[BronzedAussie]

When you start sleeping with partnered women, how often do these women try to monkey-branch to you and establish something serious?

Basically, what's the ratio of them wanting discreet casual sex vs them assessing you as a candidate as their next boyfriend?

[Montrose]

42%

[Pytonga]

42.3% to be precise

[kinjutsu]

Never. Because i dont come across as a provider type of guy. I'm here for the fun if she was looking for something more she should never consider me as an option.

[Jetset]

Most I've been involved with had some kind of fantasy scenario in their head, but were never going to act on it.

[standard]

Agree with Jetson. Sometimes, they try to swing really hard, other times they get depressed about knowing its futility, and others are have just accepted the fact of their status.

More of a gradient spectrum.

[kaotic]

There's a problem with your thinking.

A women who cheats on her man with you isn't worth dating at all.

They'll do to you what they did to him.

Her actions have already spoken louder than her words.

[Dr. Howard]

There are two scales of 'partnered'

If you are sleeping with a girl that has a boyfriend she will definitely try to monkey branch to you as that's how she has probably changed boyfriends her entire life.

If you are sleeping with a girl that is engaged or married, you are more likely just a jumping off point for her to enter a few years of being a turbo slut. A newly single woman does not want to shut down her whore escapades so soon after leaving a committed relationship. She wants to re-invent herself entirely while sleeping with many men.

I'm also not familiar with 'discreet casual sex' with a woman who is in a relationship. It is more like 'escalating, high drama sex' that results in her getting caught, upgrading to another adulterous relationship or being proposed to/married by a boyfriend trying to lock her down.

Cheating is like a strong drug. You either do it once and think 'oh, that was a bad/crazy experience. I feel awful and don't want to do that again' or its like 'that was the best rush ever, I cannot wait to get my next fix'. This is also why having a 'real' relationship with a girl whom you met via cheating is not great. The relationship is never as exciting as it was during the cheating phase and they are left struggling to chase that initial high...which can only be gained again by cheating with someone else.