Quote: (02-11-2015 08:07 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:
@Sharkie
What have you learned from this situation?
What can you generalize about man/woman interactions that will help you in the next situation?
WIA
EDIT -- time ran out, apologies for the double post
A few things actually.
1-
There is no such thing as a free meal.
You cannot go at it with multiple girls and expect your main to be fine with it. Over the short term, maybe. But there is a limit. Eventually, it is going to chafe at the relationship and break it down. You cannot get into an LTR with such a girl, because it is eventually going to pop up. Dread game has its limits with normal girls.
2-
You cannot reform someone once they start going down a certain path.
Frame may be everything in short term relationships, but in LTRs, there are many more factors that come into play, and one would be wise to acknowledge that not everyone stays / grows the same way.
3-
No girl is "different"
There are similar patterns many of them follow, and the sample size that are the collective experiences of so many men on the forum is too large to not apply to any random girl. -- I knew this, and yet, in the case of this girl, I suppose I didnt acknowledge it fully. Pedestalizing someone is out of the question, but so is giving them a free pass for transgressions you would ordinarily deem undesirable.
Exceptions may exist, but they make the rule true. Chasing after exceptions is futile, and perhaps as much a function of proximity and fate. Screening can only go so far.
4-
Beyond a certain point, marry or move on.
Always be closing, so to speak. Know when to walk, and act on it.
5-
It takes balls to walk away from something you're used to, but what is objectively right is right.
The most painful thing in the world is not losing the love of your life, its losing the time, energy and emotions you could've invested in something else. This is doubly true for men, whose worth in life is determined as much from their achievements as it is from other things.
6-
Never give in to the feeling that your "game" is indefatigable, even if it yields consistent results.
Because the moment you start believing in its immortality is the moment it starts dying out.
Honestly, Ive come out of this humbled but by no means broken. I suppose atleast I know now truly what it is to have loved and lost. Fire is birthed from experiences such as these, and goddamnit, one day Imma come back to this thread and report how motherfucking good this break was.
I still believe in love, but whatever.
I'd like to hear what you think WIA.