't replied yet. should i say something or nah?

First answer should've been, "No"

Second answer should be "No"

This is a bullshit ass flake from her.

[eskimobobseal]

If she's offering another day to meet I wouldn't next her, she could be genuinely tired. My sex drive plummets if I get sleepy.

[Stimulus]

^
I agree. Lock her in for saturday and tell her she's gotta make up for the time you lost because of her flaking.

[future]

So I met this girl on Wednesday, took her for an instant date, chatted for about an hour, ended with "let's go out for a drink sometime"... she said "sounds nice, call me!"

Called her y'day, she sounded excited on phone, set up a date for today. Texted her with time and venue this afternoon. No reply. Called her around 5pm. No answer. WTF.

[ksbms]

(03-13-2016 05:57 PM)future Wrote:  

So I met this girl on Wednesday, took her for an instant date, chatted for about an hour, ended with "let's go out for a drink sometime"... she said "sounds nice, call me!"

Called her y'day, she sounded excited on phone, set up a date for today. Texted her with time and venue this afternoon. No reply. Called her around 5pm. No answer. WTF.

That's why it's better to stick to 10min-15min mark interaction. Otherwise too high an opportunity cost you could've devoted in getting more numbers.

[Suits]

(03-13-2016 05:57 PM)future Wrote:  

So I met this girl on Wednesday, took her for an instant date, chatted for about an hour, ended with "let's go out for a drink sometime"... she said "sounds nice, call me!"

Called her y'day, she sounded excited on phone, set up a date for today. Texted her with time and venue this afternoon. No reply. Called her around 5pm. No answer. WTF.

This is why we need a female president.

[Suits]

(02-20-2016 01:01 AM)Vincent Chase Wrote:  

I'm actually "dating" a 21 year old Chinese girl (8) also from online but she's in China at the moment.

Could you PM me her phone number?

Thanks in advance.

[Mercenary]

(03-14-2016 05:18 AM)Suits Wrote:  

(03-13-2016 05:57 PM)future Wrote:  

So I met this girl on Wednesday, took her for an instant date, chatted for about an hour, ended with "let's go out for a drink sometime"... she said "sounds nice, call me!"

Called her y'day, she sounded excited on phone, set up a date for today. Texted her with time and venue this afternoon. No reply. Called her around 5pm. No answer. WTF.

This is why we need a female president.

(03-14-2016 05:23 AM)Suits Wrote:  

(02-20-2016 01:01 AM)Vincent Chase Wrote:  

I'm actually "dating" a 21 year old Chinese girl (8) also from online but she's in China at the moment.

Could you PM me her phone number?

Thanks in advance.

Damn Suits !
You are on fire today !! Killing it all over the forum!
Mad respect !

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[trainwreck]

Just got flaked on by a lithuanian. She said she didn't have time and was stuck at uni yesterday, 45mins before the meetup and suggests today as alternative. Ok, it's exam time, no big deal and she suggests a different time. today, she texts me saying that she forgot a friend is organizing a party at 8pm and flakes on me 2hrs before this whole thing, saying "i'm sooooo sorry, I will make it up to you!"

F D B

[XPQ22]

(03-13-2016 05:57 PM)future Wrote:  

So I met this girl on Wednesday, took her for an instant date, chatted for about an hour, ended with "let's go out for a drink sometime"... she said "sounds nice, call me!"

Called her y'day, she sounded excited on phone, set up a date for today. Texted her with time and venue this afternoon. No reply. Called her around 5pm. No answer. WTF.

I've been noticing this more often, in fact I think it's becoming the primary type of "flake" that I get here in the US.

I don't get hit with an excuse or anything, I just get ghosted on the day of the date, or the girl fails to arrive.

Anyone else noticing this? If it keeps up this thread will become irrelevant, as there will be nothing to post.

[Roardog]

In BKK and got flaked on tonight by a Thai girl.
She approached me wanting to meet today, we organise to meet at 6 as she is out shopping and doesn't want to go home and come back out again. We confirm this an hour before we're supposed to meet. 15 minutes past our schedule meet time she texts me saying she got hit by a taxi and can we meet tomorrow instead. Thankfully I had arranged to meet at my hotel so I wasn't put out much.
Thai girls in BKK are so flaky, good thing I'd double booked her.

[InsertNameHere]

Met a French girl at a party 2 weeks ago, approached her as she sat near me. Turns out she already knew of me through mutual friends, was very 'on.' I had other obligations that night so I didn't pursue. Went to her birthday party last weekend, had a good time, built a solid connection. Patiently ignored about 5 thirsty dudes throwing themselves at her, she kept coming back to me.
Bounced her to one of my favourite joints, a hidden lounge bar, made a connect there who invited us to an after-hours party at an art studio. She ate it up, but we left too late to do anything.
Made plans to cook dinner together, again she seemed 100% 'on.' Just sent me a message that she wants a raincheck, 'something came up.' No explanation, no proposed alternative date.

