My Red Flags (in no particular order):
- 1) Coloured hair (as in pink, bright red, purple, etc). Avoid these girls unless you want a false rape charge.
- 2) Tattoos. This isn't to say the girl will be damaged goods or even particularly stupid as I've met some smart, wholesome girls who for some reason wanted to get inked up - but it certainly is trashy and is a tell for sluttiness (ie: not relationship material). Piercings too - anywhere other than ears is a bad sign.
- 3) Talks about being raped or assaulted in the past. As a corollary, speaks badly about friends and family as this means she is in perma-victim mode. She's talking to other people like this about you.
- 4) Smoking. Slut tell, as we all know.
- 5) Subscribes to feminist doctrine. This isn't a deal-breaker, as most girls are just pretending to be "feminist" because they want to fit in and they can be easily dissuaded, but dealing with a hardcore Tumblr feminist who believes in crackpot ideas like gender-doesn't-exit, will kill your mood.
- 6) Rarely if ever pays you any kind of compliment even when you pay her one. This speaks to her idea of a relationship being a battleground. She doesn't want to appear vulnerable by saying something nice to you. Very bad sign.
- 7) Makes snide comments to you designed to hurt your feelings. These could often be shit-tests and need to be nipped in the bud, but if they start to crop up 2-3 months into the relationship, after the honeymoon period, you may have a narcissist or damaged girl on your hands.
- 8) Doesn't say "thank you" or send a "thank you" text after a date, especially if you've paid for the date. This speaks to her level of entitlement and lack of a proper upbringing.
- 9) Does anal on the first date and it slides in super easy.
- 10) Typical female behaviour that can reach a tipping point: Nagging, moodiness, emotional instability.