Next.

[SomeFcksGiven]

What's the general consensus been on how to reply to flakes?

I'm still making my way through the thread, there's a lot of posts to catch up on.

Just got flaked on today by a tinder match. "hey I'm not going to be able to make it tonight because I have so much homework to catch up on. Can we reschedule"

Since she offered to reschedule, I was thinking of replying with "another time then"

But I'm also tempted to just ignore her altogether. Thoughts?

[General Stalin]

Your response to flakes has a lot to do with your personal intent and amount of desire.

These days when a girl flakes on me I just cut all contact. I also invest incredibly little in the lead up too which likely has a little to do with it.

XPQ22 Wrote:

I've been noticing this more often, in fact I think it's becoming the primary type of "flake" that I get here in the US.

I don't get hit with an excuse or anything, I just get ghosted on the day of the date, or the girl fails to arrive.

Anyone else noticing this? If it keeps up this thread will become irrelevant, as there will be nothing to post.

Yes.

Girl cold messaged me a little over a week ago on OKC. I move her to text and we chat a bit. Ask her schedule and we agree to meet up Tue night. She asked me what I was doing and I texted her a pic of the city skyline view from a rooftop bar I was at. She texts back "Pretty!" I haven't heard from her since. Granted I did not text her the day of the date to "remind" her or set a place/time. I left the onus on her to ask and she didn't so whatever. 6/10 "dog mom." Don't care.

A couple months ago another girl cold messaged me on OKC. Cute artsy chick seemed real full of herself about her artwork. Snarky alternative type. We made plans one night to meet up at a bar. I text her telling her I'm going to be 15 min late - no response. Was going to leave it at that but I was feeling thirsty so I restart-text a week later. Tells me her phone broke lost contacts yadda yadda so we set up another date the following Wed. Datenight comes and I text her. No response had to send a "?" hours later and I get a "sorry phone was off!" (lol) ask her whats up says she tells me she's working on some painting and texts me a picture of it to show off/get validation (it's 8:00pm). I never responded. 7/10. Don't care.

Flew back East for the holidays to visit family/friends and as luck would have it, a real cute 19 year old FB I had before I moved hit me up a couple weeks prior to catch up and ask how I'd been. Told her I was coming her way in a couple weeks and will catch up in person. She is down. I fly out there and we text about plans. One night we are planning to hang and she bails saying the roads are too scary to drive on (). I text her a couple days later asking her what she was up to. No response. She just texted me again about a month ago "Hey GS, how is everything?" Ignore. 7.5/10. Don't care.

Females are putting less and less investment in shit, mainly because they don't need to.

[Suits]

Saturday night, this OKCupid girl didn't respond to the 9AM text I sent to confirm our 6PM meeting.

Previously, all her messages had been along the lines of "I'd love to."

At 5:40PM, she finally responded and explained that she hadn't gotten back to me because she had been watching a movie.

But, she also couldn't meet any more because of her strict family.

I politely told her that I only date reliable women and that there wouldn't be a reschedule.

[DrCotard]

I have a recent flaking story:

I started talking with a girl on POF 5 days ago. The convo was very good. I sexualised a little the convo to show my intentions. Suddenly she stops messaging. I don't restart the conversation. 2 days later I was cheking the "Who's online" option of the App, and I saw her connected. 1 hour ago I checked my inbox and she deleted her POF account.

Maybe she was pissed of my loss of interest on her but who cares . It's good to have an abundance mentality.

In my beta days I was worried when a girl suddenly stopped writing me, but now I swiftly delete her number/ block her on dating apps/ unmatch on Tinder thanks to that positive mindset.

[Jtguthrie12]

Met a girl at a party, it went well she gave me her number etc. she lives in my apartment complex. We were going to drink champagne at night it was planned all day and she wasnt bailing on any of my texts she used emojis was receptive etc. said over and over she was coming. but was taking fucking forever. i teased her about it she joked back.

i eventually got fed up and sent her an meme that said "when girls say they are almost ready" and shows a skeleton.

she texts back "lololol i have been watching movie trailers with my roomates I'm sorrry!" I said
"Well now you have to make it up to me"

She saif "I can do that winky face"

If she is so excited to chill why did she bail.

and where do i go next. grr

[Belly]

1. Street stop + Number close
2. Goes on first date, lots of rapport/comfort building.(No Kiss/Bang)
3. Back and forth banter texting leading up to second date
4. Shoots confirmation text hour before date and......

3 days ago:
Her: " *inserts generic excuse*, can we take a rain check? sorry /:"
Me: Cool, no worries.
*silence*

Restart text? If so, how would you go about doing so?
Also, any advice/threads on extremely outspoken intelligent chicks? (Think reading Ayn Rand, and Nietzsche in 5-6th grade)

[Jtguthrie12]

update she bailed first night i gave her teasing shit for it tonight made her realize why she fucked up then seduced the fuck out of her.. She wasnt willing to go all the way so i flipped the script and made her dripping and left her wanting more instead of vice versa.. muhaha hanging out again tomorrow

[XPQ22]

It's been a very flakey week for me so far. Flaked on four times since last Monday, once 20 minutes before the first date.

26 year old med student - flaked out right before the date saying she had a migraine. I had to resist with all my strength the urge to text back immediately "Maybe you should see a doctor about that."

33 year old single mom - ghosted on me the day before the scheduled meetup.

27 year old librarian - date scheduled for tomorrow, texted me this afternoon saying she had a "work thing" she forgot about tomorrow night. No alternate offered.

23 year old student - told me that she found out about an exam coming up and had to buckle down studying. No alternate offered.

Online dating paid some great dividends in February and early March, but I'm back in a slump. Not much on offer but flakes and serial daters.

[Kid Twist]

Do you guys ever consider re-opening a girl who flaked a while back, but it's been 3-4 months so you just try to send a text to see if anything has changed? Or done-zo?

[LongDongSilver]

What could it hurt ? It takes five seconds to shoot a text out you might as well.

[Tapestry]

Met an 8 in the wild. Gave her my number. She texted the next day. Light texting for two days, then a same day meet up which she accepted. Lasted just a little over an hour. Culminates in a couple makeout/light groping sessions. She suggest plans for the next day. Next day, no response, two texts sent. Looking back, it's likely she was just a tease. I bought the whole call it a night early because she had work the next day excuse. Probably because she did have an actual job unlike many I meet. But if she was really interested at that point getting up for work would have been the last thing on her mind. Next.

[YoungAngel1]

Just got flaked on by a Columbian 6. We were making plans on what to do earlier today, and all of a sudden she just stops responding. She's done this shit before, and blamed it on her sister getting into a car accident. This was the last straw for me. Honestly, sometimes I feel as if it would be better to just be in a relationship. You don't have to put up with this shit. Now, I have a Saturday night where I'm doing nothing.

[PapayaTapper]

(04-07-2016 03:22 PM)Tapestry Wrote:  

Met an 8 in the wild. Gave her my number. She texted the next day. Light texting for two days, then a same day meet up which she accepted. Lasted just a little over an hour. Culminates in a couple makeout/light groping sessions. She suggest plans for the next day. Next day, no response, two texts sent. Looking back, it's likely she was just a tease. I bought the whole call it a night early because she had work the next day excuse. Probably because she did have an actual job unlike many I meet. But if she was really interested at that point getting up for work would have been the last thing on her mind. Next.

First suggestion: do not make out with a girl unless you are in a place you can bang her too.

Second suggestion: Read Tuths New First Date Recipe

Read the whole thing (and thank Tuth later) but here's a relevant excerpt:

Quote:

Tuthmosis wrote Step 4. Absolutely do not kiss her. Do not, I repeat, go for the make-out at the venue.
This is the counter-intuitive part. There will be a logical time where it seems like you should, and could, go for the escalating make-out. Ideally, this will be around the time you've finished off a slow-paced first round of drinks. If you've played your logistics correctly, you will have settled your tab (by not opening one in the first place) on the first round, so you're free to leave the venue at any point.

But don't kiss her. You should imply (physically) that you might be starting to want to, but "haven't decided yet." This means giving the subtle physical cues--like the ever-so-slightly lingering eye contact above--not some sort of overt act. She'll likely be giving you some of her own cues that she's down, but don't do it. Of course, don't avoid it pussy-like, like you're scared to do it, but like you're steadily being won you over. Keep in mind that you're being gregarious and touchy the whole time, not awkward and uncomfortable. This is very subtle physical communication, but being in that state-of-mind will help to convey this emotion.

At around the 60 to 90-minute mark, I say something like, "hey, let's do round two somewhere else." You may get some, "I have to work (or class) the next day" resistance, that's why it's important to do it on the early side, since this early in evening, it's still too early to raise this concern. She can't argue with you.

This--if I haven't already done so--is where I suggest that we go to my place, so I can "make her that drink" or whatever bachelor-pad bait I've used that night. What's more, "I live pretty close from here anyway." She knows that I'm going to try something, because I've done everything in my power to subtly suggest it, but she can reasonably expect that that's going to be merely making out. A little private make-out session probably sounds good (and safe) to her, so she's more-than-likely going to be down.

This is where not spending your make-out token plays a big part. She has iron-clad plausible deniability that all you're looking for is a private place to make out with her, that's all. Because nothing's happened so far, she feels a lot less committed about going over to your place than if you'd already made out and the next thing on the escalation hierarchy has to be sexual.

Because you've been charming and cool, you don't seem like a chump who can't put it down either. She wants to make out with you and recognizes this is her chance.

Youre welcome